Women love attention.
Give your woman enough attention.
Shower your woman with attention.
Inundate her with attention so she doesn’t see any other man.
These and many more are the popular relationship tips/myths you probably have heard from relationship gurus or anyone who seem knowledgeable about love matters.
Have you been showering your woman with attention but you feel like something is missing?
Is your woman unappreciative of you despite giving her attention to the moon and back?
Didn’t they say all women love attention?
Well, sorry to burst your bubble, bro, women do not love attention.
Really? You wonder.
What then do they love?
The right amount of attention.
Except for women who love being clingy or ones who love clingy men, women don’t just love attention but the right amount of attention.
Love might be a strong feeling of affection but loving someone and showing it the right way requires some skill.
So, it’s not just about being in love, you have to express your love in a way that is meaningful to the person you love.
Maybe your woman does not appreciate your attention because it’s not the right amount.
How do you know the right amount of attention to give to your woman so that you don’t labor in futility?
1. Understand your woman
I usually write in my articles about the need to treat your partner as a unique individual.
This will give you an idea of how to love them in a way that will be meaningful to them because you’ll understand their likes, dislikes, eccentricities, and other things that are peculiar to them; instead of treating them in general terms like, “women want this”, “women love that”, “women are this and that”.
Understanding your woman will help you to know the amount of attention that is meaningful to her.
While some women can’t imagine you not calling or chatting them in a day, some can go three days without talking to their men.
This doesn’t mean they’re no longer in love or that they no longer care, they just enjoy having some space.
In fact, giving them the needed space helps to renew their love for you. They feel choked with daily communication.
To understand your woman when it comes to attention, you have to pay attention to her spoken and unspoken words.
Does she complain when you don’t communicate daily or she’s cool with it?
You can also ask her to know what she wants.
2. Give her the amount of attention she wants
When you know the right amount of attention she wants, give her just that.
If she loves some space, give her that. Don’t be all over her, otherwise, she’d feel choked. If she’s the clingy type, she’ll feel unloved if you don’t spend quality time with her.
3. Marry your kind
Love is sweet when you marry your kind.
If you’re the type who loves to express your love by showering your woman with attention, it’d be great if you have a woman who loves to be showered attention.
If you’re the type who loves to take a breather, loving a woman who wants the same will make things easier for you.
Women don’t just love attention, we love the right amount of attention.
Understand your woman to know the amount of attention she’d love and appreciate, and work with that. Only then will your efforts be meaningful.
Saturday 8th of May 2021
Great piece! That no. 3 especially...I wish we can have it all but then, there are other things that can compensate not marrying our own type of person😊 Like you've said sha, it makes it easier to get along having someone who want attention as much as we want it👌🏽
Sunday 9th of May 2021
Exactly. Marry your kind.