How to get your boyfriend to stop playing video games and pay attention to you…
If your boyfriend loves video games, he will play them often, and there is nothing wrong with that.
People are allowed to like and enjoy doing stuff alone, even when they are in a relationship.
So it is normal for him to need alone time doing something he likes.
It becomes a problem when that is all he does all day or when he gives it all of his attention.
If he pays no attention to you and gives his video games all his time and focus, something needs to be fixed and needs to change.
While you do not want to downplay or ruin his hobby for him, he needs to quit being obsessed and pay attention to his partner and relationship because that is more important.
A relationship where one party places and prioritizes something else above their partner will not thrive.
So if you are wondering how to get your boyfriend to stop playing video games and pay attention to you, your concerns are valid, and we will share a few ways to do that.
How To Get Your Boyfriend To Stop Playing Video Games And Pay Attention To You
1. Respect His Hobby
Before doing anything extreme like yelling or hiding his games, it is important that you first understand that he is allowed to have hobbies especially when it is a harmless one like playing video games.
Respect his hobby and consider the situation well.
Perhaps you are the one taking things too far and it is not that bad.
Try respecting his time alone and allow him to enjoy his game.
Make him see that you respect his hobby and alone time by getting him snacks or drinks as he plays.
You cannot be the object of his attention all the time, he will enjoy other activities, and that is normal.
This only applies when his love for the game is normal and healthy, not when he is addicted or obsessed.
If the latter is the case, keep reading to find out what to do.
2. Talk To Him
If his love for video games is getting detrimental to him, to you or to your relationship, it is time to do something about it, and the first thing to do is communicate.
Speak with him and make him aware of the fact that his gaming habit is unhealthy and detrimental to your relationship.
Hopefully, he is mature and sensible enough to see reasons with you and work on himself, and you do not have to deal with the issue again.
You can further make him understand that if he reduces his game time drastically and focuses on other things, it will benefit him more.
His relationship and other areas of his life will get better.
Plus, if he gets more active and exercises more, his gaming skills will become better due to improved health, reflexes, and focus.
Be honest and open about your feelings and thoughts but be considerate and understanding as well.
Remember that whatever he likes to do is as important to him as whatever you like is important to you, but there can be improvements.
3. Join Him
If you can’t beat them, join them, right?
Perhaps you should develop some interest in his video games and join him in playing them.
You can take it up a bit more by beating him to his own game.
This is going to get his attention and hopefully make him realize his mistakes.
This is another possible solution to the problem at hand.
4. Try To Distract Him
If the games are distracting him from his relationship, maybe it is time to distract him from the game.
Find creative ways to distract him from the game he so cherishes.
It could be by making his favorite snack, introducing another game he likes, watching a movie on Netflix, dressing up and looking beautiful, pranking him, inviting friends over, etc.
Do you know what is more likely to distract your man?
That is exactly what you should do.
5. Hide His Console
This may be the awakening he needs.
When he wakes up, the first thing he begins to do is search for his console, if he is self-aware, he may realize that something is wrong with how addicted he is.
If he does not find it, he might give up.
If he eventually finds it, he may reduce the time he spends on the game because he knows better.
However, there is no guarantee how this will go.
Because some men are so obsessed that they might throw a fit if their console goes missing or worse still, they purchase a new one.
But it is still worth a trial.
Some women go as far as throwing the console away or selling it.
That is extreme and not advisable.
6. Leave Him to It
If after you have put in the effort and done all of the above he does not change, the next thing you should do is nothing.
Yes, you read that right.
You have put in enough effort and done your best, it is time to stop.
Ignore him and focus on yourself.
If he is not giving you any attention, give yourself some.
And ensure that you are not available when he calls.
You should give him a taste of his own medicine by starving him of time and attention too.
Do this in ways that he will feel it the most.
Go out and have fun and ensure he sees how much fun you are having.
7. Call It Quits
Paying attention to his video games more than he does to you may seem like a trivial issue until you realize that it may mean that he loves and prioritizes the game above you.
This is a serious problem and a red flag.
Addiction to games can affect your relationship in terrible ways, and take away your friendship and intimacy.
Especially if you have tried all the tricks above and he still does not change.
It simply means that he doesn’t love you enough.
Instead of staying in a relationship where you both will soon become strangers and begin resenting each other, it is healthier to call it quits now.
Staying in a situation like this will leave you feeling unloved, ignored, abandoned, unappreciated, and unimportant.
You do not want a bitter and lonely life.