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20 Deep & Painful Messages To a Cheating Girlfriend

20 Deep & Painful Messages To a Cheating Girlfriend

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When you met your girlfriend and fell in love with her, I’m sure you never thought you’d be searching for ”painful messages to a cheating girlfriend,” but here you are, searching for words to express your pain to the person who caused it.

Cheating hurts. 

Being betrayed by a woman you love hurts.

If you need words to express your pain to a girlfriend who cheated on you, look no further.

You are at the right place.

Here are messages to a cheating girlfriend to give expression to your pain:


20 Painful Messages To a Cheating Girlfriend


”I thought I’d finally found someone who could make me happy. I was sure you were the one until you ruined everything. I’m not angry at you; I’m angry at myself for trusting someone as easily as I did with you. I thought you were different from all the other girls who use guys for their gain. I thought we were on the same page. But apparently not. You’re not a bad person, but man, oh man, do I hate what you did to me.”



”Dear [her name],

I can’t tell you how much I’ve been struggling to find the right words to say to you. I know I need to say something, but I don’t know what to say or how to say it. What happened between us is something that I never expected from you. You were always the one who was so caring and sensitive, so how could you do this to me? I’m not sure if you realize how much pain you have caused me. The worst part about it all is that I have no idea if you are going through the same pain as me because you haven’t shown any remorse. You knew I loved you with all of my heart, but I guess love wasn’t enough for you.”



”Dear Cheating Girlfriend,

You have no idea how much pain you’ve caused me. You have broken my heart and mind. But I’m going to try to forgive you because I know it’s not your fault. The fact is, you are a victim too. You’ve been brainwashed into thinking cheating is OK because you’re unhappy with our relationship and love someone else. But guess what? You’re not the only one who has had those thoughts! I’ve thought about leaving you many times but never did because I loved you too much! I know it’s hard to say this, but I feel you no longer love me. I want us to end this relationship so we can move on with our lives.”

Painful Messages To a Cheating Girlfriend


”Dear [girlfriend’s name],

I don’t know what to say. I’m just in so much pain right now. I feel like an idiot for not seeing this coming and trusting you. You’ve been lying to me pretty much since we started dating. I don’t understand how you could do this to me. How you could go behind my back and have an affair with another man, when I thought everything was going great between us. This is just pathetic!”



Dear [girlfriend’s name],

I’m sorry to say that I’ve discovered that you’ve been cheating on me. It hurts me deeply, and I can’t help but feel like this is a one-sided relationship. Your actions have made it clear that you don’t want to be with me anymore.

I wish you the best of luck in the future, and I hope you find what makes you happy!




I know you cheated on me. I don’t know how long it’s been going on but I’m sure you’ve been sleeping with him for some time now. You must have known that I suspected something because you went to such great lengths to hide what was going on. But now that it’s out in the open, I want to let you know something. I’m not mad at you. You’re my friend and I still love you. The fact that you would cheat on me is sad but it doesn’t change how I feel about you as a person or our friendship. In fact, if anything, this just makes me worry about you more than ever before. If there’s one thing that hurts more than everything else combined, it’s knowing that someone has lied to your face repeatedly over a long period of time when they knew what they were doing was wrong.



”I thought we would spend our lives together, but it turns out that you only wanted me around as long as it was convenient for you. You broke my heart into pieces and humiliated me. How could you do this to me? We’ve been through so much together, yet now it seems like all those memories are nothing more than just a bunch of lies created by our imagination!”



”I hope this message finds you well. I’ve been thinking a lot about us and our relationship lately. I’ve spent the last few days trying to figure out what went wrong, where things started to go south, but I still don’t have any answers. I wish I could say that it was something specific, something that would help me understand why you did what you did, why you cheated on me. But the truth is, it’s not one thing in particular. It’s just everything — all of the little things that added up over time until there was nothing left between us but resentment and apathy. You know how much I love you, right? It hurts that you cheated on me.”

Painful Messages To a Cheating Girlfriend


”Dear Cheating Girlfriend,

I thought I could trust you. I thought you loved me and wanted to be with me forever. I thought we were soulmates. We had a great relationship and life together. You were always there for me and supported me in everything I did. I know times are tough, but cheating is not the answer; it only worsens things. If you want to make things better, give up on him and return to me where you belong. I’m willing to let things go and work towards saving our relationship.”



”I know you have been cheating on me and doing it for some time now. I have been suspecting it for some time but didn’t want to believe it. I kept telling myself that there was no way she could do this to me and that she loved me. But the evidence was too much to ignore, and I had to confront you about it.  I am so hurt right now, and all I feel like doing is crying. You were supposed to be my best friend and someone who would always be there for me, but you decided that sleeping with other people was more important than being loyal and honest with me!”



