It is common to hear people in relationships say things like:
“you are the yin to my yang.”
“you complement so me well.”
“you are the fire to my ice.”
All of these illustrate that their partner is different from them but still complements them.
It is okay for people in relationships to be different.
They can have different personalities, behaviors, and interests.
However, for a relationship to last and thrive, both parties must have sufficient common interests.
All the signs below point out you have nothing in common with your partner.
13 Signs You Have Nothing In Common With Your Partner
1. You Have Nothing To Talk About
One of the signs you have nothing in common with your partner is that you both always have nothing to discuss.
When you are with a person you share interests with, there is always something to discuss, and time is never enough for your discussions.
But with your partner, you will notice that your time together is usually characterized by a heavy silence.
Here is a clear sign that you both have nothing in common.
You may notice this at the beginning of the relationship, but it may be a sign that you should not proceed, or you may notice it years or months into your relationship.
Maybe you had things in common before, but life has changed, and you no longer share those things.
Whichever the case, this silence may be a sign that you do not have anything in common.
2. They Always Fail To Understand You
Another sign you have nothing in common with your partner is that they never seem to understand you.
No matter how much you express yourself, they don’t get you.
It is a frustrating place to be in, but this is the reality.
Because of your different interests, experiences, mindsets, and ideologies, your partner will easily misunderstand everything you do and say and vice versa.
You also do not get them.
You cannot relate to their experiences, what they say, and how they behave.
It does not mean you two are bad people.
It just means that you have nothing in common.
3. You Fight Often
Disagreements are normal in a relationship but when they become too frequent, it’s toxic and unhealthy.
So yeah, another sign you and your partner have nothing in common is you have constant fights.
Couples who have nothing in common often find themselves fighting a lot more than those who do.
This is because they tend to get bored with each other and start looking elsewhere for entertainment.
So, they may take out their frustrations out on one another and fight over petty things like whether or not they should go out for dinner or stay home and watch TV instead.
The fights may not be because either of you has a personal problem.
They may be pointing to the fact that you are too different from each other and you can’t find a common ground.
4. You Do Not Enjoy Each Other’s Company
If spending time with your partner begins to feel like spending time with a stranger, something is wrong.
When you are spending time with someone you love, the last thing that should be on your mind is how soon you can escape and do something else.
While this might happen when you have a lot on your plate, it shouldn’t be frequent.
Spending time with your partner should be fun and exciting.
You should have a lot to talk about and do together.
But this is not the case.
It is because you are two different people with nothing in common.
5. You Prefer Talking To Other People
Another sign you and your partner have nothing in common is that you find yourself gravitating toward other people more than your partner.
When you are with your partner, you have nothing to say and always think about being elsewhere.
But when you’re discussing with other people, maybe friends or family, you are bubbly, excited, and have so much to say.
If you have noticed that your time with your partner is like being with a monk who has sworn to stay silent, and you always prefer spending time with other people, it may be a pointer that you and your partner have nothing in common.
6. You Have Different Opinions About The Future
When you are in the honeymoon phase of a relationship,you probably take the idea of “the future” for granted—like it’s just going to happen.
But having a vision for what your life will look like in five years or ten is actually important for every relationship.
The problem is that most people don’t talk about this stuff with their partners until they’re already in one—and then they get into fights because their visions are so different.
It’s normal to want different things out of life—but if those differences are too large, there will be problems.
Maybe you want to travel the world and your partner wants to settle down with a family.
Perhaps one of you wants to live in a big city and the other would rather live in a small town.
If you don’t have a common vision for the future, it’ll be hard to stay together long-term except one of you is willing to compromise.
7. They Dislike Your Interests And Vice Versa
While it is not expected for a couple to love all the same things or have the same hobbies, you should at least have a few things you like to do together.
So if you and your partner don’t like each other’s interests, it means that you don’t have much in common.
It can also mean that one of you is trying to change the other person—and that never ends well.
For instance, if you’re dating someone who loves watching documentaries and they want you to watch more documentaries with them; but you hate watching documentaries.
They will be disappointed in your lack of interest in learning about different cultures.
It might even end up being a dealbreaker for them.
If that is not the case, it shows you do not have anything in common.
8. You Always Have To Compromise When It Comes To What You Do For Fun
This is similar to the previous point on interests.
If you or your partner always have to compromise when it comes to what you do for fun, you may not have as much in common as you thought.
When you first start dating someone, there are a lot of things that are still up in the air.
You don’t know what kind of music they like, or what kind of movies they’re into.
So it can be easy for both people in the relationship to think that they’re going to have similar interests in these areas.
But once you get into a more serious relationship and start spending more time together, those little differences become more apparent—and sometimes, one person just isn’t interested in doing something the other person enjoys doing.
Compromise is great, but it’s not the same as having a shared interest.
If you’re always trying to get your partner to come along with you on things they don’t like—or vice versa—it’s not going to work out in the long-run.
The best relationships are built on shared interests.
9. Your Friends Say You Two Are Like Night and Day
They say opposites attract, but that doesn’t mean that you should be with someone who is completely different from you.
If your friends say that you and your partner are like night and day (and not in a good way), it’s likely that you have nothing in common with your partner.
Your friends know you, and they are not in love like you, so it makes sense to listen to them.
10. You Never Fight About Anything
This can be a good thing, but it could also mean that you’re not able to communicate effectively enough to get through the hard times.
I know I said constant fights might be a sign that you have nothing in common, but so is the exact opposite—never disagreeing about anything.
11. They Do Not Get Along With Your Family
Some people may fight and argue with their partners, but they still have a great relationship with their partner’s family.
Yet, in your case, you may notice that even with your partner’s family, it is hard to get along.
You always step on their toes, and they do the same.
And the worst part is that your partner hardly ever defends you.
It is a sign that you both have nothing in common, including love for families.
12. They Don’t Find Your Jokes Funny
If they do not laugh at your jokes, it’s one of two things:
You are not funny, or they do not get it.
Most times, the latter is the case.
They try to laugh out of courtesy if they understand the joke, even if it is not funny.
But they do not understand it.
They can’t relate to the point you were trying to make and probably do not know you are joking.
13. One Of You Is Religious And The Other Isn’t
Religion is a part of people’s lives.
If one of you is religious and the other is not, there is a high chance you both have nothing in common.
Many things people do and the decisions they make flow out of their religious beliefs and practices.
If you have different religious beliefs or one person is not even religious, you are bound to disagree on many areas that have nothing to do with religion.
Of course, it’s possible that one of you could convert at some point—but when it comes down to it, it’s unlikely that you’ll both change enough to find common ground.
If you and your partner are different and have different interests in some areas, there is nothing unusual about that.
Sometimes, two people who like the same things and are in love with each other do not mean they will automatically blend and become the same person.
It is okay to be different in some areas.
However, if you do not agree on anything and have nothing in common in different areas, there is a problem.
Some things must align between you two for you to have a strong and thriving relationship.
It is okay not to be similar in every area.
Still, there is a greater chance of a relationship thriving and lasting when both parties share some similarities across different areas.