No doubt, infidelity is a painful experience, especially for those who have been on the receiving end.
It hurts to know that the one person you trusted the most has betrayed you.
As if it’s not bad enough that some men have one mistress, there are those who have multiple mistresses.
Isn’t one woman trouble enough?
But what’s interesting is that not all men who have mistresses are the same.
They come in different shapes and forms, each with their own reasons for cheating on their wives.
9 Types of Married Men Who Have Multiple Mistresses
1. The “I love my wife, but…” Guy
You’d think that if you really love someone, you wouldn’t cheat on them.
Well, for a reasonable man, that’s true.
But for this type of married man, it’s not that simple.
He is the type of man who can’t stop talking about how much he loves his wife.
He is always emphasizing how he cannot do anything that will hurt her feelings, even to his mistresses.
However, he’ll find a way to justify his unfaithfulness, saying things like, “I love my wife, but she’s too busy for me.”
“I love my wife, but we don’t have sex anymore.”
Bla bla bla.
The weird thing is that his ‘buts’ might actually be true.
But that doesn’t give him an excuse to cheat.
He still needs to communicate with his wife and work on their issues instead of seeking affection outside the marriage.
2. An Unhappily Married Man
Some men are not happy in their marriages, but they don’t have the guts to end it.
So what do they do?
They find someone else to fill the void.
This type of man is often insecure and lacks the courage to make a tough decision.
He may use his mistresses as an escape from the problems in his marriage, believing that it’s easier to have someone new than to fix what’s broken at home.
But in reality, he’s just avoiding facing his issues, and eventually, they will catch up to him.
3. The “I Need an Ego Boost” Guy
Being successful doesn’t necessarily mean a man has high self-esteem.
Some men crave validation and attention from other women to boost their ego.
They may have everything they want in life, but deep down, they feel inadequate and seek affirmation from others, especially women.
So, don’t be surprised to realize that this man is usually successful in his career and has a good reputation.
Having multiple mistresses makes him feel desired and boosts his ego.
He loves the thrill of the chase and enjoys the attention he receives from his mistresses.
Really, think about it.
Who can afford to keep multiple mistresses?
Only someone with plenty of money and a fragile ego.
4. The Sex Addict Cheater
Sex is pleasurable, no doubt, but some men take it to a whole new level.
They have an insatiable appetite for sex, and their wives can’t keep up with them.
So they have multiple mistresses because one is not enough to satisfy their cravings.
Also, they might be addicted to the excitement and thrill of having sex with someone new constantly.
This kind of cheating goes beyond just physical pleasure.
It’s a serious issue that needs to be addressed with therapy and professional help.
There’s nothing normal about addiction of any kind.
No matter how pleasurable something is, excess of everything is poisonous.
5. The Serial Cheater
You know there are men who have ‘reasons and excuses’ for cheating.
This one here cheats because he wants to.
He doesn’t have a specific reason or excuse for his infidelity.
He just does it because he can.
He may have the best wife any man could ask for, but it’s nothing to him.
He sees his mistresses as mere objects and conquests and can easily discard them when he gets bored.
Sadly, this type of man may never change because he has no remorse whatsoever.
They are the ultimate players, and it takes a strong woman to see through their charm and leave them.
That’s why I SMH for women who think they can make a serial cheater who was dumped by multiple ‘miserable’ wives change.
What makes you different from the other women?
What do you have that they don’t have?
So don’t fool yourself, sis.
Yes, you are special, but you are not that special to a serial cheater who has no regard for women’s feelings and himself.
Some men are obsessed with their careers to the point where they neglect everything else.
Including their marriage.
They spend most of their time at work, and when they come home, they’re too tired to even engage in a conversation with their wives.
So when the opportunity presents itself, for example, during business trips or late nights at the office, these men may indulge in extramarital affairs.
They may not even realize the full extent of their actions as they are too focused on their work.
But that doesn’t make it any less hurtful for their wives.
7. “I’m Just Friends with All of These Women” Guy
This is the type of man who chooses to have emotional affairs instead of physical ones.
He may not necessarily engage in sexual activities with these women but will rather create emotional bonds.
They are the sleekest of all liars, as they will try to convince their wives that these women are just friends.
They will make you question your sanity and make you feel like you are being irrational for suspecting them of cheating.
Forming a special connection with someone other than your wife is still a form of cheating, and it’s not ok.
Be aware of this type of man, as they are the most difficult to catch.
8. The Mid-Life Crisis Cheater
You must have heard the term ”midlife crisis” before.
It’s a period when people, usually in their 40s or 50s, start to question their identity and purpose in life.
These internal struggles can lead them to make impulsive and reckless decisions, such as having multiple affairs.
The mid-life crisis cheater may feel like they missed out on some experiences in their youth, so they try to make up for it by being with younger, more attractive partners.
But in the end, they often realize that their actions were wrong and regret hurting their loved ones.
It’s why midlife affairs rarely last.
9. The Opportunistic Cheater
This man doesn’t go looking for affairs, but when an opportunity presents itself, he jumps on it.
He may be out with his colleagues, and a female coworker shows interest in him.
He may go on a business trip and meet someone at the hotel bar.
The opportunistic cheater might not have a plan to cheat, but when the opportunity arises, they don’t hold back.
He takes advantage of these situations, even though it goes against his moral code.
It’s easy for them to rationalize their choices and convince themselves that it doesn’t really count as cheating.
They think that because their partner isn’t around, or will never find out, then it’s okay to take advantage of the situation.
The funny thing is that this type of cheater usually feels guilty about what he’s done and works hard to repair the relationship after the fact.
I’ve always believed that cheating is never about the other person.
It’s about the one who cheats.
So if you’re a woman reading this, don’t blame yourself for your husband’s infidelity.
It has nothing to do with you.
These men have their own reasons and motivations for cheating, and it doesn’t always have anything to do with your performance as a wife.
After all, what could you have done to deserve being cheated on with multiple women?
The answer is nothing.
It’s up to the man to take responsibility for his own actions and be accountable for them, not shift the blame onto you.