Seeing how many time-wasters, commitment-phobes, and users are out there, I don’t blame you for being cautious when it comes to men.
If you want a family and you are not into casual flings, it makes sense that you want to know if your man is showing signs he wants a family with you.
While every man/relationship is different, there are some common indicators that can give you a glimpse into a guy’s thoughts and feelings.
We humans are more alike than we are different, so if you see these signs in your relationship, it’s a good bet that he wants to build a family with you.
9 Signs He Wants a Family with You
1. He tells you
Let’s start with the most important and direct sign – he tells you.
If your man is open with his feelings and has openly expressed a desire to have a family with you, there’s no need for guesswork.
Communication is key in any relationship, especially when it comes to important topics like starting a family.
So if your man has told you that he wants to build a future with you and potentially have children, consider it a positive sign.
I know some men who have ulterior motives may tell you what you want to hear, but usually, their actions will not match their words.
So if he is saying all the right things and showing it through his actions (more on that later), then you can trust that he truly wants a family with you.
2. He takes an interest in your family
Within a few weeks of meeting my husband, he asked to speak with my parents.
I stalled.
Then he asked that I speak with his own parents, too, so I could see how serious he was.
That’s when I knew that this man was not playing games – he wanted to build a family with me.
A man who is serious about building a life with you will also be interested in your family.
It’s that simple.
When you marry someone, you marry their family, too.
You become a part of that family.
Marriage is not just about two people, and a man who wants to start a family with you understands this.
So if your man is asking to meet your parents or showing an interest in spending time with your family, it’s definitely a sign that he sees himself as a part of your future family.
3. He prioritizes your relationship
We don’t always know the end from the beginning, but we can usually tell the direction of something by looking at its trajectory.
If you are dating a man and he is inconsistent with his effort, time, and attention towards your relationship, what exactly do you think will happen when you get married?
There’s no magic wand that makes a man suddenly go from being inconsistent to solid as a rock.
No miracle happens on the altar.
Marriage won’t fix anything; it will only amplify what is already there.
An inconsistent boyfriend will make an inconsistent husband.
A man who is making you a priority in his life, even before marriage, is showing that he values your relationship and sees it as a foundation for building a family together.
And the one who doesn’t?
Well, you can’t expect a man who doesn’t value your relationship now to suddenly start valuing it after marriage.
And I hope you know that there’s more to building a family than saying your vows at the altar.
4. He talks about the future with you
When a man truly sees himself building a family with you, his plans for the future will include you.
He will talk to you about his dreams and goals and how they align with yours.
You will be a part of his vision for the future, not just an afterthought.
He will also discuss practical things like where you would like to settle down, how many children you want, and what values are important to him when it comes to raising a family.
Talking about the future together is a sign that he sees you as his life partner and wants to build a family with you by his side.
A man who doesn’t want a family with you will make plans for his future without considering you in them.
He can take a job in a different state or country without discussing it with you or make major life decisions that don’t involve you.
But if your man is involving you in his plans and considering your input, it’s an indication that he wants to build a future with you as a team.
5. He values your opinion
Similar to involving you in his future plans, a man who wants a family with you will also value your opinions and seek your advice.
He will respect your thoughts and ideas, even if they differ from his own.
He will see you as an equal partner in the relationship and value your input when it comes to important decisions, especially those related to building a family.
A man who doesn’t want a family with you may dismiss your opinions or make decisions without considering your thoughts.
He doesn’t want a family with you, so your opinion doesn’t count.
When he meets the woman he wants to share his life with and build a family with, her opinions, thoughts, and feelings will matter to him.
That’s men for you.
6. He is financially responsible
Love is sweet.
And you should absolutely marry because you’ve found the love of your life.
But while you do that, know that it takes money to raise a family.
Running a home, paying bills, feeding your children, and even taking them out on outings – it all requires money.
To know how serious this is, money is one of the leading causes of marriage breakups.
So it’s important to marry someone who is financially responsible and understands the importance of financial stability in a family.
If you’re dating or engaged to someone who constantly spends beyond his means, has a lot of debt, or doesn’t have a stable job, it’s a red flag when it comes to building a family together.
I know you want to know signs he wants a family with you, but even if he does, can he afford it?
This is where I’ll ask you if you even want a family with someone who doesn’t have a handle on their finances or at least is making an effort.
A man who takes his financial responsibilities seriously and is stable in this aspect shows that he is ready for the commitment of starting a family with you.
7. The Domestic Side of Him
Some people may argue that the days of traditional gender roles are long gone, but I beg to differ.
When a man starts showing an interest in the domestic side of things, like cooking and taking care of household chores, it could be a sign that he is ready to build a family with you.
While this isn’t always the case for every man or relationship, many times when a man starts stepping up in these areas, it’s because he sees himself as part of a team with you.
He wants to share these responsibilities and build a home together.
This is not to say that men should only be valued for their domestic contributions, but it’s important to pay attention to this aspect of their behavior when considering building a family with them.
A man who values the importance of taking care of his home and family will likely make an effort to maintain a healthy and happy household, which is essential for a successful family life.
If this isn’t your man, be ready to build the home alone, even if he marries you.
8. He Is Unfazed by Tough Conversations
This is a crucial point I must not forget to mention.
Building a family is not always sunshine and roses; it comes with its fair share of challenges and tough conversations.
Yeah, sweet nothings and romantic dates are all well and good, but can your man handle the difficult conversations?
Can he talk about tough topics without getting defensive or shutting down?
Does he communicate openly and effectively with you, even when it’s uncomfortable?
These are important qualities to look for in a partner before starting a family.
A man who sees himself starting a family with you will be unafraid to have these difficult discussions with you.
He won’t shy away from talking about important topics like finances, child-rearing, or even potential conflicts that may arise in the future.
Because I know that some of these conversations can be scary and daunting, but they are necessary for a healthy relationship and a strong foundation for starting a family.
If he can’t handle difficult conversations, you are looking at a man who may not be ready to take on the responsibility of starting a family or a potentially weak husband!
9. He introduces you to his people
When a man sees you as the one he wants to start a family with, he will want you to be a part of his life in every way.
This includes introducing you to his family and friends.
Not only that, but he will also make an effort for you to get along with them and build relationships with them.
He understands that starting a family means blending two families together and creating a new support system.
If he is serious about building a future with you, he will want your loved ones to be a part of it as well.
So, these are signs a man wants a family with you.
If you see these signs in your partner, then you can be assured that he is serious about building a future with you and starting a family.
To be sure, though, just ask him!