Many of us have been there.
We find ourselves thinking about someone we can’t stop thinking about.
But the more we think, the more it kills our self-confidence and self-esteem.
So, yes, it can be tough to stop thinking about a girl once you’ve started.
Maybe you had a great conversation with her, you shared a special moment, or you have a hard time moving on from your ex-girlfriend.
Whatever the reason, she’s now on your mind, and it’s hard to shake her.
If you’re finding it difficult to move on, here are some tips to help you stop thinking about her.
How To Stop Thinking About A Girl
1. Take some time for yourself
If you’re constantly thinking about the girl, it’s likely because you’re spending too much time focusing on her.
Spend some time focusing on yourself instead.
Do things that make you happy and that help you relax.
This can be anything from reading, going for walks, or listening to music.
2. Avoid triggers
If you’re trying to forget about a girl, avoid triggers that might remind you of her.
This means that you should avoid places you used to go together, things you used to do together, and anything else that reminds you of her.
In addition, try to avoid any social media platforms where you might see pictures or posts about her.
In fact, if you are serious about forgetting her, unfollow or block anyone who regularly posts about her.
If you can’t avoid all reminders of her, try to focus on something else whenever you see or think about her.
Distract yourself by listening to music, reading a book, or doing something else that you enjoy.
Eventually, with time and effort, you’ll be able to stop thinking about her when you are reminded of her.
3. Hang out with friends that you already have and make some new ones too
Spend time with other people instead of being alone with your thoughts.
When you’re by yourself, it’s easy to think about someone who isn’t around.
But when you’re surrounded by friends or family members, you’ll have something else on your mind besides one person.
Also, when you meet new people, their conversations often break up the monotony of everyday routine and, in turn, may help distract you from thinking about this girl.
4. Avoid talking about her
If you’re trying to stop thinking about a girl, avoid talking about her as much as possible.
This includes avoiding talking to her and talking about her to other people.
If you’re constantly bringing her up in conversation, it will only keep her in your thoughts.
Instead, focus on other things and redirect your conversations to other topics.
5. Focus on her negative qualities
If you can’t stop thinking about a girl, there must be something about her that attracts you to her even though she has negative qualities.
So instead of focusing on her positive qualities, try to focus on her negative ones.
This may seem difficult at first, but it’s essential to stop thinking about her.
Think about things that bother you about her or times when she’s done something that made you angry or upset.
If she’s unagreeable, think about how that would annoy you daily.
Picturing her in a negative light will help you see her as less perfect and unattainable.
6. Visualize a new image of yourself without her in your life
If you want to make sure that you stop thinking about a girl, use your imagination and visualize a new image of yourself without her in your life.
The reason why this works is that it helps you to create a new identity for yourself.
Imagine yourself happy and successful, dating someone new, or doing whatever makes you happy without worrying about her.
This will help you detach from her emotionally and bring back positive feelings toward yourself and other people in general.
7. Write down all the reasons why you stop thinking about her
What do you stand to gain by getting over this person?
Use these points as motivation when times get tough.
It’s much easier to stop thinking about someone when you know exactly why it’s important not to do so.
If you have a long list of reasons to stop thinking about her, this will help keep those thoughts at bay.
These could include how she hurt you, how much pain she caused in your life, or why things won’t work between you two.
8. Use positive affirmations to replace negative thoughts
When you think about a girl, you might be saying, “I can’t get this girl out of my head.” Or, “I keep thinking about that one girl from college who broke my heart.” Or, “I can’t stop thinking about this girl I liked, but she doesn’t like me.”
These thoughts are usually not positive and can lead to a downward spiral of negative thoughts that keeps you stuck in the past or even makes you feel depressed.
Instead of focusing on these negative thoughts, try using positive affirmations that will take your mind off of them.
Positive affirmations are phrases that you repeatedly repeat until they become ingrained in your mind and change how you think about yourself, others, and the world around you.
They can be effective because they remind us of what we want rather than what we don’t have or what we’ve lost.
For example, if you’re thinking, “I’ll never meet anyone as good as her,” replace that thought with something more realistic and uplifting, like “I’m sure I’ll meet someone just as great as her someday.”
Other examples are:
”I am a great catch, and I deserve to be with someone who appreciates me for who I am.”
”I deserve to be with someone who will treat me as awesome as I am.”
‘I have so much to offer, and anyone would be lucky to have me!”
”I am beautiful, inside and out.”
These positive affirmations can help get rid of the negativity in your head.
9. Find another girl
I know, I know: that sounds like complete nonsense.
No one wants to hear that you should just replace the old girl in your life with a new one.
However, people have been using rebound relationships to get over someone.
You won’t be the first.
And who knows?
You might be fortunate enough to meet someone you genuinely like and who likes you.
10. Write down your thoughts
Writing can be very therapeutic, especially if you’re having trouble controlling your thoughts.
Write down what you are thinking about her, then look at it later when you’re ready to read it again.
When you read it, don’t judge yourself or get angry at what you wrote earlier — simply acknowledge that it’s true (or not), then let go of the thought as best as possible.
11. Talk to someone
Talking to someone about your feelings helps you get rid of them.
It’s not easy since we’re often afraid of what other people think of us.
But talking about your feelings, especially with a professional, can help you get perspective on your situation and give you exercises and practical tips to help your situation.
12. Get busy
I know it sounds like a cliche, but if you’re feeling down about something, it’s probably because you’re not doing anything productive.
If your mind is occupied with something else, it will naturally move on from whatever is bothering you.
If you’re already busy, then make yourself busier.
Go do something that will keep your mind off of her.
Do you have work that needs to be done? Do it!
Is there something around the house that needs fixing or cleaning? Do it!
Is there some exercise that needs to be done? Do it!
If you want to stop thinking about a girl, take action and get busy with other things in your life.
13. Pray for God’s help
I’m a Christian, and I believe God is interested in every aspect of His children’s lives.
If you are a believer, pray for God to help you to stop thinking about her.
When you pray, you are putting your mind in submission to God.
You are asking him to take over your thoughts and feelings.
And He will; because He cares.
Lastly, remember that it’s okay to think about someone occasionally, but it’s not healthy to constantly obsess over them.
If you can’t seem to stop thinking about a girl, take some time for yourself and focus on your happiness.
I hope you found these thirteen tips useful in learning how to stop thinking about a girl.