While there are men who will never leave their wives, there are also men who do just that and marry their mistresses.
Sad, yeah, but what’s even sadder is that it takes a lot of guts to fall in love with someone who is already married.
And even more, to eventually marry them.
But before you go judging these men (and women) on their moral compass or lack thereof, let’s take a look at the different types of men who choose to marry their mistresses because they exist, and we know some of them personally.
8 Types of Men Who Marry Their Mistresses
1. The Impulsive Type
Have you ever bought something on a whim without really thinking it through?
You get home with the item and wonder what you were thinking when you made the purchase.
This usually happens to me when I find an item on sale and feel like I have to take advantage of the deal.
A few minutes ago, I disposed of the coleslaw I got from the shop last week because there was a 50% discount.
I didn’t eventually eat it, and I wasn’t pleased that I wasted food, but that’s how it is with impulsiveness.
This same impulsive behavior can also be seen in men who marry their mistresses.
These are the type of men who act on impulse and follow their desires without thinking about the consequences.
They may feel attracted to their mistresses and decide to marry them without considering the impact it will have on their current relationship or family.
In some cases, this impulsive decision leads to divorce or unhappy marriages because the man didn’t take the time to think things through.
Marriage is for adults, not kids!
Making such a huge decision as marriage should not be based on impulsiveness but on careful consideration and rational thinking, but impulsive men don’t get the memo.
2. The Greedy Type
There are men out there who have everything they could ever want – a loving family, a successful career, and financial stability.
But for some reason, they still feel the need to have more.
These men are never satisfied with what they have and are always looking for something new, exciting, and forbidden.
That’s where their mistress comes in.
They may feel attracted to their mistress’s youth, beauty, or carefree attitude, and they will do anything to make her theirs.
This greediness leads to them marrying their mistresses as a way of possessing them fully.
But this type of marriage is built on the foundation of greed and not love, which often leads to disaster.
I don’t understand why some people will ruin what took them years to build for the thrill of a few moments.
3. The Midlife Crisis Type
Mid-life crisis is a common phenomenon where people in their 40s or 50s go through a period of self-doubt, question their life choices, and feel like they’re missing out on something.
I’m sure you have seen middle-aged men buying expensive sports cars or dating younger women in an attempt to relive their youth or rediscover themselves.
Some of these affairs become serious and lead to marriage.
These men may feel like their mistresses represent a younger, more exciting version of themselves, and marrying them is a way to escape their current lives.
4. The Financially Stable Type
Recently, I heard of a broke man who has a wife and three kids, and still went ahead to marry his mistress.
If this isn’t foolishness and self-destruction, then I don’t know what is.
I’m sure the dumbest person alive will be happy to swap places with man.
Because, how can you be soaked in the waters of poverty and yet open a tap to let more water in by adding a new family to the one you can barely care for?
I’m just trying to establish that it’s rare for a financially unstable man to marry his mistress.
It’s usually the men who have a stable financial foundation that can afford to maintain two or more families.
They have the resources to support their mistress and can even provide for them better than their current wife.
Wait, some of these men actually divorce their current wives to marry their mistresses.
I guess money does buy happiness for some people, even if it means breaking the hearts of those they once loved.
I don’t want to mention names, but I’m sure some popular names come to your mind when we talk about wealthy men who have married their mistresses.
5. The Materialistic Type
These types of men are similar to the wealthy type, but not every wealthy man is materialistic, so this one deserves its own explanation.
These materialistic men are usually quite successful and accustomed to getting what they want.
They often see their mistresses as trophies and are attracted to their status and social standing.
They can often provide their mistresses with a lavish lifestyle and are often willing to do whatever it takes to keep them happy.
In return, their mistresses may overlook the lack of love or emotional connection in their marriage.
These marriages are often built on superficial things rather than genuine love and compatibility.
And when the materialistic man can no longer provide for his mistress, the marriage may crumble as well.
When the branch breaks, the bird takes flight, says a Yoruba adage.
6. The Romantic Type
Have you seen romantic movies where the man leaves his longtime girlfriend or wife for a new passionate, and exciting love interest?
Well, unfortunately, this happens in real life too.
Some men may feel like they have fallen head over heels in love with their mistress and see her as their true soulmate.
They often romanticize the relationship and believe that their current relationship cannot compare to what they have with their mistress.
But as we all know, the initial spark of romance may fade over time, and the reality of marrying a mistress may not live up to their expectations.
And just like in those movies, they may end up regretting their impulsive decision.
You know the grass isn’t always greener on the other side.
7. The Emotionally Sensitive Type
This type of man is unhappy in his marriage and may be emotionally vulnerable.
Maybe he’s not getting the love, attention, or emotional support he desires from his wife and seeks it from his mistress instead.
His mistress may provide him with the emotional connection he’s been yearning for, and he falls in love with her.
He may see marrying her as an escape from his current unhappy marriage, so he does that.
8. The Love-Struck Type
Okay, so there are men who simply fall in love with their mistresses.
They may have had an affair, but it turns out to be something more.
They genuinely love their mistress and want to spend the rest of their lives with her.
These are the rare cases where marrying a mistress actually works out because it’s based on genuine feelings instead of impulsive decisions or superficial reasons.
But let’s not forget that this type also comes with its own set of challenges and complications, especially if the mistress was once just a secret affair.
One funny thing about this life is that not every man who marries their mistress regrets it.
Some of these marriages actually work out, and the couple lives happily ever after.
But that doesn’t deny the fact that marrying a mistress is a risky move.
It’s often built on unstable foundations and can result in heartache and disappointment.
It’s simply not ideal.