In many societies, when a man cheats, people go like, ”Yeah, I should have seen it coming.”
Some even think men are polygamous in nature.
But when a woman cheats, people seem to get shocked and surprised.
Seeing how judgmental society can be towards women who have affairs, what would make a woman engage in extramarital relationships?
What Type of Married Women Have Affairs? Unveiling The 11 Types
1. The Emotionally-Starved Woman
I’m sure you are familiar with the phrase “happy wife, happy life,” and it’s true.
Married women, just like any other human being, have emotional needs that they expect their husbands to fulfill.
In fact, it’s often said that women are emotional while men are logical.
That said, a lot of women are emotionally starved in their marriages.
They feel neglected, unappreciated, and unloved by their husbands.
Some of these women try to communicate with their partners about their emotional needs, but often, they are met with resistance or dismissal.
Their husbands might even be great providers, but money isn’t everything.
You can’t talk to money.
You can’t cuddle money.
You can’t laugh with money.
Money cannot make you feel heard.
I know some women don’t care about all this ”emotional BS!” Lol.
They love money, and as long as their husbands provide, they are satisfied.
For others (like me), it’s a different story.
They’ll feel miserable and lonely in their marriages.
So when someone else comes along and pays attention to them, makes them feel special and loved, they might find themselves attracted to that person.
And that’s how affairs start.
2. The Bored Woman
Another type of married woman who might have affairs is the one who feels bored in her marriage.
Marriage can get monotonous and routine, especially when there are kids involved.
I’m married, and I can tell you it’s the same routine every day.
Wake up, get the kids ready for school or daycare, go to work, come back home exhausted (fortunately for me, I work from home), make dinner, give the kids a bath, put them to bed, and then repeat.
It’s understandable why some women might crave excitement in their lives.
They want to feel alive again.
They want to do something different and get out of their mundane routine.
And when someone comes along who can offer them that thrill and excitement, they might be tempted to take the risk.
3. The Revenge Woman
This is probably one of the most common reasons why married women have affairs.
If a woman finds out her husband has cheated on her or has been emotionally unavailable, she might feel justified in seeking revenge by engaging in an affair.
It’s a way for her to hurt her husband and make him feel the pain she has felt.
After all, what’s sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander.
Like my Nigerian people would say, ”Do me, I do you….” (An eye for an eye)
Of course, this is not a healthy way of dealing with marital issues, but it happens more often than you might think.
4. The Unhappy Woman
Marriage isn’t always a bed of roses.
Sometimes, things just don’t work out, and couples grow apart.
In such cases, one partner might become unhappy in the marriage and seek happiness elsewhere.
The unhappy woman may have tried everything to salvage her marriage, but nothing seems to work.
She feels frustrated, neglected, and unfulfilled in her relationship, and that’s how an affair could happen.
Who wouldn’t want to be happy and loved?
5. The Curious Woman
Some married women have affairs simply because they are curious.
They might be happily married and have no issues with their husbands or their relationship.
But the idea of being intimate with someone else piques their curiosity, and they want to see what it’s like.
They might not even have any intentions of leaving their marriage; they just want to explore and experience something different.
I know this sounds silly, but sometimes we humans do silly things out of curiosity.
6. The Sexually Unsatisfied Woman
It is no secret that women have sexual desires just like men do.
Forget whatever you’ve been told about women not being interested in sex.
It’s a lie.
Some women even have a higher sex drive than their men, but they don’t talk about it because society has deemed it inappropriate for women to be vocal about their sexual desires.
When a woman is not sexually satisfied in her marriage, she might seek that satisfaction elsewhere.
It could be because her husband is unable to perform or satisfy her, or he’s simply not interested in having sex as often as she would like.
A woman who feels sexually deprived might be tempted to have an affair with someone who can fulfill her sexual needs.
7. The Abusive Relationship
Unfortunately, some women are trapped in abusive relationships where they feel powerless and helpless.
They may turn to having affairs as a form of escape or rebellion against their oppressive partners.
It’s not uncommon for victims of abuse to seek comfort and validation from someone else when they are not getting it from their partners.
This type of affair is often a cry for help, and these women may need support and assistance in leaving their abusive marriages.
8. The Bored Housewife
Being a stay-at-home mom or a housewife is noble, but it can also be lonely and isolating.
If a woman is not careful, she can lose her identity and sense of self while taking care of her family.
This can lead to feelings of boredom, unfulfillment, and even resentment towards her husband, who gets to go out into the world and have a career.
A bored housewife who is struggling with an identity crisis may seek excitement outside of her marriage by having an affair.
It makes her feel desired and attractive and gives her something to look forward to other than laundry and cooking.
9. The Missing Something Woman
Some women enter into affairs because they feel like something’s missing in their lives.
It might not even be related to their partner or their marriage.
They may have unfulfilled dreams or desires, and the affair is a way to feel alive because having someone else show them attention and affection makes them feel like they are not missing out on anything.
But eventually, the excitement and thrill of the affair will fade, and these women will realize that they need to work on themselves and their lives rather than looking for what’s not lost.
10. The “This Just Happened” Woman
Not every affair is planned or even wanted.
Sometimes circumstances, like excessive time spent with a co-worker or reconnecting with an old flame, can lead to ”How did I get here?”
It could start off as an innocent friendship but then slowly turn into something more intimate.
This type of affair usually happens out of convenience or proximity, and the woman might not have had any intentions of being unfaithful to her partner.
But once it has happened, she may feel guilty and struggle with how to break it off without causing too much damage to her marriage.
11. The Loveless Marriage
But what about married women who have affairs because they are simply not in love with their partners anymore?
It’s a sad reality, but some marriages lose the spark and love that once existed.
The couple might still care for each other, but the passionate love and connection are no longer there.
A married woman might seek love and affection from someone else to fill the void in her heart.
That’s why a woman in a loveless marriage is more vulnerable to having an affair.
So, what type of married women have affairs?
The truth is, there isn’t just one type.
Every woman has her own reasons and circumstances that lead to infidelity.
It could happen to anyone, regardless of their background or personality.
What matters is that we recognize the reasons behind these affairs and address them in our marriages.
Because even though there are reasons for cheating, it is never justified or excusable.