Obsession is a strong word many of us don’t feel comfortable using.
However, deep within, many people actually want someone to fall so deeply in love that it appears like they are obsessed with them.
Most of us want to fall deeply in love, just like it is portrayed in the movies.
You want to fall in love with someone who feels just as strongly about you, takes you as seriously as they take themselves, and makes your life journey as easy as possible.
While it is not as easy as the movies depict, it is still possible to experience such a love.
So that you know, what a man finds captivating about a woman may differ.
Come along if you are a lady and have been secretly wondering what you could do to make a man obsessed with you.
I am betting you will find your answers here.
We have taken the liberty of creating an impressive collection of those things that men find deeply attractive enough in a woman to demand obsession.
8 Captivating Things That Make A Man Obsessed With A Woman
Before we begin, though, I must state that you can’t force someone to create non-existent feelings for you.
It will leave you feeling like Will Smith in “Pursuit of Happyness”– constantly chasing happiness but unlike him – never attaining it.
That said, let’s delve into those attractive qualities that men gravitate towards in a woman.
1. Honesty
I am sure you were expecting to see “physical beauty” first.
Physical beauty is great.
It gives an added advantage because it instantly draws eyes to you, but it can’t keep a man hooked.
When a man falls in love with you, he first wants to see how honest you are.
He wants to have a partner he can trust always to tell the truth.
So, it begins with the little things.
How honest are you about yourself and the things you do?
Do you speak candidly about your past or try to gloss things over?
All these matters if you want a man to fall in love with you so deeply that he is obsessed with you.
A man only wants to fall so deeply in love with someone he can trust with his heart.
Before expecting obsession from a man, you have to prove you are that person.
2. Confidence
The first thing to understand about this is that there is a fine line between confidence and arrogance.
Confidence is attractive, while arrogance is repulsive.
So, what is confidence?
Confidence is simply knowing what is right for you and doing it.
Other people do not sway you because you know what you want and go for it.
Note that this differs from refusing advice, especially when they are right.
To truly make a man obsess over you, you must first show him how self-assured you are.
No man wants to obsess over a lady who doesn’t know her own mind.
The fact is a lady who isn’t confident will only end up pining over the man she wants to obsess over her.
3. Authenticity
There is something just so captivating about people who are unapologetically themselves, regardless of what others may think about them.
If you are blunt or witty, you don’t need to change yourself because people frown at it.
I am someone who finds humor in many situations.
I like to joke, laugh, and make other people around me laugh.
In the past, some people have said that it was a real turnoff for them, but I didn’t change because of that.
I kept being myself, and now, guess what?
I still have friends that love me for who I am.
Alright, alright, I don’t think anyone is obsessed with me.
But the fact is, authenticity is attractive.
Your man will be more attracted to you if you behave more like yourself than the person you think he wants you to be.
Don’t forget that rudeness isn’t authentic, and you should do well to change your attitude if you are rude.
“Love and light!”
4. Have standards
The fact that you love a man doesn’t mean you should be the kind of woman who takes anything he dishes out to you.
Having standards is different from being stubborn about things that don’t matter.
In relationships, you should be ready to compromise because no relationship can work without compromises from both partners.
However, you should have principles and values that shouldn’t be compromised and should be communicated to him.
Knowing that you know what you want and won’t compromise it will even attract him further and make him obsess more about you… For two reasons.
First, to break you down and see you compromise your values.
When you don’t, he stays obsessed because he finds your resoluteness fascinating.
5. Be interesting
In the same way, we prefer to see interesting movies and read interesting novels; men are also attracted to interesting women.
If being with you is boring, he will soon get tired of you, especially if he seems to be the only one trying to spice things up.
An interesting woman is equipped to captivate a man and keep him obsessed.
Being interesting doesn’t mean you should do wild things with him; that’s just being wild.
Challenge him mentally and show how versatile your view of the world is.
This serves to endear you to him more.
A healthy sense of humor won’t do you any harm as well.
It will instead do you a whole world of good.
No man wants to explain jokes to his babe; it totally kills the vibe.
Witty women are the actual spec!
6. Look good
Remember when I said that physical beauty isn’t so important?
I meant that it isn’t so significant compared to the abovementioned qualities.
The way you look is also very important.
Caring for your body will help you feel good about yourself and improve your self-confidence.
When a woman is beautiful, she is sure to attract a man.
7. Have a life
You want a man to be obsessed with you and a major part of your life, but the first thing you need to do is to have a life he will want to be a part of.
Being clingy will only make you look obsessed with him.
A friend of mine is in a relationship with this guy, and it’s tough to see them apart.
They are always together, and it got to the point that they broke up but still had to keep the act going because their lives had become so intertwined that they were dependent on each other.
Love may make you want to cling to your partner, but you have to resist that urge sometimes.
It is not an attempt to play hard to get; it’s just a way of giving your partner room to achieve their goals while you achieve yours.
This is why you need to invest in your life, involve yourself in purposeful events, and dedicate yourself to self-development.
You can also spend time with friends and family.
Doing this will ensure that you are not totally dependent on the man and you have other things going on for you.
8. Love yourself
Self-love is one of the best things you can ever equip yourself with.
Love yourself!
Love every one of your perfections and imperfections because loving yourself is the only way you will guarantee that you are treated right in a relationship.
Don’t wait for someone to come and love your “perfect imperfections” for you.
You may not find a John Legend out there.
But when you love yourself, it sets a standard for how you expect to be loved by your partner.
Men tend to treat you the way you treat yourself.
When you love yourself, there are certain things you won’t do or say to yourself, and by extension, a man who loves you won’t do the same to you.
If you want him to be obsessed with you, you must treat yourself as worthy of it.