So you thought your single and searching days were over when you met your man.
But unfortunately, it seems your single and searching days are far from over because you are suspecting your boo is in love with someone else.
You don’t know for sure, and you wonder if there are signs that he is in love with someone else.
The signs are not always obvious, but there are some things that might indicate that he has fallen for someone other than you.
It might be painful looking out for these signs, but isn’t it better to know than to be in denial?
In this article, we will go over 16 signs your man is in love with someone else.
16 Signs He is in Love With Someone Else
1. He stops making an effort with you
How someone feels about you will show in their actions.
If your man used to go out of his way to make plans with you, surprise you with thoughtful gestures, and constantly communicate with you but suddenly stops doing all those things, it could be a sign that he has lost interest and is focusing on someone else.
If their effort is reducing with you, it’s probably increasing with someone else.
2. He changes plans without telling you first
You’ve made plans.
Fine.
But then, for some reason, he changes them without telling you first.
And when you ask him why, he gives vague or non-committal answers.
He is prioritizing someone else over you and doesn’t want to upset them, so he has to cancel plans with you.
3. He becomes distant emotionally
You know your boyfriend, and you can tell that something has changed in your connection.
Your conversations that used to be lively and engaging have become more superficial.
You both could share anything with each other, but now it feels like he’s holding back.
He has become less communicative.
He no longer shares details about his day-to-day life or his thoughts and feelings like before.
You share something important or exciting with him, and he responds with just a brief acknowledgment or seems disinterested.
The warmth and intimacy that characterize close relationships have faded, and you feel like you’re emotionally alone even when he’s physically present.
He’s become emotionally distant because he is investing his time and emotions in someone else.
While it’s not always the case that his emotional withdrawal is due to being in love with someone else, it’s a possibility that can’t be ignored.
When you are falling for another person, your emotional and mental bandwidth starts to focus more on your new lover.
This shift means there’s less emotional availability for your current relationship.
Because your man’s thoughts and emotions revolve around the new person, consciously or unconsciously, his emotional involvement with you will reduce.
4. He seems distracted while you are together
I know we live in a world where people are constantly checking their phones and being distracted by outside factors, but when your partner seems consistently disengaged while spending time with you, it could be a sign that his mind is elsewhere.
If he’s always looking at his phone or seems preoccupied with something other than your conversation, your man’s heart is far away from you.
When we are in love, our minds tend to wander towards the object of our affection, even when we’re physically present with someone else, and that might be your boyfriend’s case.
5. He doesn’t look at you with love in his eyes
”Look into my eyes, you will see what you mean to me”, goes a popular love song, and it’s true.
When we are in love, our eyes hold so much emotion for the person we care about.
If your man isn’t looking at you with love and adoration in his eyes anymore, if he doesn’t look at you the same way he used to, and if there isn’t as much passion between the two of you anymore, wahala! (meaning problem).
Of course, everyone has their off days, when they might not be as affectionate or expressive, but if this behavior becomes consistent, it’s worth noting, sis.
6. He doesn’t want to introduce you to his friends or family
When a man is serious about you, he will want to show you off to the people closest to him. He’ll proudly introduce you as his girlfriend and include you in gatherings with his friends and family, especially if you’ve been dating for a while.
So if he avoids introducing you to his loved ones or always has an excuse for why you can’t meet them, maybe you are not the one he wants to take home.
Even if you have met his loved ones, and he’s now loving another person, he will try to limit your communication with them.
7. He gets defensive
Every time you mention the word “baby” or something similar or you try to be affectionate with him, he gets upset and even angry with you.
He doesn’t want to be called that anymore because it makes him think of another woman when he hears it come out of your mouth.
8. He becomes unusually secretive
These days, the secret of a person’s life is in their phone.
If your man used to leave his phone lying around or never hesitated to show you something on it, but now he keeps it close, takes it everywhere with him, and even has a password, something might be up.
This change in behavior can only mean one thing: he has something or someone he wants to keep hidden.
That’s not even all.
He might angle his phone away from you when texting, clear his browser history more frequently, or be quick to close apps or email when you walk into the room.
All these behaviors give suspicious alerts, and you’d have to be really naive not to notice them.
9. No more future talks
Maybe before, you couldn’t stop talking about your future together.
You’d make plans for trips, discuss where you want to live, and even throw around the idea of marriage.
But now?
It’s like pulling teeth to get him to talk about anything beyond next week.
He’s suddenly not interested in making any future commitments or goals with you.
He doesn’t want to talk about the future or even get more serious because there’s a new girl on his mind.
10. He stops complimenting you
You know how good it feels when your man notices something about you.
Imagine when he says, “Hey, you look great today!” or “I loved that thing you did.”
It’s a small thing, but it really makes a difference.
If your man used to drop compliments on a steady and then suddenly it’s like a compliment drought, it’s natural to start wondering where all that warmth and attention went.
And it’s not just about missing the nice words but noticing that shift in energy.
His attention is getting pulled somewhere or someone else; that’s why he’s not paying you compliments, as they take away the attention from that other person.
11. He wants more personal space
If he is in love with someone else, your boyfriend will want to keep his personal space and distance from you.
He isn’t as comfortable around you anymore, so he feels like it’s best if you give each other some breathing space.
This is someone who used to be all over you.
12. Your instincts tell you something is wrong
If you are not the jealous or insecure type, and you feel like something isn’t right and that you’re losing him to another woman, even though he says everything is fine.
Another woman might be catching his interest.
It might not make sense to you at first because you don’t think there’s anything wrong but after time passes by, it becomes obvious he is in love with someone else.
A woman’s instincts are often right, so don’t ignore them.
13. He starts to shower you with gifts
If your man is falling for another woman, he may start buying you expensive and thoughtful presents as if they were going out of style.
He’s trying to compensate because he feels guilty, and showering you with gifts makes him feel better.
You know this isn’t normal behavior for your man, so he’s probably trying to cover up something.
What to Do When You Observe Signs He is in Love With Someone Else
If these signs ring true, it’s best if the two of you sit down and discuss what is going on instead of ignoring signs something could be happening behind your back.
He may not want to talk about it or even admit it because he doesn’t know how to tell you, but signs of him being in love with someone else are there.
You deserve an explanation as well as closure if, indeed, he is in love with someone else.
There are reasons people fall out of love that have nothing to do with cheating, so let him explain his side before assuming anything negative has happened between the two of you.
That way, you can have a productive conversation and come to an understanding.
If he does admit it, then the two of you need time apart because his being in love with another woman shows that something has changed between the two of you.
You need to respect what he is feeling and give him the time he needs.
Time apart will help you realize if this relationship can be saved or not.
Also, you shouldn’t indulge in self-pity or think something is wrong with you because he is in love with someone else.
You have no power over how he feels about another person or what he does with his life.
All you can do is find happiness within yourself, be the best version of yourself, and enjoy your life while you wait to meet someone who knows and appreciates your worth.
You deserve to be with someone who knows your worth and will reciprocate your feelings, not a man who is in love with another woman.
Chioma
Monday 18th of October 2021
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