People often argue if people in relationships should give 50% of their efforts each to make the relationship work.
Others say it should be 30%-70% or even 20%-80%, with one party giving more, usually the man.
Contrary to this popular opinion, healthy relationships happen when both parties individually bring 100% effort to the table.
Even on days when one party cannot give much, the other person still covers up for them and makes sacrifices and compromises where necessary.
If you are in a relationship where you are giving your best, but you do not feel like you are being served in return, it is a cause for concern.
A relationship you pour into should pour back into you, and if that isn’t happening, maybe he does not love you enough.
It is important to quickly recognize signs he doesn’t love you enough and know what step to take next.
13 Signs He Doesn’t Love You Enough
1. He Prioritizes Others Over You
A classical sign that a man does not love you enough is that you are not the priority in his life.
This may not necessarily mean he does not love you at all because you will notice that he puts in some effort for you, but he doesn’t love you enough to put you above other people in his life.
He listens to his other friends, especially female friends, over you; he would rather pay attention to someone else than you, and so on.
If you are in a relationship like this where you prioritize the man and give your best, but he does not prioritize you in return, it is because he simply does not love you enough.
2. He Is Not Willing To Inconvenience Himself
Love is all about going above and beyond for the person you love.
In a healthy relationship, doing things inconvenient for you to ensure your partner gets something they need is not an unusual practice.
When you love someone, you are ready to inconvenience yourself to the end so that they are satisfied or comfortable.
This is especially true for men who are very in love with their partners.
They are not fazed by little inconveniences to ensure their woman is comfortable.
If he is unwilling to go through any inconvenience for your sake, it means he does not love you enough.
3. He Makes No Allowances For Your Mistakes
A relationship is a partnership between two imperfect people, so mistakes and flaws can not be absent.
It is not unusual to do or say stuff that is not right and get your partner upset.
But forgiveness and tolerance are also present in a healthy relationship where love is present.
If a man keeps emphasizing your mistakes and making you feel bad about your flaws, it is a sign that he does not love you enough.
4. Your Ideas And Opinions Don’t Matter
Another sign that a man does not love you enough is that he does not value your ideas and opinions.
He does not see your contributions as useful or necessary.
It may be as bad as him shutting you down or as subtle as him waving everything you say aside.
Whatever the case, it is a sign that he does not value your opinions and does not love you enough.
This may be because your opinions and ideas are not informed or wise enough, and you have some learning to do, but regardless, a man who loves you will make you feel seen and heard and even show you areas you can improve on.
5. He Doesn’t Give You Gifts
What is love without giving?
Men who love their women often shower them with presents, especially because they know that most women love presents and many men love to show off by splurging money on their women.
Even men who may not have a lot of money still find ways to get little presents here and there for their woman to make her happy.
If he does not give you gifts, it is a sign that the man does not love you enough.
It could also be that he’s stingy and needs some growing up to do.
When you point out his stinginess, a man who loves you shouldn’t get defensive.
He should make efforts to change.
You can also demonstrate giving to him by buying gifts for him.
You can influence him to change.
6. He Hides You
Men who really love their women are proud of them and always seek opportunities to show them off to anyone who cares to look.
But if his love for you is not strong enough, you will find he is not eager to show you to anybody.
In fact, he may be consciously hiding you from his friends, family, and the public.
He will shy away from people seeing you both together and never post you on his social media.
When you see these signs, do not ignore them because they show that he does not love you enough.
7. You Do All The Work
A relationship comprises the efforts of both parties involved and not just one party.
In a place of mutual love and affection, one person will not be responsible for doing all the work.
If he has told you that he loves you and shows it occasionally but still leaves you to put in all the work in the relationship, it is a sign that he does not love you enough.
A man who loves you enough will put in work as much as you do or even more.
8. He Does Not Defend You
Men are protective and love to defend their women from external forces and any unpleasantness that may want to confront them.
If your man does not defend you when his friends or family speak ill of you or does not try to defend your image when someone or something threatens it, you have a clear sign that such a man does not love you enough.
9. He Does Not Apologize To You
A man who does not love you enough will never feel the pressure or need to apologize when he hurts you.
When he is wrong, he would rather seek ways to justify his actions or explain your pain away than accept his faults and apologize.
This is because his love for you is not strong.
10. He Is Not Afraid Of Losing You
This is an overflow of the point above.
A man who does not love you enough will find it difficult to apologize to you because he is not scared of losing you.
When a man is really in love with you, he wants to protect what you share and will be quick to own up to his faults and try to make things right so that he does not lose you.
The case is different for a man who does not love you much; he will be quite laid back and show no signs of being afraid of losing you.
11. He Is Not Concerned About Your Endeavors
A man who loves you very much will be interested in everything that concerns you.
Your life, work, family, health, etc., will be his concerns because he wants to ensure you have a good and wholesome life.
When you have concerns or issues with your work or career, he shows concern and seeks ways to help.
A man who does not love you enough is different, he barely shows any interest or concern for the things you do.
You can never bare your heart to him; he doesn’t even listen because he is not interested.
12. He Belittles You
When a man loves you enough, even though there are areas where you need to grow and be better, he does not make you feel less for them.
Instead, he tries to help you grow.
But a man who does not love you enough can belittle you and make you feel small for not knowing or having a particular thing.
13. He Can Not Make Sacrifices For You
Sacrifice is the hallmark of love.
You often know how much a person loves you by how far they are willing to go for you, even at the expense of their own time, money, or comfort.
This is not to say that you should always put your partner in positions where they have to choose between you and their comfort, but the few times that require someone going above and beyond for you, what is his response?
Is he willing to put in the work for you?
Or is he reluctant and even refusing to make any sacrifices?
If the latter is the case, he does not love you enough.
