Letting go of someone who you sincerely believed was the right one for you is never and will never be easy.
It becomes even harder to sever the ties holding you to that person when your connection with them is on a deep level.
Sometimes, you find it easier to remain stuck in a relationship that isn’t right for you rather than accepting the fact that it wasn’t meant to be.
If you feel that you need to break free from a situation or cycle such as that, some signs readily confirm whether your partner and yourself are truly meant to be, or not.
Generally, everyone tends to feel a different kinda way when they finally meet that one special person.
For starters, there are three fundamental things you should look out for between your partner and yourself – a mental connection, subtle chemistry, and an awesome physical connection.
When we talk about an awesome connection, it’ll make you feel like you’ve known this person all your life, the conversation is not forced and both of you are mutually attracted to each other.
Also, the chemistry and connection between both of you are top-notch.
For example, SOME of your likes, dislikes, and interests may be the same.
The connection and chemistry are meant to continue to grow by leaps and bounds and not just fade away or fizzle out as quickly as it started.
Communication is way easier when there is a strong and healthy mental connection between the both of you.
Due to the subtle chemistry between you and them, you feel at home instantly with them.
However, it’s an entirely different story when the love story between the two of you is not meant to be.
From the desk of relationship experts, I have sourced and brought you the surest signs that you and your partner may not be right for each other.
Enjoy the read!
7 Sure Signs You Are Not Right for Each Other
1. You’re Not Mentally Compatible With Them
It is good to have chemistry and every other kind of wonderful connection with your partner, but if both of you are unable to energize each other mentally, there may be a problem.
They may not be the right ones for you.
As a rule of thumb, communication is key in every form of friendship and relationship.
Communication is an integral part of every relationship that is meant to last.
The need to be able to have healthy communication between both of you and also have the ability to resolve any problems that might arise between you and your partner amicably and intelligently is paramount.
I don’t think you have found the right person for you if you always end up feeling frustrated after communicating with them, or there’s just no easy way to communicate with them.
2. They’re Perfect For You, But Are Not Ready For Commitment Yet
I don’t think there’s anything worse than being with your idea of a perfect partner in all aspects, only for them to tell you that they are not ready to be committed to any kind of relationship at the moment.
Even with the chemistry hitting the roof and the connection being amazing, if you’re not on the same page with your partner with regards to commitment in relationships, you’re not with the right person.
Your partner and yourself have to be on the same page and want similar things in life if it is meant to be.
There’s no way you’ll force someone against their will to commit to you in a relationship if that’s not what they want.
Saying that you can wait for them to change their mind about their stand, you don’t know how long it will take for them to get to that point.
On the flip side, you might be wasting your time because they might want to be with someone else when they eventually change their mind.
If you are not on the same page concerning the future of your relationship, it’s one of the huge signs you are not right for each other.
3. You’re Not Sure About Your Stand In The Relationship
Have you been trying so hard to convince yourself that you and your partner are good together and so, they are right for you?
There are chances that they’re not if this is the case.
You can be comfortable around them, have great conversation, and be attracted to them in every way.
However, if that’s all there is to the relationship, you’re just wasting your time with them.
If someone really wants you, it’s not so hard to know.
The signs will be there, glaring enough for you to see.
But if you are confused as to how much they value you and want you to be theirs, it’s one of the signs you are not right for each other.
4. Instincts Never Lie
You should be preparing to say your goodbyes if your instincts do not sit right with the person you’re seeing.
Perhaps, your gut is insisting that they’re not good for you and can’t be trusted.
I know how hard it can be to let go of a relationship where you’ve invested a lot of energy and time.
You’ll find it hard to bring yourself to believe that things are not working out.
So, you’ll prefer to wear a smile and choose to believe that all is well in your relationship.
You should learn to listen to your gut. It is almost always right.
5. It Is A Case Of What You Want VS What You Have
Firstly, this has nothing to do with their physical appearance.
Rather, it’s about how your partner makes you feel, treats you, and their behavior towards you.
You know that your partner isn’t right for you whenever you feel the need to change them or make them into the particular person you want them to be.
Although you can hope for change, don’t expect it.
And if your partner isn’t giving you the vibes you feel you should be getting, I think it’s time to take a step back and re-evaluate the relationship.
6. You Feel That You’re Not Good Enough For Them
Do you feel like you’re way too lucky to have your partner?
Like, they’re way out of your league and you don’t deserve them?
This could be a sign that you are not with the right person for you.
When you’re with the right one, all forms of energy and vibe will be almost or equal and reciprocated on both sides.
You should be comfortable in your skin around them and know that they adore you and find you amazing.
However, if you need to be a certain kind of way to be fully accepted by them, you should think about your choice of a partner again.
Because not dealing with this could lead to feelings of insecurity, clinginess, possessiveness and low self-esteem which could send the wrong signals to your partner and could ruin the relationship.
7. Efforts are One-Sided
If you are the only one running up and down to ensure the smooth running of the relationship, this may be a sign that you’re not right for each other.
If someone is into you, they won’t leave you to run the relationship alone.
If feelings are mutual, it should be accompanied by mutual efforts.
If you notice all these signs in your relationship and you’re convinced that you are not right for each other, you should ask yourself these 10 questions before ending a relationship.
They will surely guide you to make the best decision.
Tuesday 15th of June 2021
The one sided efforts and mental compatibility can be draining. They will always feel you are better than them. There's no time to waste time. Move on!
Tuesday 15th of June 2021
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