Being on this blog post is probably you coming here to find out what really goes on in the head of your man when he looks at other women, whether you are there or not.
It is a million-dollar question that has baffled women across the globe.
Could it be because of infidelity?
Could they be because of societal pressure?
Could this signify betrayal?
All of this will be answered in this blog post.
What I just need you to do is read with an open mind and not be quick to judge your man on any of the points.
They are all obtained from real-life conversations with actual married men, and I am pleased to share my discovery with you.
Why Do Married Men Look At Other Women? 8 Reasons They Do
1. Natural Human Instincts:
Yes, I put this first because even as a woman, when I see a fellow woman pass and she looks attractive, trust me, I stare.
I cannot help it; it is simply human nature.
When your man looks at other women, he is not trying to hurt or disrespect you.
It is merely his natural instincts that are wired within him.
Remember, I didn’t say he is ogling at her.
An innocent stare from a man at a woman who is passing by can just be of appreciation based on the natural human instinct and nothing more.
Crush the mentality that tells you that a man staring at a woman is primarily because of infidelity.
It is merely a natural instinct, and it shouldn’t cause any alarm bells.
Just like natural instinct, men tend to look at other women that look different from their women.
I remember some time ago, I was at the beach with my boyfriend, and we couldn’t help but stare at some ladies who were dipping in the pool in front of us.
At some point, we even commented about some of them and their body.
Now that I think about it, I remember we were talking more about the slim ladies and I, on the other hand, happen to be on the big side.
But instead of feeling insecure or jealous, I realized that it was just a natural human tendency to appreciate beauty in all its forms.
Just like how we are drawn to look at a beautiful sunset or a majestic mountain, the same applies to admiring the physical appearance of another person.
The look or admiration a man shows for someone different and new by your man does not mean he actually wants to leave you.
Believe me, it doesn’t go beyond the looks and stares he gives at that point.
Just make sure that these actions do not cross any boundaries or hurt your feelings.
It is natural for humans to appreciate beauty and diversity, but it should never come at the cost of hurting someone we care about.
3. Influence of the Media:
The media culture has so much imposed what the image of an ideal beauty is.
It doesn’t matter if it does not correspond with what you have in your head as a man, it is your preferred choice of what beauty means.
This constant exposure to this beauty standard can engrave a form of subconscious comparison in the mind of a man.
This is even irrespective of his marital status.
This constant comparison in his head is what makes him stare at a woman who looks different from his wife.
Sometimes she might not even look different, but because he has been programmed to see a certain type of beauty as ideal, he may be drawn to look at her more than his wife.
Furthermore, the media often portrays women as objects for male pleasure and objectify their bodies, leading men to view women solely based on their physical appearance.
The constant exposure to these standards can subconsciously make a man compare and appreciate different physical traits, even when happily married.
4. Communication Meltdown in the Marriage:
Communication meltdown in a marriage simply means that the parties in the union are not hearing each other again.
This can come up as a result of a number of factors like lack of trust, unresolved conflicts, and even emotional detachment.
With the breakdown of communication, it becomes difficult for couples to understand each other’s needs and concerns.
This can drive a man to seek validation and connection outside the marriage with someone who listens and understands him.
And before he finds a person who will listen and understand him, he would have to establish a link or relationship with this person.
Somehow, we know it all begins with a glance, then a stare, then a smile, and before you know it, an emotional affair is born.
I’m not justifying this act as a January reason to look at another woman.
I’m only stating that communication, meltdown, and frustration are some of the things that can lead a man to look at another woman, which also is the foundation of an emotional affair.
5. Emotional Infidelity:
I already laid the foundation for emotional affairs and infidelity in the previous point.
But putting it in the context of this point, I’ll explain what emotional infidelity is again.
Emotional infidelity is defined as an emotional connection or intimacy with someone outside of the marriage that goes beyond friendship.
It may involve sharing personal thoughts and feelings with this person instead of your spouse, seeking comfort in them during times of distress, or developing romantic feelings for them.
Emotional infidelity can be just as damaging to a relationship as physical infidelity, as it breaches the trust and emotional commitment between partners.
It is that relationship that you claim is not sexual, but you know that deep down, the conversations you have with this person can destroy the relationship you have with your spouse.
When a man is having an emotional affair with another woman who happens to pass by, he is bound to stare at her.
His heart will flutter at the sight of his “safe space.”
6. Habitual Glancing:
A married man can stare at a woman because he does this unconsciously.
What do I mean?
I am simply saying a man can unconsciously be a “glancer” habitually.
It could be due to his upbringing or past experiences, where he was conditioned to look at people and in this case, women whenever they pass by.
This could be because it is a form of stimuli response to the things around him.
It is a habit that has been ingrained in him, and he may not even realize it.
If you pay attention, you might realize he isn’t just staring at random women but, more likely, everyone who comes into his space or a certain radius.
This shows that it is not just a coincidence but rather a pattern in his behavior.
7. Lack of Boundaries:
In some cases, a married man may stare at other women because he lacks boundaries.
This is one of the issues that come up when a man starts to disrespect a woman.
He has no regard for her boundaries, and he doesn’t have one, too when it comes to relating with other women.
He has no form of dedication to the fact that he is in a committed relationship.
This lack of boundaries can also extend to other aspects of his life, such as work or friendships.
In this case at hand, he will not see anything wrong with staring at other women because he has never been taught to respect boundaries or understand the consequences of his actions.
8. Her Dressing Calls for Attention:
In some cases, a married man may stare at other women because of the way she is dressed.
When a woman dresses in a provocative or sultry way, a man is more likely to notice her and be drawn to her.
This can be a look of disgust in some cases as he will wonder why she has to be so provocatively dressed.
Sometimes, the fashion sense of the woman in question might be amusing, and that dramatic show of clothes and accessories calls for a stare.
In all of these, the reasons a married man might even stare at another woman might be more than just one reason.
It could be a cocktail and like i said in the beginning, you need to objectively know why your husband is doing such before you take appropriate action on that.