I’m sure no woman looks forward to an unhappy marriage on her wedding day.
We all look forward to happily ever after, but unfortunately, that’s not always the case.
Marriage can be challenging and requires a lot of effort from both partners to make it work.
But sometimes, even with all the hard work and dedication, some women still find themselves unhappy in their marriage.
So let’s take a closer look at some common types of married women who may struggle with unhappiness in their marriage.
11 Types of Married Women Who Are Unhappy in Their Marriage
1. The Perfectionist Wife
We all know that one woman who has a seemingly perfect life.
Her house is always spotless, her children are well-behaved, and she can whip up a Pinterest-worthy meal in no time, and the rest of us are left wondering how she does it all.
But behind closed doors, this woman may be struggling to maintain the facade of perfection in her marriage.
She may have high expectations for herself and her husband, and when those expectations aren’t met, it can lead to disappointment and unhappiness.
The earlier you accept that perfection eludes us all, the better it will be for your mental and emotional well-being.
2. The Neglected Wife
I get that, as a woman, you should not expect your husband to meet all of your needs.
But there are some needs your husband is expected to meet.
If there aren’t any expectations, why then do we marry?
If your husband neglects you, you are sure to be unhappy, no matter how independent you are.
Neglect can take many forms: emotional, physical, and sexual.
Emotional neglect is when your partner doesn’t give you the support and affection you need.
Physical neglect is when your partner ignores your physical needs, such as helping with household chores or taking care of the children.
And sexual neglect is when there’s a lack of intimacy in the relationship.
All of these can cause a woman to feel unloved and unhappy in her marriage.
3. The Resentful Wife
Resentment is like a poison that slowly eats away at a relationship.
It can come from unresolved conflicts, unmet needs, and even unfulfilled expectations.
If you’re the type of woman who holds onto grudges and doesn’t communicate your feelings effectively, you will become resentful towards your husband over time.
And believe me, there are lots of resentful wives out there who are unhappy in their marriages because of it.
4. The Bored Wife
Marriage can sometimes feel like a routine; in fact, let’s cut the crap.
Marriage is routine, especially when you have kids.
Each day is a repeat of the previous one, and it can become monotonous.
Some women, especially those who thrive on excitement and adventure, may become unhappy in their marriage because it lacks spontaneity and passion.
This kind of woman is more likely to engage in extramarital affairs as a means of spicing up her life.
5. The Lonely Wife
Being married doesn’t automatically mean you will always have someone to talk to and share your life with.
In fact, some women may feel even lonelier when they are in a marriage because their spouse is emotionally unavailable or doesn’t prioritize their relationship.
Yet family and friends don’t expect you to be lonely because you’ve got a man and or a family.
But the truth is, loneliness can creep into a marriage and make it feel like you’re living with a stranger.
This kind of loneliness is a sure path to unhappiness in a marriage.
6. Married Women Who are Financially Dependent
Marriage is a partnership, but unfortunately, not all marriages operate on equal terms.
Some women may find themselves financially dependent on their husbands, either by choice or circumstance.
This can lead to feelings of powerlessness and lack of control over one’s own life.
”A woman’s protection is a little money of her own,” said Clare Boothe Luce.
In a marriage where the woman has no financial independence, she may feel trapped and unhappy because she cannot make decisions that affect her life without consulting her husband.
I often tell people that whoever controls your finances controls your life, and it’s true.
What can you do without money?
7. Married Women Who Feel Stuck
This type of woman feels like she’s stuck in a rut.
She may feel like she’s lost her sense of self or that she’s not living the life she imagined.
Maybe she gave up her career to raise children or moved away from family and friends for her husband’s job.
Whatever the reason, this woman may feel resentful towards her husband and unhappy in her marriage because she feels like she has given up too much of herself.
This is why I always encourage women to get a life outside of their marriage.
Have your own hobbies, interests, and goals that fulfill you as a person, not just as a wife or mother.
But if all you wanna be is a wife and a mother, no judgment here.
Just make sure you are happy with that decision and that it doesn’t leave you feeling stuck in your marriage.
Also, find ways to enjoy the life you have chosen.
8. Married Women Who Are in an Abusive Relationship
This type of woman is not just unhappy in her marriage; she is also in danger.
Abuse can take many forms: physical, emotional, verbal, and financial.
Physical abuse: when your partner physically harms you, including hitting, shoving, or any other form of violence.
Emotional abuse: when your partner uses words and actions to belittle and control you.
Verbal abuse: when your partner verbally attacks you with insults and threats.
Financial abuse: when your partner controls all the money in the relationship and uses it as a means of control.
Abuse can leave a woman feeling trapped and scared, especially if she has children and nowhere else to go.
If you are a woman in an abusive marriage, please seek help and find a way out of the toxic relationship.
No one deserves to be treated with violence and disrespect, especially not from the person who is supposed to love them.
9. The Overworked Wife
Many women strive to have a successful career, take care of the home, and be a good wife and mother.
Society says we can have it all.
We can do it all!
Really?
Because it sure feels like we are expected to do it all.
The reality is that trying to juggle so many roles and responsibilities can make you look like a superwoman, but it can also leave you feeling exhausted and unfulfilled.
You cannot be constantly exhausted and happy at the same time.
So, when a woman feels overworked and overwhelmed in her marriage, it’s only natural that she will become unhappy with her situation.
10. The Unappreciated Married Woman
As if it’s not enough that most married women are overworked and exhausted, they are also unappreciated.
Most of the things we do as wives and mothers go unnoticed by our partners and families.
We are expected to cook, clean, take care of the kids, work, and still have time for intimacy.
But when was the last time your husband thanked you for doing all these things?
How often does he acknowledge the effort you put into making your home a loving and comfortable environment?
Lack of appreciation shows you are being taken for granted, and this can only lead to dissatisfaction.
11. The Wife of an Unfaithful Husband
Sharing is caring, but not when it comes to your husband.
I don’t think any woman would be happy to find out her husband is having an affair.
It’s not just the betrayal that hurts; it’s also the fact that your marriage may no longer be a safe and loving space.
Infidelity leaves a woman feeling unloved, unwanted, and insecure.
Even if she decides to work on the marriage and forgive her husband, it’s hard to forget the pain and mistrust that comes with such a betrayal.
Every woman deserves to feel loved, happy, respected, and secure in her marriage.
But unfortunately, not all married women have these feelings.
It’s normal to be unhappy in a marriage sometimes, but if you find yourself constantly unhappy and unfulfilled, wahala wa (there is a problem)!
Knowing what type of married woman you are will help you better understand your own feelings and take steps toward finding happiness in your marriage.