Marriage is supposed to signify that a person is taken and therefore, off the market.
That means that the person has no business taking any form of romantic interest in another person.
Unfortunately, that is not the case for some people.
Some married people still step out on their partners to go after other people.
If a married man is showing interest in you, you most likely already know that what he is doing is wrong.
But you may be curious as to why he is doing what he is doing.
“Why would a married man be interested in me?” you may be asking.
I’ll tell you why.
Why Would A Married Man Be Interested In Me? 10 Reasons He Wants You
1. He’s a womanizer
I mean, isn’t this the most obvious reason?
Not only is it obvious, but it is also very true in most cases.
A married man would be interested in you because that’s just who he is and what he does.
He is a cheat and a womanizer.
Regardless of how much he tries to make you think it’s because you are special, eventually, you will find out that you are not the only one he’s going after.
Apart from his wife, he has other women in his life.
2. He doesn’t respect his wife
This is another reason why a married man would be interested in you.
A man who loves and respects his wife would keep his commitment to her and not cheat on her or look at other women lustfully.
This says a lot about that man’s view of life and how he sees women.
Best believe that if he doesn’t respect his wife, he won’t respect you either.
3. He’s not happy in his marriage
This is another likely reason why a married man would be interested in you.
He may be experiencing some form of emotional disconnection from his wife and be looking for it in other people.
Sometimes, married people have persistent and lingering issues that remain unresolved for a long time.
These issues can negatively affect both parties, making them unhappy and killing the affection and attention in the marriage.
If the man is unhappy and is also not getting any attention from his wife, instead of facing his marriage and trying to fix it, he may choose to face someone else.
4. He’s unhappy
His unhappiness may have nothing to do with his marriage.
He may just be unhappy in life generally.
Some married men develop an interest in other women outside their marriage due to their own feeling of lack of fulfillment and happiness.
He may be subjected to stress from external factors that are not related to his marriage or wife and choose to seek validation and support from another woman.
5. His wife cheated
Yes, he may want to use you as payback.
Cheating is painful and can leave devastating effects on the person being cheated on.
One of the ways people may react to their spouse cheating is to choose revenge.
If a man’s wife cheated on him and he’s very hurt, he may choose to find someone with whom he’ll also cheat on his wife.
You just might be that person.
6. You are irresistible
A married man may be interested in you because you have very striking and attractive features that draw people to you.
It might be your body, looks, personality, position, etc.
There just might be something about you that is incredibly attractive and magnetic, pulling people your way.
When you are irresistible, everybody will be drawn to you, including married men.
It takes a wise, disciplined, and focus married man to know that no matter how attractive you are, he has no business taking interest in you because he is married.
If this discipline and wisdom are lacking in a married man, he will be interested in you and show you his interest.
7. He wants to have fun
No serious reason exists asides from the fact that he just wants to flirt and have fun.
He may be showing you interest because he wants you to accept him and have fun with him.
His quest for excitement, adventure, and variety outside of his marriage brought him to you.
This does not mean that he hates his wife or wants to leave her.
It may just mean that he’s bored and craves the excitement and novelty a new relationship brings.
A marriage may not bring that fun because it is long-term and can become monotonous due to routines, challenges, and real-life issues.
8. Personal issues
Issues like self-esteem problems, midlife crises, and insecurities can be the reason a married man is interested in you.
These things can leave a man confused and at war with himself, causing him to reevaluate his choices and attempt to do something different.
He may find himself seeking affirmation from external things like other women and new quests.
These issues may be prolonged and they may also be temporary.
9. Close contact
If you are spending a lot of time with a married man either because of work or some other engagement, you shouldn’t be surprised when feelings come into play.
There was a time in my life when I use to frequent the gym because I was trying to lose some weight.
There was a married man I would meet there every day and we would talk and just work out.
Before long, what was a casual platonic acquaintance relationship became a friendship and was edging towards a romantic relationship.
The married man began to call me and started showing interest in me.
At that point, I knew I had to set up boundaries and strengthen them.
And so I changed the gym I was visiting and cut ties with him.
Things like this can create romantic feelings and lead to people developing sudden interest in other people even when they shouldn’t.
Yours might be a colleague relationship that began to involve emotional connection because you spend significant time together or share interests.
Without establishing firm boundaries, emotions will get involved and the lines will be blurred.
10. He just wants to be friends
This may not be common but it is very likely.
A married man may be showing interest in you because he likes your person and wants to be friends with you.
It may have nothing to do with a romantic relationship at all.
Maybe he wants to learn something from you or he just wants to add you to his network.
However, even if this is the case, boundaries should still be established.
Final words.
Although it is wrong, married people sometimes get romantically interested in people other than their partners.
Various factors may be responsible for this because attraction is a nuanced facet of our emotions as human beings.
If you find yourself in this situation, you can have a conversation with him about it and establish boundaries to preserve yourself and also to show respect for his family.
A married man showing interest in another woman does not mean that he intends to leave his wife or that he had a bad marriage.
It just says a lot about him as a person.
And even if he actually has a bad marriage, what he needs to do is seek professional help and converse with his wife about it.