Ever been on a date with a guy, and a drink accidentally spills on him, and his first reaction was to flare up, use abusive words at the person or even throw a fist?
Do you continuously find yourself walking on eggshells around him because you’re trying to avoid such situations from happening?
Then this read is definitely the one for you.
There are various ways to spot emotional immaturity in a man.
Emotionally immature people find it difficult to control their emotions, and most often, you’ll see them exhibiting toxic traits without caring about the consequences their actions have on others.
Many people confuse maturity with age, which is wrong.
Just because an individual is older doesn’t guarantee maturity, even when it comes to emotions.
Mature individuals are conscious of how their behaviors affect those around them, so they’re cautious of what they say or do to avoid hurting others.
Emotional maturity is having the control over self to manage your emotions and continuously work to understand them.
An emotionally mature individual is one who has attained a level of self-understanding with attention to how their thinking, attitudes, and character affects others.
Then determines a reasonable approach to manage circumstances that might otherwise be prone to crisis or conflict.
One of the ways to spot an immature man is by paying close attention to his behavior, emotional maturity, and attitude.
Read on to find out the signs of an emotionally immature man.
17 Signs Of Emotional Immaturity In A Man
1. They Only Care About Their Emotions, Not Others
They find it difficult to maintain healthy relationships due to their attitude of not caring about how other people feel.
They fail to have empathy for others and are insensitive.
They assume the world revolves around them and mostly treat others as insignificant.
2. They Detest Difficult Conversations
When it comes to communication, emotionally immature men would rather find ways to run away or avoid difficult conversations than confront them.
They do not want their toxic traits challenged and brought to light.
3. They Find It Difficult Expressing Their Emotions
Sometimes, they tend to be emotionally unstable.
One minute they’re delighted; the next, they’re upset, sad, or depressed.
They cannot control their emotions and flare up over minor issues.
They have no explanation for their irrational emotions and behavior.
4. They Blame Others When Things Don’t Go As Planned
They never take responsibility and always find excuses.
Instead of accepting their fault, they find ways to bail themselves out by blaming others.
They would rather use defensive mechanisms and live in denial.
5. They Get Aggressive When Things Don’t Go Their Way
They somehow believe that the world revolves around them, so they become aggressive when things don’t go as they would like.
They’re unreceptive to anything that is not in their favour.
6. He Has No Plan For The Future/ Lacks Ambition
Emotionally immature men usually have no interest in planning for their future or the growth of their relationship, and worst still, they contribute nothing financially to the relationship or even render support.
Most adults make plans and strategize on how they can achieve their future ambitions, but men who lack maturity don’t plan for their future.
A man who doesn’t make plans or care about his future will definitely not care about you.
You don’t want to end up entangled with such a person, or you’ll feel stuck.
7. They Are Scared Of Commitment
He can’t maintain a healthy long relationship for fear of commitment.
Sometimes it could be the fear of actually committing, while other times, it could be the thought of being unable to go after other women.
A man with a fear of commitment is prone to making wrong decisions out of fear and will tend to judge emotionally rather than logically.
Whichever one it is, you don’t want that.
8. Bad Spending Habit
Emotional immaturity affects literally every part of a person’s life.
Even the finances get affected.
It takes discipline to develop a good spending habits and intentionality to save and invest.
A mature man avoids frivolous spending and only spends when necessary or needed.
The last thing on the mind of an emotionally immature man is to keep track of his spending habit.
An emotionally immature man is drawn to spending on things that add no value.
9. Never Apologizes For Wrongs
Mistakes are inevitable, and as such, no one is above mistakes.
When you frequently notice that he doesn’t own up to his mistakes or apologize for the wrong he has done by you, then that’s a sure sign he’s emotionally immature.
10. He Is Always Fixated On Himself
An immature man is selfish and would always put himself first before others.
It is not wrong to also prioritize yourself; however, when it becomes extreme to the point where you have less care, affection, and empathy towards others, it becomes a problem.
Mature men are selfless, understanding, and mindful of how their actions influence others.
11. Lacks Impulse Control
He interrupts you when you speak and considers what you say irrelevant or meaningless.
They find it difficult to react to real-world situations and, as such, act impulsively.
A man with no impulse control finds it difficult to withstand temptation, whether it’s a chance to show off his latest possession or accomplishment.
He’s always quick to act without thinking if his actions affect others.
One such action could be cheating on his girlfriend or consistently flirting with other girls.
12. He Is A Bad Listener
Do you feel heard or understood by your man when you speak?
Or are you constantly seeking his attention even when it seems out of grasp?
An emotionally immature man doesn’t waste time dismissing your feeling, interrupting you when you speak, or changing the topic when it’s not favourable to him.
He has trouble paying attention to you when you speak.
He may also have difficulty understanding your body language.
Even when you open up to tell him how you feel, his response is always centered on what he thinks rather than trying to understand your point of view.
13. He Is Not Supportive
An immature man has a high tendency to be unsupportive.
They always focus on their own rather than trying to understand your needs.
A man who grew up with a sound support system will likely be one too.
14. He Lies And Makes Up Stories
When he lies or makes up stories to cover up an incident instead of stating the truth, it is a sign that he is emotionally immature.
15. You Still Feel Alone In The Relationship
Being in a relationship where you feel isolated, or lack connection with your partner is not normal.
When you need to struggle to be heard, even when you try to communicate your feelings, thoughts, and intentions to your significant other, something is wrong.
A man who cares about you will definitely want to be up to date with what’s going on in your life and how you feel about certain issues.
He will also take a genuine interest in your previous relationships and future plans and ask questions about them.
When you are with an emotionally immature man, you tend to feel isolated no matter how much time you spend with them.
16. Insecure And Indecisive
Being with someone who is often doubtful, uncertain, or skeptical when it comes to making decisions is quite difficult.
It’s worse when they fail to make decisions on basic issues.
This is often caused by low self-esteem, and they try to hide under the mask of irritation or cynicism.
17. He Is Always Pessimistic
He always looks at the negative part of things and never fails to discourage an idea or suggestion at any opportunity.
Being with someone who is emotionally immature can be mentally and emotionally draining.
Nonetheless, there are strategies you can implement to take care of yourself while also working to improve the relationship.
Be honest with your partner, establish healthy boundaries, and follow them strictly to endure they understand you won’t condone certain behaviors.
If they are intentional about having you in their life, they’ll make the necessary changes to keep you.
However, if they are unwilling to change, why waste time with them when better options exist?