Mixed signals are the worst!
If you’ve ever been in a relationship with a guy who gives you mixed signals, then you know how frustrating it can be.
A guy might say he wants to spend more time with you but then cancel plans at the last minute.
He might say that he thinks you’re great, then act like he barely knows you when his friends are around.
He might tell you that he doesn’t want anything serious and then ask when you’re going out again.
These are some examples of mixed signals from guys.
What Are Mixed Signals?
Mixed signals are a confusing situation when a person says one thing, but their actions say another.
This can be frustrating, especially when trying to figure out what the other person wants from you.
Mixed messages can be confusing, but if you know what to look for, they’re easy to spot.
So, in this article, I’ll be sharing twenty common examples of mixed signals from guys.
There are a lot of reasons why a guy might give you mixed signals:
He is not sure about his feelings for you
He wants to date someone else
He doesn’t think he can handle a relationship with you
He wants to keep his options open
Below are twenty examples of mixed signals from guys:
20 Commonest Examples of Mixed Signals From Guys
- He’s flirty but never actually asks you out
This is one of the most common ways guys send mixed signals.
They flirt with a girl they’re interested in, but they don’t ask her out on a date.
They may even make plans to hang out with her and then cancel them at the last minute because something came up.
Flirting with someone communicates your interest in them and shows you like them.
It’s confusing when a guy flirts with you and does nothing afterward.
2. He talks about how great your relationship could be but doesn’t put in any work
When a guy makes big talks about how great a couple you couæd be but doesn’t put in the work to make it happen, you wonder if he’s truly interested in you or just saying things you want to hear so he could get laid.
3. He says he’s not ready for a relationship, but he texts you all the time
This is so annoying.
Why is he texting you all the time if he’s not ready for a relationship?
Mixed signals much?
4. He says he doesn’t want to label things, but he introduces you as his girlfriend to his friends
If he’s not ready to label things, why is he introducing you as his girlfriend to his friends?
This is a huge mixed signal and can be confusing.
5. He says he’s not ready for a relationship, but he sleeps with you
This is another frustrating mixed signal.
If he’s not ready for a relationship, why is he sleeping with you, especially if you want something serious?
This just doesn’t make any sense.
6. He thinks you’re great, but he’s not ready for a relationship
If he indeed thinks you are great, why doesn’t he want to date you?
7. He’s seeing someone else, and he might be interested in something with you, but he’s not sure yet
He’s seeing other people but says you and him might have something worth pursuing.
If this isn’t mixed signals, I don’t know what is.
8. He likes you, but he doesn’t think he can have you
He thinks you’re out of his league.
He’s sure that you would never go for a guy like him.
If he’s serious about you, he should leave you to decide whether he’s out of your league or not.
9. He starts out really into you and then backs off for no reason
He was really into you at first.
He was always texting you.
He’d answer your texts immediately, and he made plans for the future.
And then, for no reason, he started being slow to respond, or he wouldn’t respond to your texts or call you.
It’s one of the common examples of mixed signals from guys; pursuing a woman and going cold on her.
10. He jokes about dating you but then says he doesn’t want a relationship
Sometimes, a joke has an iota of truth, and people make their intentions known humorously.
If he’s making jokes about dating you but then says he doesn’t want a relationship, he’s sending mixed signals, and that’s confusing!
11. He says he likes you yet talks about other girls in front of you and hopes you get jealous
If he truly likes you, why then is trying to get you jealous by flirting with other women in your presence?
Nothing is as confusing as this.
A man who wants you in his life should be trying to impress you, not pissing you off.
12. He publicly shows that he cares about you or misses you but won’t tell you the same thing in private
If a guy is saying he misses you and telling you he cares about you but won’t tell you the same thing in private, it’s a red flag.
If he’s trying so hard to show affection for you when other people are around, it might be because he doesn’t really have much interest in being with you.
13. He takes you out on dates but won’t call it a “date”
If a guy keeps hanging out with you but never calls it a date, what then is it?
A mixed signal.
He might think of you as a friend, or he may not be ready to commit.
Either way, he’s not clear about what he wants from you.
14. He only gets close to you in private and always hides it from his friends and other people
If he’s intimate with you in private, you expect him to give you the same vibe when you are in public.
If he’s not doing that and being secretive, you wonder what exactly he’s doing with you.
15. He says he misses you, but he doesn’t make an effort to see you
If he’s telling you he misses you but never tries to see you, then he’s not being genuine.
He might miss the idea of you or the attention you give him, but he doesn’t miss you.
If he misses you, he will make an effort to see you.
16. He is always busy, but he always has time for his friends
He’s always busy but somehow still finds time for his friends, yet he says he likes and misses you.
If he does, why does he have time for everyone but you?
17. He says he doesn’t want to lead you on, but he kissed you
He says he doesn’t want to lead you on, but he’s always looking at your lips.
He says he doesn’t want to lead you on, but his eyes say something else.
Nothing is as confusing as a man whose actions lead you on and but his words say otherwise.
18. He begs to hang out with you but doesn’t pay attention when he’s with you
He calls and texts you often, makes plans with you, and even asks you to hang out with you.
But every time he hangs out with you, he gets weird.
He doesn’t make eye contact with you or talk much.
Sometimes he makes excuses to leave early or says he has to work in the morning, even though it’s not true.
Why does he want to spend time with you if he won’t pay attention to you or engage you?
19. He likes all your social media posts but doesn’t want to go out with you
If a guy likes all your social media posts and even flirts with you inbox, but doesn’t want to go out with you, he just might be sending you mixed signals.
If he likes all your social media posts and wants to see you in person, he probably has genuine feelings for you.
20. He texts back right away when you text him but never texts first
If he texts back immediately when you send him a text, especially if it is something important but never texts first (or rarely does), he may be sending mixed messages.
If he always texts first (or frequently does), his behavior is probably genuine.
How To Deal With Mixed Signals From a Guy
If any of the above examples sounds familiar, a guy is showing you mixed signals.
If a guy shows you mixed signals, ask yourself: Am I confused by his behavior?
Do I feel hurt by what he says or does?
Why do I think he might be sending mixed signals?
Also, talk to him and be honest about how his actions make you feel.
Talking to him will help you clarify things and know what he wants from you instead of leaving you confused.
If he continues to show you mixed signals, it’s better to cut him off before you are trapped in a cycle of desire, anger, and confusion.
A guy who can’t decide what he wants from you doesn’t deserve a place in your world.