“When I am away, my man doesn’t even miss me!”
These were the words of a friend of mine.
My initial impulse was to ask her if she would miss herself if she were in the guy’s shoes.
But I controlled the impulse because I knew I would achieve nothing with such a response.
Many ladies are facing the same dilemma in their relationships.
They are wondering why it feels like their partners don’t miss them when they are away.
The truth is that they are usually focused on the guy.
They think the guy must be cheating for him to be so comfortable when she is away.
I remember how a lady broke up with her boyfriend because she felt he would miss her and return for her after some time.
To her absolute surprise, the young man moved on with his life as if nothing happened to him.
This brings up a crucial question: Did he love her, or was he just biding his time with her?
There is no specific answer for this.
He may have been biding his time with her, or he may actually have loved her but gotten tired of her.
The truth is that some actions and behaviors leave an indelible mark on man’s heart.
While every man is unique, there are universal gestures that grant a woman a special place in a man’s heart.
Let’s find out what these actions are.
Men Only Miss Women Who Do These 7 Things
1. She genuinely supports him
I read a book as a kid, and a quote from it stuck with me: “Behind every successful man is a supportive woman.”
I can’t remember the title of the storybook, but I remember that statement because many feminists had issues with it.
They said things like, “Why does it always have to be the woman behind the man?”
I understand that the quote may seem one-sided, but that doesn’t render the statement untrue.
The truth is that if you are married, you should be supportive and instrumental in your partner’s success, regardless of your gender.
So, I am not being patriarchal with that quote.
A woman who stands by her partner through thick and thin, offering unwavering support and encouragement, is irreplaceable.
A man will miss a woman who genuinely supports him.
In fact, no sensible man would want to let go of such a woman.
Alas, not all men are sensible.
But even when a man lacks the good sense to keep a woman who exhibits this character, he will definitely miss her.
2. She communicates well
Communicating well is different from being talkative.
Many people like to talk, but few end up communicating well.
The goal of communication is understanding, and when it is achieved, we call it effective communication.
If there is one thing I have noticed from my time around women, it is that many women actually don’t communicate effectively.
They think their expressions and moods are good enough for communication.
That’s a wrong ideology.
Of course, there is a level of intimacy you can attain, and you will really be able to understand your partner’s facial expressions and other nonverbal communication.
Regardless of this, communication is key.
So, when a man meets a woman who expresses her thoughts and feelings clearly and without drama, he feels like he has hit the jackpot.
When she doesn’t go all passive-aggressive towards him to express her anger, it makes the relationship easier for the man.
This is the type of woman men would miss so much because her transparency and mature communication make her stand out.
3. She respects his need for space
I had a friend who somehow started getting the wrong impression about our relationship.
She thought we were in a romantic relationship.
So, she started behaving like she was my girlfriend.
She called me every day, threw tantrums when she saw me with other girls, and kept on invading my privacy in every imaginable way.
I got so tired of it all.
She wasn’t even my girlfriend, yet she made life so difficult for me.
In fact, dating someone doesn’t mean you should invade their space.
Everyone needs to have time for themselves, even in relationships, to do their own thing – time to think and reflect.
Men only miss women who understand and respect this.
She understands the importance of time apart and uses it to focus on her personal interests.
Men miss this kind of woman because she gives them peace of mind and freedom to focus on things that matter to them.
They don’t pressure men to spend every single free moment with them.
You should also note that this doesn’t include allowing him to ghost you.
Men who ghost are no longer seeking space to do other things.
They just want to have a relationship with you whenever they want.
They want to be able to zoom in and out of your life anytime they want.
4. She is humorous
Humor is such an attractive quality in anyone.
Having a good sense of humor makes you really attractive.
The fact that you can take and make a joke is such a wonderful quality.
While I have met many serious men, there are only very few men who are too serious to appreciate a good sense of humor.
For the most part, we like to have fun and relax when we are free to do so.
There is power in shared laughter.
One of the reasons why my first girlfriend stands out is because of her good sense of humor.
