When we (ladies) are in love, we talk. We talk. I mean, we spill almost everything on our minds. Even the most introverted of us becomes talkative.
It’s like we throw our filter outta the window and let words form themselves in our mouths.
While it’s good to be free with someone you’re in love with or dating, this habit usually puts us into trouble because we eventually say things that we shouldn’t say YET.
Again, while it’s good to be open and honest, I don’t think it’s everything you should tell a guy especially when you are just getting to know him.
That’s why I’ll be sharing with you 5 things you should not tell a man you’re dating ESPECIALLY at the inception of a relationship.
Your body count
Not every lady will marry as a virgin or get married to the man who deflowered them.
If this is your case, don’t go about telling the new guy how many men you’ve slept with.
Some guys ask for various reasons – to know how sexually active you are/were, how much you have explored, how to handle the sexual aspect of the relationship etc.
Telling him the number of people you’ve had sex with is simply TMI (too much information).
How will that help him in any way?
And when you decide not to have sex in the relationship, some go like, “What’s the big deal? It’s not like you haven’t done it with a lot of men. Why can’t you do it with me?…. Bla bla bla”
No matter how excited or in love you are, don’t go reeling off your body count to a guy.
Your assets and fortunes
I know it’s good to be open but if you haven’t developed enough trust in a relationship, don’t go telling him about your fortunes so that you won’t end up being used or manipulated.
You want a guy to love you for real and not for your money especially if he’s not as wealthy as you.
Even if he loves you for real, knowing that you have some fortunes somewhere will give him hope that you can always help him whenever he runs into any financial mess.
Remember Acrimony by Tyler Perry?
I’m a great fan of Tyler Perry but Acrimony annoyed the hell out of me!
I’m not saying you can’t bail out the one you’re dating out of a financial situation. I’m just saying you should be careful, especially if you’re a generous person.
Your mother/father’s weaknesses
I know you want him to know your parents for real but don’t go about saying things that will bring dishonour to your parents.
Protect your parents’ integrity. Remember a guy will treat your parents the way you treat them.
Talk about your parents to him the way you want him to treat them.
I’m not saying your parents are perfect. No one has a perfect parent but they love us all the same.
When you become a parent, you’ll understand that you don’t have to be perfect to be a parent.
Your family’s secrets or drama
Every family is peculiar, so is their drama. Don’t go spilling out your family’s secrets and drama to him as long as they don’t affect him in any way.
When he becomes a part of the family, he’ll see things for himself.
Let him know you value your family even though you have your dramas. Let him know when he’s crossing the line.
No man will respect and value your family more than you do.
A painful past you’ve dealt with
Not everyone has a clean slate from the past. If there’s a past you don’t like to remember because it haunts you, then don’t share it with him ESPECIALLY if it doesn’t affect him or the relationship in any way.
It doesn’t mean you’re not real. You’re only keeping the air of mystery around you.
More so, humans are unpredictable. When the chips are down, he can dig up the horrible past you’re trying to bury in the first place.
So, girl, seal those lips and don’t let emotions cause you to say things that will get you trapped.
Let him earn your trust and confidence before you share sensitive information about you with him.
Also, make sure the disclosure is mutual. If he’s not telling you deep things about himself with you, then keep your truths to yourself.
Love with wisdom.
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