Breakups are hard.
Breakups are difficult.
They are painful and can leave you feeling shattered.
But there’s good news: they can be good for you.
They are opportunities for growth.
You can use your breakup as a motivation to glow up in ways you cannot imagine.
Here are some ways you can take advantage of your situation and learn how to glow up after a breakup.
How To Glow Up After a Breakup
8. Practice self-love
The best way to glow after a breakup is to practice self-love.
But what does that mean?
Self-love is not selfish.
Self-love means being kinder to yourself than anyone else would be if they were in your shoes because everyone deserves kindness and compassion from themselves as well as others.
Self-love isn’t about being perfect, either.
It’s about knowing you deserve more than someone who doesn’t appreciate your worth and treating yourself accordingly by being happy with who you are, i.e., accepting all aspects of your personality.
7. Reflect on the lessons you’ve learned from the relationship
This may sound like a strange thing to do, but it’s actually extremely important.
The best way to heal after a breakup is to use your time wisely and reflect on what went wrong in the relationship and how you can use this experience to grow as a person.
You might not want to admit it, but there are always things that we can learn from our mistakes.
Reflecting on what went wrong in your past relationship will help you identify what needs improvement in your social skills, communication skills, and more. Next time, you will be better prepared for a healthier relationship.
Once you’ve categorized what went wrong and why, it’s important to look at how you can use those lessons to grow in the future.
Reflecting on the lessons you’ve learned from your last relationship is a good way to start being positive and to help you move forward into a brighter future.
6. Boost your self-esteem by doing things that make you feel good about yourself
You can’t glow up after a breakup if your self-esteem is in shambles.
Glowing up isn’t just a physical thing; it’s from within.
Real glowing up radiates from within.
So, it’s crucial to be dedicated to boosting your self-esteem.
Acknowledge what you’ve accomplished so far and how far you’ve come, and remind yourself that you are worthy of love and happiness.
See, it’s easy to feel like the worst version of yourself when you’re going through a breakup.
Take care of yourself by eating well and exercising regularly, even if it’s just going for walks.
Surround yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself, like friends or family members who will listen without judgment when you need to talk about what happened.
Read books on self-development because knowledge is vital to improving your self-worth.
Breakups are tough, but they don’t have to be the end of the world.
5. Cut off contact with your ex at least for a little while
Don’t be tempted to re-establish contact with your ex, their friends, or family members.
This is an important step in getting over a breakup and glowing up.
It helps prevent a relapse of the relationship and returning to the place of pain.
Don’t expect to heal in a place where you were broken.
It’s also recommended that you cut off all communication with your ex’s pets if they have any, or at least keep it minimal.
While this may seem harsh, more attachment between the two parties can ultimately lead back to dating again…and again…and again…
4. Focus on the other areas of your life that need attention
If you’re feeling especially sad or upset, it’s hard to focus on anything else.
If you’re having a hard time making yourself do these things because of your breakup, don’t worry about it.
It’s normal for our brains to want us to stay in that state, but we can push through it if we really want.
You’re not going to glow up if you’re still stuck on your ex.
Take some time out from thinking about your ex, and try focusing on another area of your life that needs attention.
It could be your job, changing your career, getting a promotion, reconnecting with old friends, decluttering your wardrobe, repainting your house, or strengthening your relationship with your family.
There are definitely other areas of your life that could use your attention.
You will be surprised at how much better you start feeling once you take action toward changing something else in your life besides obsessing over why they left or who they’re dating now.
3. Start accepting the breakup and healing right away
Accepting that you may need to heal for some time is a necessary step to glowing after a breakup.
You will be sad and angry, and that is okay.
It’s normal to feel this way, even if you weren’t initially expecting it.
It can help to talk about your feelings with someone, maybe a friend or family member who will listen without judgment or anyone who cares about you if you don’t have someone.
If writing helps, then write down what’s going on in your head so you can look back at it later and see how far along in your healing process you’ve gotten by then.
2. Find a new beauty routine that makes you feel better
To glow up after a breakup and break out of the gloom, try adding something new to your beauty routine or trying something different instead.
If you have to, hit the gym or try home exercises to stay fit.
Upgrade your style.
A new look will help you feel good about yourself, which will boost your confidence in other areas of life as well.
You can always find new beauty inspiration on Pinterest or YouTube.
Ask friends for recommendations and advice on their favorite products.
If you can afford it, consult a beauty therapist.
You’ll find yourself glowing, and people wouldn’t help but notice.
1. Don’t rush into another relationship too quickly
If you rush into another relationship right away, it’s likely that the same issues that caused your previous relationship to fall apart will crop up in this new one too.
And then what?
You will be stuck with them and probably even more heartbroken again.
It’s important to spend some time on your own.
Focus on your needs rather than those of anyone else.
Take care of yourself physically, emotionally, and spiritually before you start dating again.
This means working out, eating well, getting enough sleep, being kind to yourself and others around you, and finding ways to connect with God/the universe/the divine/whatever helps you feel centered in a way that works for you.
Find hobbies that help you feel good about yourself because they’re fun.
Try things like painting, drawing, playing music, writing poetry, taking up photography, anything that makes you feel like an artist.
This will help ensure that when you do find someone who makes your heart sing, it will be because they are truly special and not because they are just there at the right moment for you.
And when you come out of a breakup stronger than ever, you will understand what it means to glow from within.
By focusing on your own well-being during this time of transition, you can start to heal from the inside out and rebuild a strong sense of self-love.
The more you practice positive habits like self-care, the better equipped you will be when it comes time to find love again.