Sometimes, I make a sarcastic joke to someone, and they don’t get it.
With her, it was never like that.
And it may seem silly, but men always miss women like this.
They always miss women that can make them laugh and know how to take jokes.
If not for anything, for the joy and lightness they bring into their lives.
But the truth is that not everyone can be effortlessly funny.
If you are not, you don’t need to worry about it.
There are other qualities that are highly attractive and valuable to men.
5. She is thoughtful
When it comes to attracting men, it is usually the little things that count.
Your beauty can make him fall for you, but what keeps him enthralled is your character.
You should note that I am speaking about mature men who know what they are looking for in a relationship.
Such kinds of men usually cherish those who show their love through thoughtful gestures.
These gestures don’t need to be huge.
They just need to be thoughtful.
I have a female friend who would celebrate receiving thoughtful handwritten notes from her loved ones more than receiving a fancy gift.
Men miss women who know how to express their love in simple ways.
Whether it’s a surprise note, a favorite meal, or simply remembering important dates, they know how to make their man feel special.
Now, this doesn’t mean that fancy gifts should be scrapped.
I just feel like we place more value on the intention and thought that was invested into the gift than the cost.
I will always hold a candle in my heart for the first female friend to give me a birthday gift.
It was so unexpected, and even if we are not so close anymore, I still remember that gesture fondly.
6. She is emotionally intelligent
Sometimes, we are friends with people who have terrible character flaws.
Everyone has flaws, so they don’t stop us from being friends.
I have a friend who is extremely self-absorbed.
She doesn’t ever seem to be truly concerned about anybody else, and on some surprising occasions, you may discover that all she is thinking about is how to make things easier for herself, sometimes at the expense of others.
I always tell her she needs to do better.
She would hardly apologize even after wronging you.
She would just prefer glossing over things.
I am her friend, but I tell her how emotionally unintelligent she is.
Women who are emotionally intelligent and capable of understanding and managing their own emotions while empathizing with their partner’s feelings leave a lasting impact on men.
It’s so blissful when you have a partner who knows how to empathize with your emotions.
One time, I spoke to a girl about how sad I was because a friend I had cultivated on social media had committed suicide.
I was expecting something empathetic, but the next thing she said was, “You were not a good friend. How didn’t you know she wasn’t suicidal?”
See that statement above?
It is terribly emotionally unintelligent.
It falls into the same bracket as blaming a rape victim for dressing indecently to the rapist’s house.
While you may be raising a valid point, you need to know when to prove a point and when not to.
That’s emotional intelligence.
And when a woman displays this ability to a man, he cherishes her forever.
7. She loves unconditionally
Sometimes, I am on social media, and what I see there saddens me.
Ladies expressing controversial takes that make it seem like love is just transactional for them.
“Who can provide the highest return on investment” kind of love.
One time, a lady told me that the reason she distanced herself from me the moment she realized she was attracted to me was because I was broke.
Of course, it’s her choice, and I didn’t waste my time trying to convince her otherwise because I don’t want love from someone who can be influenced by something as fickle as wealth.
If she met a richer man, she would probably leave me for him in the blink of an eye.
Even while it may seem like unconditional love is dead, there are still women who love unconditionally.
These are the kinds of women that men miss.
When a woman loves a man regardless of his flaws and calls them “perfect imperfections,” it has a lasting impact on a man.
However, you should note that loving a man unconditionally doesn’t involve you putting yourself in harm’s way.
If your love for a man is dangerous to your well-being, it is a toxic relationship, and you need to save yourself from it.
Ultimately, if you’re wondering what makes a woman unforgettable, it’s these heartfelt actions and genuine connections that truly matter.
The truth of the matter is that men only miss women who make them feel valued, understood, and loved.
In our relationships, this is what we should aspire towards, regardless of our gender.
Males and females have a duty to make their partners feel valued, understood, and loved.
This leaves an enduring impression on your partner’s heart and strengthens your relationship.