They say men are adventurous and love the thrill of the chase.
Oh well, while some women can sustain a man’s interest in them for as long as they want, some women act in ways that make a man want to pull away from them.
This isn’t to say that men don’t have minds of their own and can’t decide to become disinterested in a relationship for whatever reasons.
However, you’ll know that in this case, their decision has nothing to do with your actions.
But what are those acts of yours that can make him lose interest in being with you?
Below are 6 things that can make a man lose interest in a relationship:
6 Reasons Why Men Lose Interest in a Relationship
1. Clinginess
Clinginess leads to weariness.
If you’re too clingy, you can wear a man out.
When you’re too “all over” him, so much so that you almost cannot be by yourself or do things without him beside you, you’re being too clingy.
You want him to call you every minute, ask if you’re okay every second, you want to see him every day of the week, and become the source of his worry and concern.
If you always want him to yourself all the time, he will feel choked.
While it’s good to fuss over your man or want him to fuss over you, while it’s okay to crave his attention, overdoing it could be annoying.
”You can’t own a human being. You can’t lose what you don’t own. Suppose you did own him. Could you really love somebody who was absolutely nobody without you? You really want somebody like that? Somebody who falls apart when you walk out the door? You don’t, do you? And neither does he. You’re turning over your whole life to him. Your whole life, girl. And if it means so little to you that you can just give it away, hand it to him, then why should it mean any more to him? He can’t value you more than you value yourself.”- Toni Morrison
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Even as a woman, I can’t stand a clingy man.
And I’ve heard a lot of women say the same.
An average woman doesn’t value a man who is all over her and acts like he loves her for a living.
Some men get it all wrong with the ‘women love attention’ piece of advice.
Yes, we love attention, but not just that, we love the right amount of attention.
2. Insecurity
As a lady, you should feel at peace and relaxed when you’re with your man.
If you don’t, then you are probably in the wrong ship.
Apart from the fact that being insecure could make him feel you don’t trust him, it could be so tiring trying to assure you over and over all the time that you’re safe with him, that he’s all yours.
You are always afraid to let him out of your sight, you want him to reassure you of his love every minute, your heart races when he speaks to any lady, even though they’re friends.
You constantly compare yourself to the women in his life, and you wonder if you measure up.
You live in fear that one day you’ll wake up and he’ll be gone from your life.
All these could be so draining, emotionally, mentally, and physically.
While we all have our insecurities, it’s important to remind you that you are enough.
You deserve to be loved and cared for, despite your flaws.
If you are insecure in your relationship, find out why.
Are your man’s actions making you insecure, or do you have some personal issues making you insecure?
Find out and deal with it.
Don’t let your insecurities cost you a good relationship.
3. Possessiveness
No one’s going to take your man from you if he’s truly yours.
A lady who claims ownership of her man, monitors his every move, gets suspicious just because she does not want him to be with someone else, will unknowingly push her man away.
A little possessiveness is fun, but overdoing it sends the wrong signal to a man.
Men get tired when a lady is trying to have complete control over them; this makes them lose interest and walk away.
Cut him some slack, sometimes.
It’s easier to do this when you have a life, not just that, an interesting life.
This keeps a man interested in you and makes him want to be a part of your life because you love your life with or without him.
“When a man sees you are happy with him but you can be just as happy having nothing to do with him, that’s when he won’t want to leave your side.” -Sherry Argov, Why Men Marry Bitches
A lady left an angry comment on my post, How to keep him interested because I encouraged women to get a life and enjoy their life with or without a man.
She said I should get a life because women want different things.
While I understand that we all want different things, I don’t think advising women to have a good life with or without a man is a bad thing.
When women make men/relationship their sole purpose of living, it never ends well.
They usually end up dumped, heartbroken, used, or abused.
I replied to her via email that an article is not for everybody.
Why get angry because a writer didn’t write what you want to read?
Being too possessive shows you’re insecure.
Let the man breathe.
Let him have a life and enjoy a healthy relationship with others.
You’re not the only one he needs in his life.
It’s important that you also take a breather, enjoy a healthy relationship with your family and friends, because you need them.
Your man is not the only person you’ll need in your life.
4. Desperation
I encourage women to know what they want, go for it, and never settle for a time-waster.
However, if you are with a man, especially when you are just getting to know each other, and all you wanna talk about is marriage, marriage, marriage.
Trust me, he’ll lose interest.
Forget the women want love, men want respect mantra we’ve been made to believe.
I’m all for mutual love and mutual respect in any love relationship.
Men want to be loved as well.
They want to be sure you love them and not just the relationship.
They want to be sure you are interested in them and not just interested in being in a relationship.
I understand that it’s hard not to be desperate, especially when age is a villain, but take time to enjoy the relationship and don’t be desperate.
Being desperate isn’t exactly the problem, but what desperation can make you do.
If you think you’ve had enough time together and the relationship should move to the next level, but he’s not saying anything, then he certainly has reasons for not doing that.
Read>> Why He Hasn’t Proposed to You Yet
5. Pretence
One of the qualities of an attractive woman is authenticity – being genuine, being yourself, not trying to impress anyone by being who or what you are not.
Being authentic makes a man love you for who you are.
He’ll know how to love you because he understands the real you and what makes you tick.
If you pretend to be who you are not, and he senses foul play, he might lose interest in you because he doesn’t know the real you; thus, you can’t be trusted.
It’s hard to trust someone who is not comfortable in her own skin.
It’s okay to be vulnerable, but be real.
