I once got ignored by a stranger at the grocery store; she was adding some items to her cart in the toiletries section, some steps from where I stood.
I needed something from that section too, but since that was the only thing I needed there, I didn’t want to go all the way just in case it wasn’t available.
So I asked her if the brand of toothpaste I needed was available there since she was already there.
I asked once, twice, thrice.
She ignored me!
I know for sure that she wasn’t deaf and she understood English.
She heard me but chose to ignore me.
This happened months ago, but I still randomly think about it sometimes and almost get upset.
Honestly speaking, we all know that it feels awful to be ignored in whatever fashion.
Be it by a close friend, family member, or even a stranger.
However, as a lady, being ignored by a guy, especially one you like, can feel like hitting your toe against a brick wall.
That thing hurts!
It can hurt so much, especially if he feels no remorse afterward.
You may be wondering if there are things you can do to make him feel bad for his actions.
I might have a few tips for you.
7 Surefire Ways To Make Him Feel Guilty For Ignoring You
1. Accept the reality of what he did
I’m sure this is not the first thing you expected to see, but before you click out or stop reading, I think you should let me walk you through what I mean.
The fastest way to ruin your plan of wanting to make him regret his actions is by wallowing in anger and self-pity.
These emotions will incapacitate you and make you unable to do what you need to do.
That’s why you need to be at peace with yourself first.
Accept the fact that he did what he did.
What he did does not make you any less of yourself.
Once you have done this, you can carry out the remaining steps easily.
2. Tell him
The goal is to make him feel guilty for ignoring you.
Depending on the kind of guy he is, you can achieve that by communicating how you feel to him.
He may be unaware that he has offended you or may have ignored you unknowingly.
In such a case, choosing the silent treatment and expecting him to figure out what he did wrong will not work because he may not even know you are upset.
This is typical of most people, and since we can’t read minds, it is best to let it out and communicate how his actions made you feel.
You can do this by verbally communicating it, sending him a text message, or whatever other way you choose, but by all means, tell him.
Unless, of course, you’re sure that, based on his personality, this is a dead end.
Honestly, I have stayed long enough in this relationship business to know that this may not work with all men.
So please fasten your seat belt, and let’s keep touring through the other practical tips I have for you.
3. Body language
If your mouth doesn’t do the magic, the next option is your body.
Body language always works if you use it well.
What we want to achieve is your body communicating what your mouth would have said.
You need to exude some level of reservation and calmness.
You’re saying, “I don’t feel good about the way you acted to me,” but with your body and not your mouth.
Make eye contact with him once in a while.
Not excited looks or sharp, full glares.
Just a random glance once is okay, and then look away for good.
Be calm, relaxed, and collected.
Let your demeanor let him know that he messed up.
4. Maximize your social media
I’m not such a fan of passing messages across to people via social media because it makes me feel cowardly.
This is because if I have something to say to you, I would rather say it directly to you.
However, I won’t deny that this social media tip has worked for many people.
Thanks to social media, people can talk to you without actually talking to you these days, all they need to do is post it on their social media where they’re sure you’ll see it.
This would work perfectly, especially for people who are not confrontational.
There are a gazillion and one quotes about what you feel; all you need to do is to search social media.
Pinterest is an excellent place to begin; you can search for “quotes to let him know that he ignored you.”
You will be surprised to find out that your feelings are not unique after all.
Many ladies have experienced this.
If you want to do this, you only need to save those quotes and post them on your social media stories where you’re sure he will see them.
That singular act might help you achieve what you’re seeking to achieve.
5. Ignore him back
Silent treatments may not work for everything and may not be the solution in all cases, but in cases like this, I can’t tell you that it does.
If you are hurt that he ignored you and you want to make him feel guilty, try ignoring him back.
It’s nice sometimes to give people a taste of their own medicine.
Wait for the perfect opportunities to come, and then ignore him completely.
He will soon realize that it’s easy to dish it, but it’s not easy to eat it.
6. Act like he doesn’t exist
This is silent treatment but on another level.
With silent treatments, some part of you may still recognize his existence and choose to ignore him, but with this, it’s a whole new ballgame because you do not even acknowledge his existence at all.
You are not even trying to ignore him; you just naturally aren’t conscious that he exists.
This will send a stronger message than silent treatment, making him quickly realize his wrong.
7. Move on with your life
This is a very crucial point that must not be left out because it is unfair to yourself to put your life on hold or remain unhappy because he ignored you, and you’re trying to make him regret it.
Nursing hurts, and offense can sprout bitterness in your life, and this can affect everything about you.
You can decide to take the high road: forgiveness.
We often think forgiveness absolves people of guilt and offense, but that’s not it.
Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself.
I must also point out that if the guy in question has made ignoring you a customary practice, then forgiving him and becoming cool again won’t do.
You need to set boundaries and shut the door of access he has to you.
Whatever steps you choose to take, you also need to move on with your life regardless.
Don’t hold onto the hurt or anger that you feel so badly that it begins to affect you.
Remember that he’s free as a bird and moving on with his life, so don’t make yourself a prisoner for no reason.
This is an important point because although the tips I gave you are great, he still might not feel guilty even after using them.
So it is best to keep an open mind.
You can’t make people do or feel things if they don’t want to.