So you’ve been trying to get a girl to like you for a while now, and she keeps turning you down.
You’ve tried everything in the book.
You asked her out, took her on a picnic in the park, and invited her to your birthday party, but she was still uninterested.
You got tired and stopped chasing her.
Now she wants you back.
“I stopped chasing her now she wants me back. What do I do?” You’re asking.
I understand how confusing this is.
You’re happy she wants you again, but you don’t want to be a pushover.
Here are some tips on what to do if a girl wants you after you’ve stopped chasing her.
“I Stopped Chasing Her Now She Wants Me”
1. Don’t act too eager or desperate.
We all know that women love confident men who know what they want and aren’t afraid to go after it.
But maintain a balance of interest and effort.
Showing too much excitement or interest can make you look desperate or needy, which can be unattractive and scare her away again.
Yes, you stopped chasing her, but she wants you back, but don’t appear too eager or desperate in your behavior or communication.
Desperate behavior and neediness include:
- Constant texting or calling her.
- Being overly available and making yourself too accessible.
- Showing too much affection or expressing your feelings too soon.
- Being too pushy or aggressive in pursuing a relationship.
- Being too quick to make plans or make commitments.
These behaviors can make it seem like you’re not confident in yourself or respect your boundaries.
Yes, she’s back, but calm down!
2. Ask her what changed.
Asking her what changed after you stopped chasing her can provide insight into her feelings and intentions.
You need to know why she has now expressed interest in you.
You deserve to know why she’s doing the chasing when she initially didn’t give in to your chase.
Be open-minded and prepared to listen to her answer so you can understand her perspective, even if you disagree.
Also, be respectful and non-judgmental when asking her what had changed.
It’s not a crime to have a change of mind.
You don’t have to be annoying about it.
Her answer may not be what you expect or want to hear, so be prepared and stay calm.
It’s not easy to hear that someone doesn’t feel the same way, but take it as an opportunity to learn and grow so you can improve in the future.
3. Be honest with yourself.
Being truthful about your feelings is crucial if she expresses interest in you after you have stopped chasing her.
So, take some time to reflect on your feelings and determine whether or not you still have romantic feelings for her.
If you no longer have romantic feelings for her, be upfront and respectful in your communication.
Let her know the ship of your feelings for her has sailed.
Be kind, understanding, and sensitive.
Even if you no longer have romantic feelings for her, remember she has feelings too.
Be respectful of her emotions and give her the space to process her feelings.
4. Take things slow.
If you decide to pursue a relationship with her, you need to take things slow and start by building a friendship.
Spend time together, go on casual dates, and get to know each other as friends first.
You’ll be able to know each other without the distraction of romance and lust.
Learn about each other’s values, interests, and goals, and build a sense of connection and intimacy.
It will help you build trust and respect and to determine if there is a deeper connection.
Once you’ve established a strong foundation, you can consider moving forward with a more romantic relationship.
But when you move too quickly, you may build a relationship on superficial attraction, which may lead to disappointment and misunderstandings.
5. Share your expectations with her.
Now that she’s come back to you and you’re willing to take her back, what do you want from her?
Communicating your expectations with her will ensure you are on the same page so there won’t be misunderstandings or disappointment in the future.
When sharing your expectations, be clear, direct, and honest.
Communicate what you are looking for in a relationship, what you are willing to give, and what you expect to receive.
Be honest about your intentions and what you hope to gain from the relationship.
They can include:
- how often do you want to see each other,
- what kind of commitment you want,
- and what behavior and level of communication you expect.
You should know her expectations as well.
If you are looking for a casual relationship, and she is looking for something more serious, be honest with each other about what you both want and make adjustments to your expectations if necessary.
There’s no point pursuing her and not letting her know your true intentions.
It’s also pointless for her to return to you and lie about what she wants from you.
By following these tips, you can navigate the situation more effectively and decide whether or not to pursue a relationship with a lady who wants you after you have stopped chasing her.