6. Too pleasing (not having a mind of your own)
Many of us were raised to believe ‘submissiveness’ is the way to get and keep a man.
Well, I think submissiveness is one of the most misconstrued words in the world today, especially when it comes to relationships and marriage.
Being in love doesn’t mean you can no longer form your own opinions about issues.
For crying out loud, you are an adult with a brain and personality.
You have your unique experiences and preferences that make you, you.
You shouldn’t throw all that away and become a clone of a man because you want to please him.
As a matter of fact, real men are attracted to women who are intelligent, who know what they want, and can caution them when they are heading in the wrong direction.
A real man appreciates a woman who can look out for him.
A man is likely to lose interest in ladies who have no mind of their own, who say ”yes” to everything he says, wants, or suggests.
He won’t even trust or respect you because he knows you’ll say ”yes” even if he’s about to make the biggest mistake of his life.
I’m not saying you should be unnecessarily difficult, I’m only encouraging you to be yourself.
Be the unique individual that you are.
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These pointers are interesting. There should be another view of women that are attractive to men and dropped without warning. Confident and comfortable in ones own company seems an issue to many men.
Hmmmm. You are so right. That’s another interesting perspective to be considered. If a man doesn’t love the fact that his woman is confident and comfortable in her own company, then he’s probably insecure or has narcissistic tendencies. Real men are attracted to confident women who have a life outside of them.
Is it normal for engaged man… his friend sends pictures of girl living in home and caring for his friend to keep the pictures? Pictures friend took of her butt and face. Saw him like enlarging pics to get closer look. I told him that’s really rude to not only look at them but than to not delete them. I would never but than my friends would t send pics like that in first place.
Well the same applies to him. He does things that makes me love him less and less.ebbing away at my heart. Soon very soon there will be nothing left. I’m already very used to him not being around. I don’t think I’d even notice the difference if I left him all together.
Oh, so sorry about that. Have you tried communicating with him? If you have and there’s no improvement, then I hope you’ll make the best decision for you.
You are soo right men are really made of steal… They are not easily melted until you are going to ignore them enjoy your own perspective way of life …nothing can change until you ignored them .. They attract when you ignored
After reading this, I find my self too clingy, I have been at her place for a week, she goes to work, while I work from home due to the pandemic. I Actually find my self bored when I am around. I don’t want to choke her, I don’t want to loose her, I want to avoid distance . I also want to be available whenever she needs me . It’s obvious she could go for a day without talking to me, which means she doesn’t miss me even though I miss her after she’s left for work. You have spoken about the ladies chow can you help the guys?
Wow! You are a good man, and you raised very important points. I’ll work on an article for the guys, and I’ll make sure I send you an email to notify you.
You have really helped me, now I know that I have problem, I will try as much possible in order to keep my relationship, cause I really love my man so much and making me all this. Thanks
Is this an actual joke ? Who does that ? Women are are not weak men pleasers I fact most women are more educated and have more potential than most men, in 2020 unfortunately.
Mayb men should step up instead of expect to be looked after
Sighs.
One of the risks of being a content writer is being misunderstood by readers.
Our interpretation of things is usually a reflection of who we are, our experiences, our level of understanding etc.
Just as we (women) have things that annoy us in men and make us lose interest in them, men have theirs too.
How does curtailing your excesses make you a weak men pleaser? How does being clingy, unnecessarily possessive, insecure, desperate, unreal, and annoyingly pleasing make any woman strong?
This article isn’t telling any woman to look after a man but a call for women to have a life and possess admirable qualities.
Romantic relationship aside, many of us wouldn’t want friends with these six annoying behaviors.
It’s important to keep an open mind when digesting a content.
It goes both ways, but this arcticle just happens to be about what a woman can do, not a man, It’s not so much pleasing a man, but adjusting your life to make both of you feel comfortable in the relationship, each individual must put in some effort to create a healthy relationship, I think you misunderstood the pointers that was given. Correct me if I’m wrong Ms.Mabel [I’m 18 by the way]
You are so right and wise, Loralee!
You are 18 and smart. I’m proud of you!
You are so right ! Men who are worth staying with understand women and aren’t selfish or self centered. The pandemic has made this even worse. This article is like something out of the 50s.
Forget him if he thinks he can step all over you and blame you.
Very well then. Go on and be clingy, desperate, possessive, fake, and not have a mind of your own, then you’ll know if a man will still ‘understand’ you.
I have discover my problems. Most times I’m the one that calls, text.vtime to up my game. Thanks alot Mabel.
Awww. So glad you found it helpful!
It goes both ways, but this arcticle just happens to be about what a woman can do, not a man, It’s not so much pleasing a man, but adjusting your life to make both of you feel comfortable in the relationship, each individual must put in some effort to create a healthy relationship, I think you misunderstood the pointers that was given. Correct me if I’m wrong Ms.Mabel [I’m 18 by the way]
That comment was for loralee
Wow. After reading this i have realised that I am clingy. I usually get scared when he is away. And when his phone rings i want to know if it’s a woman or not. Thank you very much. I will learn to change my behavior and attitude.
I have no doubt you’ll have a good relationship. Your willingness to admit your flaws and work on them is impressive!
I admire you.
This is great, but I have met men with these same negative aspects of their character.
So why aren’t there more articles yelling men that these are just as irritating to women?
I have hundreds of male-focused articles on my blog. I bet you haven’t read a quarter of my blog posts. lol
More importantly, as a reader, if you are not open-minded, you will not learn.
This post is for women.
Read it and pick whatever you can from it.