”Hey, I know you’re going through a lot right now. I know what you did was wrong, but at least you were honest with me about it. That’s more than I can say for other people in my life. If it’s any consolation, I’m not sure if I want to be with you anymore. You’ve hurt me too many times, and it’s just getting worse each time. Each time we get back together, we know it won’t last long until we break up again because of your cheating habits. We’re just going through the motions of being together while hating each other on the inside and wanting out of the relationship because it’s not working anymore. I wish things could have been different, and we could have been happy together forever like we used to be when we first met. But that dream died long ago when you started cheating on me every day and night without remorse for always treating me like dirt!”



”I know that you may not have been the one to take the first step or be the one who initiated everything. But, you are still responsible for your actions. Your actions have hurt me deeply and I don’t think I will ever be able to get over this betrayal. If you really loved me, why would you do this to me? How could you hurt someone you claim to love so badly like this? It’s obvious that you don’t care about me or our relationship at all! I wish we could go back in time and stop this madness before it even started. I would rather have lived my life alone than being cheated on by someone who was supposed to love me unconditionally.”



”I feel so angry and hurt right now. I don’t know what to do. I feel like all the trust, love, and respect we had for each other has been taken away by a stupid mistake you made. I trusted you with my heart, and now it feels like a piece of me is gone forever. You have ruined our relationship, but I still love you very much. I can’t sleep at night because I keep thinking about how much pain you caused by cheating on me with another guy. Why did you cheat on me? What were you looking for that wasn’t there in our relationship? I thought we had something special but obviously not if you could do this behind my back!”




”You broke my heart and I don’t think I will ever be able to trust you again. You betrayed me, your family and our friends. You betrayed everyone who ever trusted you, including me. I was so happy when we got together and now I can’t believe that this is how it ended up. I thought that we were going to be together forever but now I realise that I was wrong about everything.”



”My dear,

You said you love me and will never cheat. You promised that you wouldn’t let anyone else come between us. I believed all your words and trusted them with my heart. I wish I could forget about the past, but it’s hard for me to do so. You can’t imagine how much I miss the days when we were happy together, the times when we were so happy in each other’s company, but now everything has changed, and I feel like I am lost in this world without you by my side. It seems all my love wasn’t enough for you as you decided to cheat on me with another guy.”



”Girlfriend, I am so disappointed in you. I thought we had something special, but I guess not. I feel like you betrayed me in the worst way possible, and I can’t believe you would do this to me. I trusted you with everything, and now it feels like you don’t care about my feelings at all. You lied to me, and it’s hard to deal with that because I thought we were tight. I don’t know what to say or do because nothing makes sense anymore, and I honestly just want to crawl into a hole and hide. It’s sad things turned out this way, but maybe you should figure out what’s really important in life instead of just caring about yourself all the time.”

Painful Messages To a Cheating Girlfriend


”Dear [name],

I don’t know who you are anymore. The girl I fell in love with is gone, and I’m not sure if I can ever get her back. What we had was special, but it has been tarnished by your actions. You chose to betray my trust, which has led to our relationship’s end. I refuse to stay with someone who does not value me or our relationship enough to make me a priority in their life. You have broken my heart, destroyed my trust, and made me question everything I thought we had together. I will always love you, but sadly, I only see you as an acquaintance instead of my life partner.”



”You have hurt me so much that I don’t care about you and your feelings anymore, even if it hurts you. I wish that I had never met you because then I wouldn’t have to feel this pain right now. I wish I could go back in time and stop myself from falling for you. I hope that karma will come back to haunt you one day.”



”Dear [cheating girlfriend],

I am writing to you because I have a question. I want to know if you are happy with your decision to cheat on me. Is it worth losing me for another man? Do you think this will bring happiness to your life? I am not trying to make you feel bad about yourself because I know what has happened cannot be undone. But I want to tell you that cheating is never the right thing to do. It doesn’t matter if it was once or twice; cheating is always wrong because it breaks trust, which is very important in any relationship between two people. I don’t know how long we will stay apart, but whatever happens, I hope that someday soon we will be able to talk about everything openly and honestly without being afraid of hurting each other’s feelings.”



”You cheating on me is not acceptable. You know that I would never cheat on you, so why do you feel the need to do this? I want to know what’s going on with us. If we’re over, let’s end it now and move on with our lives. But if there’s still hope for us, let’s work together to fix this mess and become stronger as a couple.”

Painful Messages To a Cheating Girlfriend


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