Dickmatized = d*ck + hypnotized.
Sounds funny, right?
But it’s so not. Really.
It’s used to explain a situation whereby a lady is obsessed with a man’s D because the sex is so good, and this makes her to lose her sense of reasoning.
In short, she takes unusual decisions or behaves irrationally under the influence of the D or she starts catching feelings for a man while in actual sense, it’s for the D.
Below are signs that you’ve become dickmatized:
#1 You know he’s not good for you but you can’t leave him because he’s great between the sheets.
#2 He constantly treats you lesser than you deserve, yet you can’t leave him because of the D.
#3 You keep compromising your values because of the D.
#4 Friends and family warn you about him but you just can’t leave him because of the D. You even fight with them or cut ties with them.
“They don’t understand,” you keep saying.
#5 He influences you to make terrible choices and you can’t say no because the D is so good.
#6 You leave important things like work, projects, and even friends and family whenever he calls.
#7 You can’t concentrate on tasks because you keep thinking of the D – the times you’ve had it and the next time you will.
#8 You know the relationship has no future but you can’t quit because the D is so good.
#9 You keep going back to him even after you’ve called it quits.
#10 You give him anything he asks for because of the D. You’re the one financing him and the relationship.
#11 You are so possessive of the D. You can’t imagine another lady near it.
#12 You can’t tell if you’re in love with him or it’s just about the D.
#13 Even though you’re in a new relationship, you keep going back to him for the D.
#14 No matter what he does to you, as long as you get the D, you forgive him. You minimize whatever he does, no matter how bad.
#15 You can go out at anytime for the D.
#16 You can do the do anywhere. No place is off limits to get the D.
#17 You can never turn him down. The D is so irresistible.
#18 Even when he cheats on you, you blame the girls and not him.
#19 He doesn’t add value to you in any way except giving you the good D.
#20 You keep convincing yourself that he could turn out to be your dream man.
Sistah, if you’re experiencing some or all of these, then you’re surely dickmatized.
This isn’t a good thing at all.
Taking decisions that could spell doom for your life, future, and relationships all because of a good D is not an enviable thing.
What’s the way out?
1. Admit that you have a problem.
If you don’t see being dickmatized as a problem, then you won’t seek solution.
Accepting that you have a problem is the first step to getting solution.
2. Give yourself a pep talk.
One of the gifts we have as humans is logic.
We are not animals or monsters who can’t control their emotions and actions. We can reason and make decisions.
Talk to yourself. You deserve better. You can’t afford to lay down your life and future on the altar of a good D.
Keep talking to yourself until you get it. Engage your brain until your emotions get the message.
3. Quit the relationship for good.
Desperate times require desperate measures.
Cutting ties with a D that has been taking you to cloud nine isn’t going to be a walk in the park.
But you’ve got to do it. No one will do it for you.
Call it quits and mean it.
Don’t forget, you have the power to make reasonable decisions.
4. Cut all ties
Delete and block his contacts.
Delete his phone number, block him on social media, in fact, relocate from the familiar environment.
5. Get support
A good support system can help us through challenging moments of life, and being dickmatized is a challenge.
Your friends could help you by talking some sense into you until you get it. You can also be accountable to your friends or family. You can ask them to keep an eye on you to make sure you don’t go back to him.
6. Reward yourself
Set a reward for yourself whenever you achieve a goal to help you cut all ties from the guy with the magical D.
This is called positive reinforcement, and it works.
Who doesn’t love a pat in the back for good behaviour?
It could be buying that bag or pair of shoes that you’ve always wanted.
7. Go for therapy
If you’ve done all you could and you’re still stuck, maybe it’s time to go for therapy.
8. Seek divine help
Pray for God’s help.
Prayer works for anything because God cares about every aspect of your life, including being dickmatized!