No one would have thought it possible, not the guests at your wedding or your parents, who are excited to see you get wedded to the love of your life.
Not even you could have anticipated that after a few years of marriage, you would wonder if your husband still finds you attractive.
Yet, here you are… Several years down the line, reading my article, frantically checking the boxes while hoping desperately that the signs are not true and your husband is still very much physically attracted to you.
It is not uncommon in relationships, but it can still be a painful realization.
Marriage is a lifetime commitment and cannot be based on physical attraction alone.
However, that is also an important aspect of the relationship.
If you have noticed that your intimacy with your husband has dropped recently, it may be due to the loss of physical attraction.
If your husband is no longer physically attracted to you, you will notice the following signs;
10 Worrying Signs Your Husband Is Not Physically Attracted To You
1. He no longer initiates sex
The major sign that your husband no longer finds you physically attractive is that he no longer initiates sex.
This may mean that for a very long time, you have been in a sexless marriage.
This makes life very difficult for you, especially if you are married to a very attractive man.
You find that you can’t keep your hands off your husband while he just responds to you passively.
It makes the relationship look one-sided.
If you are in such a relationship, it is a sign that your husband is no longer physically attracted to you.
Take note of the frequency with which you used to have sex in the past and notice how it has dropped drastically.
Remember how you used to do it everywhere with him?
How it seemed like you were the one with the lower sex drive.
Now, the opposite is the case.
Even when you initiate sex, it seems like he is too tired or not just into it.
This is a clear-cut sign that your husband is not physically attracted to you.
If you can still recall it, take note of the time the decline in sex started in your relationship.
This may help you discover what could be the cause of the sudden loss of physical attraction.
Knowing the cause of the loss of attraction is the first step to turning the situation around and having the intimacy you want in your marriage.
2. He is no longer romantic
Being romantic is totally different from having sex.
Still, if your husband no longer makes romantic gestures to you, it could be a sign that he no longer finds you physically attractive.
Remember how it used to be in the early phase of your marriage.
Your husband used to be so romantic that he would always come back with thoughtful gifts for you.
These gifts didn’t need to be expensive.
Do you remember the times he used to bring you breakfast in bed?
You were truly delighted by those acts, even if you probably may have taken it for granted that you will continue to be treated this way.
But now, you think of those days with fondness and wish your husband could return to being romantic again.
If your husband no longer seems to surprise you with these random romantic gestures, it may be a sign that he is not physically attracted to you.
When he does it while still avoiding sex with you, it becomes a sure sign that he is no longer physically attracted to you.
3. Your conversations are difficult
One of the major signs of a working marriage is the free rapport between the couples.
Marriage is such an intimate relationship that it requires couples to have seamless conversations for its success.
Previously, your husband always seemed to have much to say to you.
Whether it was important news from his office or just what he heard while he was having lunch, your husband always returned home ready to talk about it… except on the days that he has a bad day, of course.
Then, he would rant about how his coworkers are not well-trained or his boss is just a pompous, rich upstart.
Whether he is ranting or just gisting you about his day, the fact is that he talks to you.
These days, it seems like he no longer does that.
Your conversations are stilted, with you making all the attempts to initiate a conversation while he kills them.
Your home is now characterized by silence save for the sound of cutlery when he is eating and the sound of the TV after he is done eating.
My heart goes out to you… Living in the same house with someone you love and not talking to them can be challenging.
4. He’s always on his phone
This is not only a sign that he is not physically attracted to you; it can also be a sign that he is already cheating on you.
I hate to be the bearer of such news, but if your husband no longer wants sex with you, he is likely getting it somewhere else.
However, it doesn’t always have to involve a woman.
If he is always on his phone around you, it is a sign that he feels bored with you and would rather talk to someone else or just scroll through social media.
He may also be distracted by other things that he can’t bring himself to be interested in conversations with you.
The fact remains that when a man is truly attracted to you, he pays attention to you.
If you notice that he would rather spend time on his phone than talk to you, it is a sign that your husband is not physically attracted to you.
5. He doesn’t spend quality time with you
I know some people like to say that spending quality time is not their love language, but couples must spend quality time together to make a relationship work.
If your husband used to spend quality time with you, but in recent times, it seems like he can’t be bothered to even sit down with you and have a candid conversation, it is a sign that something is wrong somewhere.
There is an obvious disconnect in your relationship that seems to make any attempt to spend quality time together end up being awkward.
So, if you have noticed that your husband no longer makes efforts to take you on dates, picnics, a stroll in the park, or even a movie night at home, it is a sign that your husband is no longer physically attracted to you.
6. He no longer touches you
This is different from sex.
You know, those little random touches that are just normal from other people, but when they are from someone you love, it makes you feel so special.
The random way he holds your hands while taking a stroll, that possessive arm around your waist, the way he kisses your forehead and pats your bum.
All these little gestures of love now seem absent in your marriage.
This is a sign that your husband is no longer physically attracted to you.
7. He no longer compliments you
Compliments are ways to show how much you appreciate someone.
In a relationship, there are many things that your partner does that you should be grateful for.
When your husband no longer compliments you, it is a sign that he no longer sees anything to appreciate you for.
If he doesn’t compliment your hair or dress whenever you take the pain to dress nice, it is a sign that he no longer notices the details about you.
When a man adores you, he will always express it in words that make you know how much you mean to him.
He would compliment your looks, your dress, and even your cooking.
If your husband barely or never does any of this, it is a sign that he is no longer physically attracted to you.
8. He is indifferent
Conflicts are normal occurrences in relationships.
It is only natural for couples to have periods when they disagree with each other.
It is even healthy for a relationship.
If you notice that your husband doesn’t seem to care enough about anything to get angry, it is a terrible sign that something is wrong.
Sure, there is peace in the relationship, but this peace comes with a sense of foreboding that something is wrong.
If your husband behaves this way, he is already indifferent to you, and this is one of the worst things that can happen in a marriage.
It feels like he has given up on you.
If you are looking for a sign that your husband no longer finds you attractive, this is a clear-cut sign.
9. He flirts with other women
There is a difference between being charming and outright flirting.
If you notice that your husband has crossed the line and started flirting outrageously with other women, it is a sign that he may no longer be physically attracted to you.
This is especially true if he barely flirts with you but consistently does it with other beautiful women and ladies at outings.
It is a clear sign that your marriage is going so well.
It is also a sign that your husband no longer respects you.
10. He no longer gets jealous
I know too much jealousy isn’t good, but a little jealousy may be beneficial for any romantic relationship.
It especially gives ladies joy when their husbands or boyfriends get jealous when a guy shows interest in them.
However, if your husband doesn’t show any sign of jealousy when he notices another man showing interest in you, it is a sign that he is no longer physically attracted to you.
If you have just discovered from my article that your husband is no longer physically attracted to you, my heart goes out to you.
I am sorry I had to bear such news.
I have good news as well.
This may be a passing phase, meaning you can still rekindle the spark in your marriage.
Start by participating in your marriage actively.
You have seen those things you want him to do; why don’t you start by doing them yourself?
Initiate that date, compliment him, talk to him sincerely about how you feel, and if you have let yourself go, hit the gym and start working out.
Be intentional about how you dress.
Dress smartly in a way that accentuates your figure.
Don’t blame yourself… start working towards a better future for your marriage.
You can also employ the services of a professional marriage counselor.