So, you have been dating this guy for a long time, possibly a year or more.
You love him enough to be with him for the rest of your life, but you don’t know if he feels the same way about you.
People have different perceptions of relationships, and this perception influences why they are in a relationship and what they expect from it.
Some prefer a casual and relaxed approach to a relationship that simply involves taking things as they come and making zero long-term plans for the relationship.
While others prefer more serious relationships with a definite future ahead.
If you are in the latter category, it is not abnormal to wonder where a relationship is headed, especially if your man is proving to be a little tight-lipped about his intentions for the relationship.
It is perfectly normal to wonder if a man loves you enough to marry you because you want to be sure if the relationship is headed toward a mutually beneficial future.
Men may seem to be simple and even wear their hearts on their sleeves.
However, they may find it difficult to discuss their feelings and plans for the future.
This makes it a little harder for ladies to decide if they are with a man who sees the future with them or just wasting their time.
However, some signs can show whether they see a future with you.
I have taken the liberty of curating a collection of the most trustworthy signs a man may display if he sees a future with you.
Come along, and let’s find out what the future of your relationship looks like.
8 Sure Signs He Sees You As His Future Wife
1. He plans his future with you
Relationships are more than just the happy, feel-good moments and pleasant camaraderie that characterize most relationships.
Partners have periods when they engage in serious conversations and discuss their dreams, goals, and aspirations.
This is where you should pay attention.
Does he talk about the future?
Does he share his goals and aspirations with you?
When he does this, does he include you in the picture?
Or is he so full of everything he plans to do that he says nothing about what both of you will do?
Does he see the two of you being happy together in the next few years?
If he includes you in his plans for the future, then you should know that he obviously sees a future with you.
He doesn’t necessarily need to mention kids or marriage, but you know, because of those little hints and plans to do things together in the future.
2. He remembers the little things
Birthdays and anniversaries are big things in most relationships; forgetting them could lead to several consequences.
Trust me, each consequence is worse than the one before it.
However, in emphasizing the big things, we forget the little things.
One of the ways to know if a guy sees a future with him is by noticing how well he remembers the little details about you.
So, you told him about an issue you had at work a few days ago, and he is asking you if you have resolved it.
Or he never forgets when you tell him your favorite color, flowers, movies, books, and food.
If he does all these, it’s a sign that he is so invested in you that he pays attention to everything that happens because he wants more with you.
3. He tells you everything
You may have heard that men are not so expressive and tend to keep their feelings close to their chest.
This may be true.
However, a man who truly loves you and wants a future with you will share their feelings with you.
It is more difficult for men to express feelings that may make them look weak, but a man who wants a future with you will learn to be vulnerable with you.
If your partner doesn’t shy away from being vulnerable with you, then I believe congratulations are in order.
This means you are a very important person in his life, and he wants you to be there with him through it all.
He values your presence in his life and wants to spend the foreseeable future with you.
4. He is supportive
One of the major perks of being in a healthy relationship is that your partner has your back every step of the way.
If this is the kind of relationship you have with your boyfriend, you have hit a jackpot!
When you have a partner who loves you, cares for you, and supports you all the time, know that he is serious about you.
If he makes sacrifices without resentment just for the sake of your relationship, it’s apparent that he wants a future with you, and that’s why he seems to be investing so much in the relationship.
5. He prioritizes you
If he prioritizes and makes time out for you, it is a sign that he believes you are important and sees a future with you.
He would often choose to hang out and spend quality time with you.
If he makes every effort to give you his full attention when you require it, he has probably realized that he needs you in his life and sees a future with you.
How do you know if he is prioritizing you?
You will know by how he is ready to drop other things just to spend time with you.
It is also apparent in how he tries to make you happy.
If a guy would rather spend his free time with you than go out with his friends or see a live sports event, it may just be a pointer that he considers you more important than all these and, therefore, believes you are a major part of his future.
I always say that when I meet a woman who can make me spend a Champions League night with her rather than watching football, I will marry her instantly and bring Bruno Mars’ wildest fantasies in “Marry You” to life.
6. He gets a little jealous
What’s a relationship without a little bit of jealousy to spice it up?
A little jealousy can be good for the relationship because it keeps your partner on his toes and averts complacency.
To be sure, this is very different from being insecure.
If your guy gets a little nervous about other guys in your life, especially those closest to you, it may be a sign that he sees a future with you and doesn’t want to lose you.
He may not be entirely comfortable with your interaction with other guys, especially those who have already expressed feelings for you.
That he guards you jealously is a sign that he values you and wouldn’t want to lose you.
This behavior may be off-putting at times, but it’s just a sign that he cares deeply for you and doesn’t want anything to draw you apart.
7. He’s not scared to talk about marriage
Speaking of the future and hints about the future with you are one thing, but if he directly talks to you about marriage, he must see a future with you.
Presently, we have so many men who have a phobia of commitment and would instead make vague statements about the future than definite plans.
Speak to some guys about marriage and watch them scamper away for their dear lives.
So, if your man is the type of guy who doesn’t shy away from talking about his plans for a family and marriage, having children, and the like, he may be in the relationship for the long haul after all.
Does he get all excited talking about marriage?
Does he ask you about the kind of family you dream of having?
Get ready to walk down the aisle with the man of your dreams because wedding bells are ringing!
The other side is that some men initiate the process by popping the question and putting a ring on it.
They now start dragging their feet and imitating the famous Lagos traffic as the engagement never progresses.
Some women have been engaged for up to ten years while their boyfriends have earned the title “Lord of the Rings.” Lol.
Need I say more?
As they say in Nigerian street lingo, “Shine your eye.”
Some guys are not scared to initiate marriage talks, but it is still a dead end with them.
8. He introduces you to his friends and family
One of the major signs of a player is that you never meet any of his friends or family.
Has your boyfriend taken you to his home to introduce you to his family?
Have you met his friends too?
Do they refer to you as “our wife”; a Nigerian way of showing their acceptance of you?
If yes, he is most likely serious about the relationship and sees a future with you.
This means that by introducing you to all the important people in his life, he has also stated how important you are to him.
This could possibly mean he plans to marry you soon.
Note that this is not a sure sign as some men have introduced their girlfriends to their friends and family, yet they still ended the relationship.
However, it is a very good sign of good news to come.
Final Words
While a happy relationship brings a lot of security and warmth, you can’t predict whether it will lead to a marriage.
It is helpful for you to know where your guy’s head is at, and the signs above will aid you in deciding whether he wants to marry you or not.
However, these signs are indications that do not give absolute assurance of marriage.
The only way to know for sure is to hear it from the horse’s mouth: your boyfriend.
So, you may need to ask him outrightly about the future of the relationship.
He holds the answers you seek.