It can be an awful feeling to think that someone you thought was interested in you is no longer interested.
You might still love him, but how can you tell he’s over you for good and it’s time to move on? What are the signs he is no longer interested in you?
Because, really, it could be sometimes hard to tell if a guy is no longer interested in you if he’s in a relationship with you and hasn’t broken up with you outright.
But the signs are always there; if you’re observant enough and not blinded by your emotions.
Here are signs that he is no longer interested in you:
12 SIGNS HE IS NO LONGER INTERESTED IN YOU
- He never asks you anything
You can tell a man is no longer interested in you when he doesn’t ask you any questions.
Even when he knows you’re going through something stressful, he doesn’t even check in to see how you’re doing.
They don’t ask you to show up for them at their events and functions.
They stop asking you out for dinner and movie dates.
2. Communication declines
There’s no doubt about it that if two people can’t find a way to openly and honestly communicate their needs and feelings to one another, the relationship doesn’t stand much of a chance long term.
Communication is the soul of a relationship.
If you love someone, you’ll want to hear from them and also talk to them.
You’ll want to share your day with them and get to know about theirs.
You’ll also want to know them more; because there’s always something to know about your lover no matter how long you have been together.
So, if a guy becomes nonchalant about communicating with you, it’s a strong sign he’s no longer in love with you.
3. He ignores you
Not only will a man who is no longer interested in you reduce initiating communication with you, he also ignores your messages and calls.
If he takes too long to respond to your messages and chats or to return your call, especially without a meaningful excuse, he’s probably no longer into you.
I mean, if you are in love with someone, you’ll be happy to hear from them.
If he’s not eager to hear from you or reciprocate your acts of communication, he simply doesn’t want to connect with you anymore.
Even if he’s going through some tough times, he should be able to communicate with you.
What are girlfriends for?
4. He doesn’t listen to you
If a guy doesn’t want to change despite your many complaints and seeing you upset, you’re not his priority.
When you love someone, you care about their feelings by listening to them, especially their complaints about you; because you don’t want to lose them.
If he doesn’t value your opinions let alone show a willingness to change, it’s because he doesn’t care enough to change, and he’s not afraid to lose you.
5. He stops talking about the future
It’s just another way a man avoids making a real commitment.
Men who don’t want to talk about the future don’t want to commit to that future.
He has his ideas of where his life is headed and he’s not convinced that you’re headed there with him.
6. He stops laughing with and smiling at you
That’s why, if a guy is interested in you, oftentimes he’ll tell a joke or say something that he thinks is pretty funny or witty.
The other is to see what kind of sense of humor you have. A guy who laughs is a guy at ease.
It’s always a good sign when someone can do that around you because when you are in love with someone, you want to make them laugh.
If he’s always uptight around you, look well, sis, it’s a sign he’s not feeling the relationship anymore.
7. He is suddenly too busy
He always used to have time to spend with you, but lately, he’s always got an excuse for why he can’t hang out.
He’s all of a sudden too busy to call, text, check on you, do something for and with you and do on.
What, did he suddenly change his entire life so that he’s got no room in his schedule for you?
No one is too busy for someone they care about.
If he has the time to eat, sleep, bathe, hang out with his friends, and do some other things, then he should have time for you.
8. His tone of voice changes towards you
He speaks or replies angrily.
He may even speak unkindly towards you, or say unfriendly things to you.
When his feelings change, his tone of voice becomes less affectionate, and starts to sound like he’s angry or irritated tone, it’s a sign he’s losing interest in you.
Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks.
If his heart is full of love for you, his mouth will speak it to you.
9. Reduced attention
See whether he pays attention.
When guys are interested in someone, they will make an effort to remember important things about that person like their interests, their schedule, birthdays, or facts about them.
Guys will stop paying attention and remembering these things when they aren’t interested anymore.
10. Efforts are one-sided
If you are the one making efforts to run the relationship and you feel like you are dating yourself, it’s a sign that he’s no longer attracted to you.
If you are the only one doing the calling and texting, buying gifts, visiting, planning dates, etc., he’s probably showing you the handwriting on the wall.
It takes two to tango, and if efforts are unreciprocated and unappreciated, it simply shows he doesn’t care about you anymore.
11. He doesn’t say ‘I love you’
When you are into someone, you want to let them know by telling them.
If your man hesitates to say the magic words ‘I love you’ to you, just like David (Tom Bateman) in Behind Her Eyes to his wife, Adele(Eve Hewson), it’s one of the signs he is no longer interested in you and the relationship.
12. Your instincts tell you
Women are blessed with the gift of instincts; it’s one of the feminine powers we have but do not use enough.
If a man loves you, you’ll know, if he doesn’t you’ll be confused.
If you constantly doubt his intentions and feelings for you especially if you are not insecure or clingy, your doubts are probably valid.
WHAT TO DO WHEN HE SHOWS SIGNS HE IS NO LONGER INTERESTED IN YOU
While it’s good (even though it’s heartbreaking) to know the signs he is no longer interested in you, it’s more important to decide on what to do; so that you won’t be hurt more than you already are.
Do you stay or move on? Do you give him a second chance or forget all about him?
The following tips will help you decide on what to do when you see signs he is no longer interested in you:
- Communicate with him
This is to help you seek clarity or closure, if possible.
You’ll want to know if he’s indeed no longer interested in you or he’s just dealing with issues of his own.
Also, you’ll be sure you are not making things up in your head.
If you are lucky, he could be honest with you and tell you his true intentions.
But no matter what, always remember that actions speak louder than words.
How he treats you is a stronger indication of how he feels about you, and not just what he says.
2. Don’t beg
No matter what, don’t beg to be loved.
Smart women would rather risk a broken heart than beg for love.
Whatever you get by begging, you sustain by begging.
If a guy is no longer interested in you, he has probably made up his mind.
Begging him will achieve nothing.
3. It’s okay to cry. Let yourself mourn and learn how to get over a breakup fast.
4. Don’t stalk him on social media. Block his number if you think that will help you to heal faster.
5. Don’t forget to open your heart to love again after healing. There’s someone out there for you, waiting to love you the way you deserve to be loved.
6. Make sure you learn how to date without tears because you need knowledge to date smart.
I hope you find love.
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Thursday 29th of September 2022
its just he is not the same anymore we don't kiss or hold hands on the bus he ignores me often hangs out with his friends i am breaking up with him.