Why should you ask your partner deep questions about yourself?
In every relationship, one thing is certain – the fact that your partner had a life before you came into the picture.
Of course, their lives comprise of the good, bad and ugly, likewise yours.
So, if you’re looking to become more serious and intentional about being with them, you need to get involved in their lives and ask them questions that will help you understand who they are.
It is important to know if you both want the same things in life, are compatible to a great extent and share common interests – these are things that sustain a relationship when the initial lustre is gone.
Also, if you’re married, asking your partner these deep questions about yourself can help you and your partner assess how much they know about you, get to know you more and what makes you tick, and make clarifications where necessary.
So they get to understand and love you more and also be of help where and if necessary.
And oh, it could be a two-way thing here. Let your partner ask you these deep questions too so they can enjoy the benefits of this exercise which have been mentioned above.
Without further ado, let’s take a look at the deep questions you can ask your partner about yourself below :
10 Deep Questions To Ask Your Partner About Yourself
1. What is my deepest heart desire?
Different strokes for different folks, they say.
Depending on your personality and needs, heart desires vary, but none should be seen as less than the other.
While some people desire to love and be loved in return, others desire riches, good health, healthy friendships, financial freedom, or even beautiful relationships.
The list is endless. Having spent some time with you, your partner should have a good idea of what your deepest heart desire is.
2. What is my life’s greatest regret?
This question can be dicey as regrets can stem from different things.
However, real regrets have been associated with bad choices. It may not necessarily be what you chose to do.
Most times, it is the regret of what you chose to not do.
Some choices that give rise to regrets include not saying how you feel, not resolving a feud, not pursuing your passion, among others.
3. What am I most proud of?
This question is aimed at letting you take a quick stock of your life and noting your achievements.
This should be pretty easy for your partner to figure out, as success is relative.
It could be your family, friends, personality or even your job that you’re most proud of.
4. What will be my legacy?
Legacies are essential for you to be remembered when you are gone.
It doesn’t have to be huge; just do the best you can in your own little way.
What do you want to be known and remembered for?
What impact do you want to make? Is your partner aware of this?
5. What do I love to do without being aware of the passage of time?
Passion. That’s the first thing that comes to mind when this question pops up.
When you are doing that which you love, you tend to lose track of time.
Is your partner aware of what you’re passionate about?
6. Who is my role model?
People are influenced and inspired by a role model in some or all aspects of life.
Do you have a role model who your partner is aware of?
7. What is my greatest fear?
Fears are relative in life.
Ranging from the fear of failure, fear of early death to the fear of poverty and more, different people have different fears.
Can your partner conveniently state what your greatest fear is?
8. What gets me really annoyed?
There are different things that can set off your anger alarm and get you really annoyed.
Do you know them? Is your partner in the know and do they consciously avoid getting on your nerves?
9. What is my greatest strength?
One of the biggest favors you can do to yourself is discovering your strengths and harnessing them.
From being disciplined, focused, patient to being creative, there are a lot of strengths inherent in you and waiting to be discovered.
Have you discovered your strengths? Can you say the same about your partner?
10. What is my greatest weakness?
Just like your strengths, you are bound to have weaknesses (things you are not good at).
These may include lack of empathy, greed, and so many others.
You are going to be a lot better when you own your weaknesses and not let anyone use them against you.
That is what it means to be authentic– owning your sh*t.
It’s okay if your partner does not get some of the answers correctly. The purpose of asking these questions is to get to know each other better. You both can seize the opportunity to get more acquainted with each other and move your relationship to the next level.
Wednesday 13th of January 2021
Great read. This is very inspiring content especially now that, thanks to coronavirus, we have been going through the toughest of times. And it's true that understanding and mastering our strengths and weaknesses is key to success in life.