I know I wrote about one thing men want from women.
But that doesn’t mean there aren’t ways every man wants their girlfriend to be the best girlfriend ever.
No matter what a man wants, he wants a girlfriend that he won’t be able to get enough of in these eight ways:
HOW TO BE THE BEST GIRLFRIEND EVER
1. Encourage and support him
Who doesn’t want to be encouraged and supported?
Men have been raised to act and be perceived as strong, but this doesn’t change the fact that they’re human beings too who could use some encouragement and support.
What does your man do? Do you know his passion? Do you know his deepest heart desires? Do you even care about his fulfilment?
He might not be where he wants to be or where you want him to be (yet). That’s why you are there to give him the spur that he needs.
Every man has their fears and insecurities, even if they don’t talk about them.
Encourage him. Motivate him. Be his number one fan. Men love women who do this for them.
You can be a better girlfriend to him this way.
N.B: Make sure what he’s into is legit.
2. Be less dramatic
Don’t be a drama queen.
While being a little dramatic could be fun, overdoing it could be annoying.
You can be the best girlfriend ever by being less dramatic and more understanding.
3. Don’t expect him to be a mind-reader
Man: What’s wrong?
Man: Are you sure?
Girlfriend: I said nothing!
Man: But you said nothing.
If you’re a woman and you’re not guilty of this, then you deserve the award of the best girlfriend ever.
Because we ladies are so guilty of this. I am.
We expect our men to know exactly what we are angry about. We expect them to know what we have on our minds. We expect them to figure it out themselves.
While this is necessary sometimes, it can’t always happen.
We’ve got to learn to say our minds as adults.
Another very important reason men can’t always figure us out is that women could be quite complex.
Sometimes, you think it’s one thing, while it’s something else entirely.
You can be a better girlfriend by being open about your expectations and feelings.
Even as a married lady, I’ve made it a habit to sit my husband down and share my feelings with him instead of giving him the silent treatment for days.
This has greatly improved communication in our marriage. More importantly, I enjoy more peace.
Imagine all the time and energy I’d have spent frowning, ignoring him, and expecting him to read my mind.
Learn to get things off your chest. You’ll even earn his respect this way because you come off as a lady who knows what she wants and doesn’t want.
4. Don’t compare him or your relationship
Men don’t like being compared.
Really, who does?
Some women have the habit of comparing their men to their exes or their friends’ boyfriends.
This is ego-damaging behaviour.
You can be the best girlfriend by understanding that your man is unique and different. He has his own strengths and weaknesses. He can’t be your ex and your ex can never be him.
Your friends’ boyfriends have their own flaws as well.
And you know what?
Your friends won’t tell you. People hardly spread their dirty linen in public.
You only see what they want you to see. You don’t know what goes on behind closed doors.
Stop telling your man to treat you the way your friends’ boyfriends treat them.
“Mary’s boyfriend does this for her”
“Joanna’s boyfriend does that for her”
That’s an indirect way of comparing your man.
You can learn from other people’s relationships but don’t lose sight of the uniqueness of your own relationship.
Tell your man whatever you want him to do for you without playing the comparison card.
5. Get a life
Honestly, this is one of the best ways to be the best girlfriend ever.
Be YOU. Be YOUnique.
Don’t lose yourself in a relationship. Let your man see why you’re the best girlfriend.
And that’s by getting a life and adding value to yourself and the relationship.
When a man sees the value of that you’re bringing to the table, he won’t let you go.
You can trust me on this one.
Don’t just be someone’s girlfriend. Be the best version of yourself. Don’t make your life revolve around a man and the relationship. You’ll choke him by being clingy.
So, get a life, honey.
Have something going on in your life for you aside from being a man’s girlfriend. Set your standards and values. Let him know what you stand for. He’ll respect you for this.
6. Be his friend
Don’t just be his girlfriend, be his friend.
What do friends do?
Friends enjoy each other’s company. Friends play.
Friends care about each other. Friends look out for each other. Friends are understanding and loyal.
Ladies usually assume that a man should be in the relationship for them only.
A relationship is about two people. Not just for one person.
While you expect him to love you, care for you, and surprise you, do the same for him as well.
Men have feelings too.
7. Respect him
Just because he’s your man doesn’t mean he doesn’t deserve to be respected.
Don’t look down on him or talk to him in a condescending manner. Don’t make him feel less of himself by your words.
Encourage and build him up with your words. Your words can go a long way in helping him be the man he should be.
When you respect your man, friends and family won’t have a choice than to respect him.
But if you put him low, friends and family will put him lower.
8. Help him to be a better version of himself
One of the ways to be the best girlfriend ever is to make his life better than you met it.
Even if you two break up, he’ll never forget you because you added value to him in a way no one could.
Be on the lookout for opportunities that could better his life. It could be job opportunities, career development opportunities, meaningful connections that could help him grow.
In fact, you can help him to be a better reader, a more spiritual person, a more reasonable person etc..
This is what relationship is meant for – to add value to each other, and not for incessant romps between the sheets.
A man will not remember the orgasms you gave him but he’ll definitely remember how you helped his life to be better.
So, these are the eight ways you can be the best girlfriend ever to your man.
You can do all of these and a man will still go his own way like the prodigal son.
Don’t worry. Your efforts aren’t a waste. You have nothing to lose by being a good girlfriend to a man.
He’s the one who will lose a good woman. He’s the one who will regret it, not you.
You know people don’t know the value of what they have until they lose it.
Go, girl, be a woman of value. Add value to whoever you’re dating. He’ll never forget you even if you don’t end up as a married couple.
Thursday 23rd of July 2020
As a man I love this. But I miss the point about sex. Don't ever forget the importance of intimacy. If that's not good your relationship will become a brother-sister relationship, which may be the start of the end.
Tuesday 30th of June 2020
Kool!! Do that work 2 ways! Thought so! To be a girlfriend Love have to be present! That’s not to let him hurt in no aspect none!!
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Friday 24th of July 2020
This woman is amazing. I have read so many of her articles and it had helped me a lot. She is wise and i'm glad we had her in this planet to guide us???.
Friday 13th of March 2020
Wow?? this is Awesome
Monday 16th of March 2020