Have you ever found yourself completely confused about a guy’s feelings for you?
He acts interested one moment but then distant the next.
Well, it’s very likely that he’s fighting his feelings for you.
It doesn’t matter how long or how short you’ve known a man; if he’s bound to catch feelings, it’ll happen.
But you know, things aren’t always so clear with men.
So, how do you tell the difference between a guy who is uninterested and one who is trying to hide his true feelings?
Read on to find out the signs a guy is fighting his feelings for you.
8 Signs He’s Fighting His Feelings For You
1. He switches from being nice to ignoring you completely
If a guy is interested in you, he will be consistent in his behavior towards you.
But for a guy who is fighting his feelings for you, don’t have the same expectations because his behavior will reflect the feelings he’s fighting.
You may notice that he’s incredibly sweet and attentive one moment, showering you with compliments and making an effort to spend time with you.
In fact, you feel a strong connection and chemistry during these moments, and you are convinced of his feelings for you.
But before you know it, he starts to act distant and aloof, as if you’re not even on his radar.
He might suddenly become less responsive to your messages, cancel plans, or avoid eye contact when you’re together.
It’s like he’s flipping a switch, going from warm and affectionate to cold and distant.
This leaves you wondering, “What’s going on here?”
His shift in behavior is a sign that he’s struggling with his feelings for you.
Really, it’s just a defense mechanism.
Maybe he’s afraid of getting too close or revealing his true emotions, so he creates some distance to protect himself.
All I know is, there’s some struggle there.
2. You catch him looking at you when he thinks you’re not watching
I don’t mean the creepy and stalker-ish type of stare.
He stares at you with admiration and adoration in his eyes.
This kind of stare is too gentle, soft, and innocent.
Why?
It’s because if a guy is fighting his feelings for you, he may struggle with expressing himself openly to you.
Staring at you from afar becomes a way to satisfy that urge to connect without actually stepping into the vulnerability of a full-blown conversation or confession of feelings.
It’s like a silent, unspoken message that says, “I’m drawn to you, but I’m not quite ready to admit it.”
3. He is jealous when it comes to you
How would you feel if you like a guy but you are not in a defined relationship with him, and you see him with other females, maybe even cuter than you?
I don’t know about you, but I’ll be jealous!
So, don’t be surprised if a guy who is fighting his feelings for you exhibits jealousy when he sees you with other guys.
You might ask what right he has to get jealous of you talking to other guys since he hasn’t come clean about his intentions for you.
Well, he’ll be jealous because he’s feeling insecure just at the thought that another guy might steal you away from him before he has the chance to act on his feelings for you.
4. Flirting without commitment
Flirting is a way of expressing feelings, but if you’re with someone who is flirting without any commitment, it means that he’s not sure where his heart lies.
I get it; flirtatious banter is fun.
It keeps things exciting and leaves you both intrigued and interested.
But flirting without commitment will also leave you scratching your head, thinking, “Is this ever going to lead to something more?”
The guy might genuinely like you, but he’s got this mental wrestling match going on in his head.
He’s not quite ready to go all-in because of whatever reasons.
5. Avoiding the “L” Word
If a guy is fighting his feelings for you, he will be careful about saying the “L” word.
Love.
He might talk about how much he enjoys your company or how awesome you are, but when it comes to saying that four-letter word, he’s tight-lipped.
Most men don’t say ”I love you” loosely, so if he isn’t saying it to you, he might not be sure how to feel about you yet.
A guy who isn’t fighting his feelings for you will express them without hesitation.
Even you will know where you stand with him and won’t have to wonder about his true feelings towards you.
6. Keeping You At Arm’s Length
Another sign that a guy is fighting his feelings for you is when he appears to be keeping you at arm’s length.
He will find excuses to avoid spending time with you or will limit the amount of intimacy in your relationship.
You might even feel like he’s pushing you away whenever you try to get close to him.
Spending quality time together is a great way to grow your bond with someone you are interested in.
For a guy who is fighting how he feels about you, you don’t expect him to ruin his effort by doing that.
He will either find an excuse not to spend time with you or keep the conversations short and simple, all so as to avoid getting too close to you.
7. He talks about other women
Contrary to the popular belief that guys avoid talking about other women when they are into someone, they tend to do the opposite when they are fighting their feelings.
This brings to mind my favorite series ”Gossip Girl” where Chuck (Ed Westwick) constantly fights his feelings for Blair (Leighton Meester) by having as many casual relationships as possible.
When your guy is sporting the same behavior, it might be because he’s aware of his feelings and wants to cure them by involving himself with other women.
He is trying to convince himself and you that he’s not interested in anything more than friendship.
7. He treats you like a buddy
Perhaps the most frustrating signal that a guy is fighting his feelings for you is when he treats you like just another buddy.
It’s almost as if he’s trying to prove a point to himself by maintaining an arm’s length relationship with you, that you are nothing special and no different from his other friends.
Unfortunately, this usually means that the only thing getting in the way of your relationship is his own fear of getting too close and being vulnerable.
Yes, he enjoys your company and finds you attractive, but there is an invisible line he refuses to cross.
8. He doesn’t forget the things you tell him
You would think that a guy who is in denial about his feelings for you wouldn’t really care about the things that you tell him.
But, surprisingly enough, this is far from the truth.
Because deep down, he does have feelings for you; it’s natural that he would remember all the small details and stories that make up who you are.
Even if he never admits it to himself or to you, he’s still paying close attention and absorbing everything that you say.
He doesn’t want to forget any of it because, in a strange way, it makes him feel connected to you, even if he’s not ready for the full connection just yet.
These are just some of the signs that a guy is fighting his feelings for you.
There could be many more signs, and it’s not always easy to tell.
But if you’re ever unsure about a guy’s intentions, if you are bold enough, you can always ask him directly.
Who knows?
He might surprise you with the answer.
