Finally, it’s the weekend, and you hope to spend some quality time on a Friday evening with your boo.
Unfortunately, he tells you that he has plans to go to a bar or club, not even with you.
What business do you have in these places that have a reputation for being pick-up joints?
After all, you are in a relationship with me; what else are you looking for?
Well, the truth is that there are a few reasons why guys in relationships may still go to bars and clubs without their girlfriends.
The Real Reason Why Guys in Relationships Go to Bars and Clubs
1. To bond with their friends
Not every guy has friends who go to bars and clubs, but for those who do, it’s a way to bond and hang out with the boys.
Just like how girls have their girl’s night out, guys also need some time to catch up with their buddies without their girlfriends tagging along.
It doesn’t mean that they don’t enjoy spending time with you or that they want to flirt with someone else; they just need some bro time, too.
Bars and clubs are popular hangout places for most guys, and they often use them as a place to bond with their buddies.
Imagine being in a relationship, and you don’t really have time to hang out with your friends alone because your boyfriend is always with you.
You won’t like that.
Your friends wouldn’t like it either, and that’s how you lose your friends.
Guess who would be there for you if your relationship fails?
The ones you didn’t hang out with because you were always with your boyfriend.
So, if your guy goes to bars and clubs to hang out with his friends, don’t take it as a sign that he’s cheating on you.
It’s just important for him to keep some friendships alive and maintain healthy relationships.
Use that time to do the same for yourself.
2. To unwind and de-stress
Life can be stressful, and sometimes, guys just need to let loose and have some fun.
Bars and clubs offer a carefree atmosphere where they can relax, dance, and forget about their sorrows and responsibilities for a while and have a good time in a way that they can’t do at home.
In short, they just want to have fun and relax!
3. To feel attractive and wanted
Even though they are in a relationship with you, it doesn’t mean that guys don’t crave attention from other people.
Even as a married woman, I feel good when other men notice me.
I even tell my husband about it so he knows that other men find his wife attractive. lol
The same goes for guys; they enjoy being wanted and desired by others, too.
And it’s no secret that bars and clubs provide the atmosphere to attract attention from others, especially the opposite sex.
4. To explore their wild side
We all have our wild side, and sometimes guys just want to explore that side of themselves without feeling guilty or worrying about what their girlfriends might think.
Since bars and clubs are known for being wild and adventurous, it’s an opportunity for them to let their wild side out and do things that they wouldn’t usually do in their everyday lives or even with their girlfriends.
5. To mix and mingle with new people
Bars and clubs are great places to meet new people and expand your social circle.
Some guys may go there with the intention of meeting someone new, especially if they are into businesses or careers that require networking and connections.
Some may simply want to socialize and make new friends outside of their relationship.
So, going to bars and clubs for them to meet new people is a way to expand their connections, which can benefit both their personal and professional lives.
6. To fulfill a fantasy or desire
For some guys, going to a bar or club might be their way of fulfilling a fantasy or desire that they haven’t been able to explore in their relationship.
Whether it’s wanting to dance with other people, flirt without feeling guilty, or simply experiencing the thrill and excitement of being in a bar or club setting, it’s something that they may not be able to do with their partner.
7. To break monotony
Relationship/marriage is in stages, and the first phase called the honeymoon phase, is where everything is new and exciting and definitely fades away with time.
At some point, the regular date nights and movie nights at home or dinner with friends can become monotonous, and guys may feel like they need a change of scenery.
Going to a bar or club adds some excitement and spontaneity to their routine, making it more interesting.
The loud music and energetic atmosphere may just be what they need to break the monotony and have a fun night out.
8. To escape from relationship problems
Unfortunately, not all relationships are smooth sailing.
Sometimes, when there are problems in a relationship, guys may turn to bars and clubs as an escape from reality.
It’s their way of avoiding the issues, temporarily forgetting about them, and just enjoying themselves without any stress or tension.
Of course, this is not a healthy way to deal with relationship problems, but it’s something that some guys may do.
As you can see, there are various reasons why guys in relationships still go to bars and clubs without their girlfriends.
Aside from religious reasons, I’m an introvert by nature, and I don’t enjoy the noise and crowds of bars and clubs.
But I understand that guys going to bars/clubs don’t always go to hook up with someone else or cheat on their partner.
So, the next time your boyfriend tells you he’s going to a bar or club without you, don’t jump to conclusions and trust that he has a valid reason for wanting to go.
Who knows, maybe he just wants to dance and have some fun with his friends.
And if your instincts are telling you something is off, you can always talk to him about it and trust your gut.
No relationship can survive without trust, so you need to ensure you clarify things with your boo in order for you to feel secure in your relationship.
It’s not really about him going to bars or clubs; it’s about you trusting him.