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14 Clear Signs He Doesn’t Miss You

14 Clear Signs He Doesn’t Miss You

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So you’re in love with your man and you miss him but you’re not sure if the feeling is mutual.

Nothing is as painful as a one-sided love or effort in a relationship.

Love is sweet when you both miss and love each other—you know, mutuality.

What are the signs he doesn’t miss you? What should you look out for to conclude that your man doesn’t miss you?

Below are 14 signs he doesn’t miss you.


  1. He Doesn’t Initiate Communication

If he doesn’t initiate communication ever, whether it’s a phone call, text message or chat on social media, it’s a sign he doesn’t miss you.

When you miss someone, you’ll be dying to hear from them and what they’ve been up to.

A man who doesn’t miss you will not want to hear from you because he doesn’t miss you.

  1. You Always Initiate Communication

If you realise that you’re the only one who initiates conversations and checks up on him every time, it’s a sign he doesn’t miss you.

Perhaps you should take a back seat and see if he’ll step up.

If he doesn’t call or text after days of not initiating conversation, you’re not the one he misses.

  1. He is Always Busy

Even when you do initiate conversations, he’s always acting busy and telling you how busy he is.

If he’s not too busy to eat or drink, he shouldn’t be too busy to talk with you.

A man will not be too busy to stay in touch with you if he misses you.

  1. He’s Always Distracted When With You

Showing a woman an appropriate amount of attention is a way to show how much you love her, miss her and want to be with her.

If your man is always busy with some other things whenever you’re talking, chatting or even sitting side by side with him, then he doesn’t miss you.

If you always have to ask him, “Are you there?” whenever you’re talking with him, his mind is everywhere but with you.

He might be watching TV, playing his favorite game, fiddling with his phone, talking with other people while with you.

If he respects you, he should excuse himself from a distracting environment.

I know of many relationships that have ended due to this.

You’re talking with your man and he’s doing something else and not concentrating on the conversation every time!

He might even be talking with others and you’ll have to wonder which of his words are for you.

A man who misses you will not always do this.

  1. He Delays His Replies To Your Messages or Calls

If he takes forever to return your calls or reply to your messages, especially when you know he’s not at work or engaged with anything serious, it’s a sign he doesn’t miss you, sis.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying he should reply immediately to your messages or pick up your call at first ring at every time.

He could be busy at that moment.

But when someone misses you, they reply promptly to you (if they can) because they’ve been longing to hear from you.

  1. He Doesn’t Return Your Calls or Messages

This is similar to the last point but they’re not the same.

It’s a thing to delay his calls and messages, it’s another thing not to return your calls and messages. At all.

Then you’ll have to keep calling or texting to ask if he sees your calls and messages.

  1. His Excuses Are Not Genuine

If you confront him on his attitude towards communication and he gets defensive or gives a plethora of feeble excuses, it’s one of the huge signs he doesn’t miss you.

  1. He Doesn’t Initiate Dates or Hangouts

If you’re the only one who always comes up with ideas for a date or hangout and he leaves everything to you, he doesn’t miss you.

It’s okay if you’re the more creative person in the relationship and you come up with ideas for a fun date.

But a man who doesn’t miss you will not see the need for a date or hangout.

  1. He Never Visits

If you don’t have a ‘no visit’ policy, a man who misses you will want to visit you especially if you visit him as well.

If you’re the only one visiting him and he doesn’t care about visiting you, he doesn’t miss you, sis.

  1. He Doesn’t Want You To Visit

When a man misses you, he looks forward to seeing you or you visiting.

Not because he wants you to warm his bed, but to spend some time with you because he misses your company.

If he’s always giving reasons why you shouldn’t visit, he doesn’t want to see you.

It’s a sgin he doesn’t miss you enough to want to see you.

  1. He’s Always in a Hurry To End Conversations

When you miss someone, you feel like you can’t get enough of them.

You’d want to keep talking with them even though you can’t because of time constraints.

If this is not the case with your man, and he feels like you’re bothering him whenever you’re talking, he doesn’t miss you.

You’ll notice that he’s always in a hurry to end your conversations with him.

In fact, sometimes, he may cut you short in the middle of a call and say he has to attend to something urgent and will call you back.

But he never calls.

  1. Your Communication is Boring

If someone misses you, they will be excited to talk with you.

You can even feel their excitement pulsating through the phone.

But a man who doesn’t miss you will not be excited at hearing your voice.

In fact, he can be deliberately boring with you so you can end the call in frustration.

  1. He Flaunts His Happy Moments on Social Media

If he floods his social media pages with pictures of his happy moments and he’s not communicating with you, then he’s simply having fun without you.

I’m not saying he should not have fun without you but if he’s not keeping in touch with you and he’s having the time of his life especially with others, then he doesn’t miss you.

  1. He Doesn’t Say It

If he misses you, he’ll say it. If he doesn’t, he won’t say it.

It’s as simple as that.

However, I understand that not everyone is good with words, so that’s why you have the first 13 points of signs he doesn’t miss you.

What To Do When You Notice Signs He Doesn’t Miss You

It’s one thing to know the signs he doesn’t miss you, it’s another thing to know what to do about it.

To guide your decision, these questions could guide you :

  1. Do you love him?
  2. Are you sure he loves you?
  3. Do you understand his work and schedule? If his work gives him little or no time for himself, then his not giving you time may not be because he doesn’t miss you.
  4. Are you willing to talk to him about it?
  5. Are you comfortable with his response?
  6. What exactly do you want? Are you getting it from the relationship?

Your answer to these questions will help you to make the decision that’s best for you.

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Min yahoon

Friday 22nd of September 2023

Now we are apart and he is not listening to me there is some misunderstanding in our relationship but he can't discuss a past discussion but I truly love hm what I do he don't want a relationship with me anymore and I never want to Lose him please tell me how can I get him back infact he don't want to go on date with me and 3 months is done of our breakup what should I do please tell me I am very serious about him and I want to end my life with him but he avoid me and he broke his promise and he didn't cheat me but he is very loyal but he is only tired of me son any kind of relationships he is tired of love and I want him at any cost plz tell me just the way what should I do I am nothing without him


Wednesday 11th of May 2022

Hello and I would like to ask for advice. I have a lover who is currently studying In college.He tend to be busy yet he still had time to be with me.I initialy started the conversation though but he would be there through out the conversation.Time to time he would end dissappear and reply for about a week after.What should I do?

Mabel's Blog

Wednesday 11th of May 2022

Hi, It's good you realized that he could be busy in college. However, if a guy is serious about pursuing a relationship with you, one week is too long a time for him to respond to your message. That's a form of ghosting. Even if he'd have a busy week, he should let you know and carry you along. If he can make time to eat, bathe, and sleep, he should have time to communicate with you, no matter how brief.