Sometimes, quitting a relationship seems reasonable, especially when there’s constant arguing or fighting, lies and deception, disrespect, abuse, and the relationship has become toxic.
But not all relationships are so black and white.
What are the signs you should not break up with your partner?
Because sometimes, breakups can seem like the right move, but they’re a mistake.
Here are some signs that your relationship is worth working on; signs you should not break up:
14 Signs You Should Not Break Up
1. They make you a better person
When you’re in a healthy relationship, being with your partner makes you feel good about yourself.
And this makes you believe in yourself and makes you want to be better.
So, if you strive to become a better person because of their influence, support, and encouragement, better to hold on to them.
People like that are rare.
2. You share the same values and interests
If you and your S.O. don’t share the same values, you’ll have problems.
Because there’s no way relationships can work if couples do not share the same core values.
It’s just like being in a car together and wanting to head in opposite directions.
It doesn’t make sense.
But if you both hold the same things in high esteem and agree on major life issues, e.g., faith, children, roles of each member of the family, honesty, kindness, and hard work, then you have a good thing going.
It’s one of the signs you should not break up.
The two of you want the same things out of life.
If you want different things out of life, staying together might not make sense.
3. You have a lot of fun together
Couples who laugh together stay together!
Laughter is often an indicator of closeness and relationship satisfaction.
If you find yourselves laughing together frequently at each other’s jokes and other silly moments, that’s a good sign.
You may even find yourself laughing more than when you were single.
That’s because laughter can be contagious—when one person laughs, the other usually joins in!
This shows things are going well between you; even when things aren’t so good, you still have a great time together.
4. You want to spend quality time together
While it’s OK to want some alone time now and then, if you want to be with your partner all the time, that means you enjoy being with them.
Happy relationships are often characterized by feelings of fulfillment, joyfulness, contentment, and love.
That feeling of wanting to be with them all the time can be very telling of how much that person means to you.
If you like spending time with this person, both in public and private, you will miss them if you break up with them.
5. They are supportive of your life goals
Whether it’s getting a degree or starting your own business, your significant other should support your life goals.
They may not always understand what you’re doing, but if they believe in you and support you, that’s all that matters.
So many women don’t prioritize their careers because they view men as more important than their careers.
A supportive guy understands that your dreams are just as important as his are—and encourages you to chase after them.
He doesn’t get upset when you have to stay late at work or go on a business trip; he knows that your future success reflects his, too.
Don’t let go of a guy who believes in you!
You don’t want to break up with someone willing to be there when you need them and who is supportive of everything you do.
6. You can truly be yourself around them
If you can let down your walls and not feel self-conscious about being seen without makeup or wearing sweatpants, or being honest about how your day went, then you’ve got a good thing going.
These days, many people pretend to be who they are, not just to impress the person they are dating.
Such a relationship cannot stand the test of time because no one can consistently pretend for too long.
You’ll burn out.
If you can let your guards down and be authentic with your partner, and you know deep inside of you that no one understands you as they do, it’s one of the signs you shouldn’t break up with them.
7. They’re not afraid of conflict
Couples often get stuck in a rut because their disagreements are never resolved.
Arguments are an inevitable part of any relationship, but when they hurt feelings more than they help solve problems, it’s a sign that something needs to change.
A healthy couple will be able to work through their arguments and get on with their lives without holding grudges.
If this is you and your partner, it shows you are in a mature relationship and can handle conflicts maturely.
8. You trust them
Trust is an essential ingredient in a relationship.
It’s not something that just happens on its own — it takes time and effort on both sides to cultivate an environment where both people feel safe and secure in their relationship.
If you feel like you can tell your partner anything and you can rely on them to be there for you no matter what, then your relationship has the foundation it needs to survive anything that’s thrown at it.
You trust them, but you also trust that they won’t hurt you.
They’ve proven themselves to be reliable, trustworthy, and someone who is there for you through thick and thin.
You don’t doubt them or feel as if something is missing.
If you trust your partner, and they also trust you, and both of you have worked hard to build a foundation based on it, breaking up might not be the answer.
Don’t give up on something so special unless there’s a justifiable reason.
9. Your friends and family like them
If your friends and family are always telling you how happy you seem with your partner, that’s a sign it’s worth sticking it out.
When you’re in love, the people around you can sense it, even if you don’t notice that yourself.
Your family and friends like your partner because they make you happy.
If that is the case, your relationship has great potential.
10. You’re both willing to work on the relationship
There’s no such thing as a perfect relationship, and all relationships take hard work and dedication.
To have a healthy relationship, though, both people must be willing to make an effort.
If your partner is as motivated as you to make your relationship work, you should hold on to them.
11. They make you happy more often than they make you sad
If your partner does things that make you happy, it shows they are selfless and prioritize your happiness.
Why would you break up with someone who makes you happy?
12. They’re respectful of your feelings
This is a big one.
Yelling at you, belittling you, or calling names is unacceptable and should not be tolerated.
A healthy relationship requires mutual respect of feelings and opinions, interests, and goals.
If you and your partner respect each other, you should ask yourself why you want to break up with them.
13. They respect your friends and family
A relationship where the person you love doesn’t respect the people that are important to you cannot work, except you don’t value them.
If your partner respects the people dear to your heart, they are such a keeper!
14. You can’t come up with valid reasons why you should end things (after giving it some serious thought)
Sometimes breakups are like that.
You know you should end it, but you can’t pinpoint why.
Maybe you’ll be able to overanalyze your relationship enough to figure out a few reasons, but they’re not the kind of reasons that make you say, “Now I’m sure.”
If you’re truly at the point where you want to end it, there should be a clear reason.
And if you can’t think of one (or don’t care to), maybe it’s not time to call it quits.
It’s not uncommon for couples to go through periods of feeling less-than-thrilled about their relationship.
Maybe you’re bickering more than usual or just don’t feel that giddy spark when you hang out anymore.
But if your partner does something to upset you and your reaction is, “I should break up with them,” it might be worth taking a step back to assess the situation.
If you can’t think of a single reason why you should end things, maybe it’s time to reevaluate whether or not you want to call it quits.
If you genuinely feel like breaking up is the right thing to do, there shouldn’t be anything stopping you from doing so.
But if the fourteen signs above are evident in your relationship, they are signs you should not break up.