I wish I could tell you that life is all sweet and fun, but you and I know that’d be false.
This isn’t even about being wealthy or poor because even wealthy people have their overwhelming moments.
In this age where a lot of things – emails, social media notifications, phone calls, social media statuses, new gadgets, kids, family, bills to be paid etc. are screaming for one’s attention, it’s so easy to get overwhelmed and be tired of it all.
If getting overwhelmed is inevitable, then all we have to do is learn how to manage the experience so that we don’t lose our minds.
According to WHO, “More than 300 million people of all ages suffer from depression and close to 800, 000 people die due to suicide every year. Suicide is the second leading cause of death in 15-29-year-olds.”
Don’t take it lightly when you are tired of it all because one can slip into depression if caution is not taken.
What then can you do when you’re overwhelmed and tired of it all and about to give up?
Here are tips to help you:
1. Identify the source of the problem
Why are you tired of it all? What is making you overwhelmed? What’s the source of your tiredness? Job, kids, lack, ill health, toxic relationships etc.
You need to identify the problem in order to find a solution to it.
Answer the question, “What is getting me overwhelmed?”
2. Take a break
Seek a break from whatever is making you overwhelmed. You can’t remain in the problem and expect to feel better.
Take a break in order to breathe in some fresh air.
If it’s a toxic relationship that is draining your energy, take a break from it.
I am currently on break from Facebook, where I’m most active. I disabled my Facebook and Messenger apps, and even deleted my Instagram app.
My baby is a little under the weather, I don’t get enough sleep, I have an avalanche of writing and editing tasks to do, yet I keep getting messages from people who want me to do one thing or the other for them (usually without pay).
I was feeling overwhelmed, I had to take a break.
Do I feel better?
Take a break. Switch off your phone, if possible. Stay away from the noise and pressure to achieve clarity of thoughts.
3. Listen to calming music
Songs are powerful. Music has a great effect on moods. It can elevate or depress your mood.
Many studies have established a link between songs and moods.
Inspirational songs can make you feel better. Listen to songs that encourage you.
Sometimes, I find faith-based songs inspiring. They help me to worship instead of worry.
Crying is not a sign of weakness. Crying helps to relieve tension.
Cry, if you feel overwhelmed and you feel like letting off some steam.
I was a cry baby because I used to be so emotional. I’ve toughened up a bit now but I still cry when I need to.
Let the tears flow. Let it flow. You’re not weak. You’re human. You’re just getting rid of some pent up feelings.
Shed those tears, and stop bottling up your emotions.
5. Take a walk or run
Take a walk or run. Walking and running helps to clear the mind.
You can listen to some music while you do.
6. Rant to someone
Having someone to pour out your mind to when you need a listening ear is one of the blessings of life.
Because it’s difficult to find people who are selfless and patient enough to spare their time to listen to others. Everyone wants to talk and everyone is always on the move.
Time is money, huh?
Your rant partner could be your spouse, your lover, your friend, your spiritual leader, a mentor, or a counselor. Anyone who can listen to you without judging you.
Sometimes, you don’t need them to offer solutions. You just want them to listen.
7. Seek help
We all need help at some points in life, don’t we?
If you’re overwhelmed because you need help with something, then reach out to people who can help you.
Don’t be ashamed to seek help. No one is self-made.
8. Declutter your life and space
Order is crucial to mental, emotional, and physical well-being.
There’s peace in order. Create some order in your life. Do away with things you don’t need. Do away with unnecessary distractions. Streamline your activities in a way that you focus on the most important things to you.
You shouldn’t be on every social media platform or every Facebook group. Unsubscribe from some emails you can do without, put your house in order, do away with toxic and unproductive friends. You don’t have to watch every movie, TV show, or read every book.
When I was feeling overwhelmed some days ago, I arranged the house, I unsubscribed from some email lists, I’m planning to focus on just two social media platforms (Facebook and Pinterest).
If the most important things are the ones stressing me, then that’s fine.
If your life is too crowded, you’ll feel overwhelmed.
9. Watch Comedy videos
I do this sometimes when I want to elevate my mood, and it works because I find myself laughing my heart out.
I love happily ever after movies. I don’t watch horror or tragedies. I watch movies and read books to learn and escape reality. I can’t choose to watch or read what makes reality even better.
That’s just me anyway. You don’t have to do the same.
10. Focus on the things you are grateful for
It’s easy to be overwhelmed when you focus on things that you don’t have and things that are not going right in your life and in the world.
Choose gratitude over complain. While you work and pray towards your heart desires, be grateful for the things you have.
I’m sure there are things to be grateful for in your life.
Even if you hate job, at least it pays the bills. What if you don’t have anything?
Learn to enjoy where you are on the way to where you are going.
11. Listen to inspiring podcasts
I love listening to talks a lot. And as a Christian, I love listening to sermons because they not only minister to my soul but my spirit as well.
Man is a spirit that has a soul and lives in a body. Man is a tripartite being – spirit, soul, and body.
I’m a Registered Nurse and a graduate of Psychology, so I understand the importance of physical and emotional well-being.
But as a Christian, I understand the place of spiritual well-being as well.
These three components need to be taken care of to achieve peace and harmony in one’s life.
When I was feeling overwhelmed some days ago, I searched for ‘what to do when you’re overwhelmed‘ on YouTube, and I kept scrolling down until I found a sermon by Pastor Rick Warren, pastor of Saddleback Church and author of one of the greatest books in history, ‘Purpose-driven Life‘. Purpose-driven Life is one of the books that changed my life. I’ve read it more than once.
Let’s just say, the message was all I needed to hear. It hit me where I felt it the most.
I had to make notes as I listened to the message.
Some of the lessons I learnt in the sermon are:
1. We feel overwhelmed because we fight battles that are meant for God.
2. Choose worship over worry, prayer over panic.
3. When you’re overwhelmed, the first person to talk to is God.
4. Prayer should be a first option and not the last resort.
5. Trust God to bring to pass whatever He has said concerning you.
You can also listen to the message yourself and be relieved from feeling overwhelmed.
It’s the best thing that happened to me this week.
I hope this article really helps you to feel renewed and energized to face life again.
This life is beautiful. You can’t afford to be tired of it.