No one enjoys that moment after a first date when you have to decide whether or not to text the other person.
You rack your brain for any tiny sign as to whether or not things went well.
If you’re lucky, the answer is clear-cut and easy to make decisions from there.
In this blog post, we’ll cover some signs there will be no second date so that you can move on with grace and save yourself the trouble of wondering what could have been.
24 Signs There Will Be No Second Date
1. Lack of common interests
If you and your partner do not share any common interests, likely, you will not see each other again.
This is especially true if you have nothing to talk about.
Shared interests are key in any relationship.
If you just met someone who does not share any of your interests, do not try to force things by continuing to see this person.
It is better to end things at the first meeting so that neither one of you feels awkward or uncomfortable in the future.
2. Awkward pauses
Indeed, conversations can sometimes lag on first dates, but if it feels like every time you run out of things to talk about is followed by an uncomfortable silence, it could be a sign that there is little chemistry between you.
I know that awkward pauses are a given, but it’s how you navigate them that makes or breaks the date.
However, if you’re both struggling to find things to say, it could be a sign that there’s no spark.
Silence may also come from an inability to pick up on social cues and react accordingly.
For example, if you’re talking about your family and get no response, it could be because they don’t want to talk about themselves.
Or, they may simply not show interest in what you’re saying. Either way, it’s not a good sign.
3. Rudeness
If your date is rude to the waitstaff or anyone else for that matter, it’s a pretty good sign they’re not very considerate – and that’s not a trait you want in a partner.
You can tell a lot about a person by the way they interact with others, especially strangers.
It’s never OK to treat people like they’re less important than you; if you or your date can’t see that, I doubt if there will be a second date.
No one likes jerks, and no one wants to go on a second date with a jerk.
4. You don’t have any chemistry together
Chemistry is key in any relationship.
Chemistry gives you the motivation you need to put in the work a relationship requires.
If you feel like you’re just going through the motions, and you don’t enjoy their company, you are likely not to see each other again.
They might be a nice person, but they’re not someone you connect with.
Chemistry is hard to define, but it’s easy to tell when it’s missing.
Look for signs of attraction like eye contact, mirroring body language (when they lean in or adjust their posture to match yours), physical touch, and an overall affirmation that this person finds you attractive.
If you find yourself wondering what else is on your Netflix queue on the first date, it shows there is no spark between you two, and without it, you’ll only struggle to be with the person.
And no one deserves that.
5. One-sided conversations
You’re sitting across from someone on a first date, and there’s that awkward silence as you both try to think of something to say.
But then, when your date finally opens their mouth, all you hear is blah, blah, and more blah.
It’s supposed to be a date and not a monologue.
A conversation is supposed to be happening by learning more about the other person and showing genuine interest in their life.
Also, if you’re doing all the talking, it’s a pretty good sign that the other person isn’t interested in having a conversation.
So really, one of the sure-fire signs there will be no second date is when you’re stuck in one-sided conversations where your date can’t stop talking about themselves or you do all the talking.
BORING!
6. Your date is distracted
It’s never a good sign if your date is constantly checking his phone or scanning the room for other people to talk to instead of being fully present in the moment with you.
It shows that he or she isn’t invested in getting to know you and doesn’t see the potential for a relationship.
7. You or your date keep checking your watch
If you’re or your date is constantly looking at the time on the first date, it could mean you’re or they’re bored and thinking about what else you or they could be doing.
8. You’re both playing on your phones
The moment either person starts playing with their phone — checking email, texts, or social media — is the moment the date is over.
If you’re not present and engaged in the conversation, there’s no chance for a second date.
9. You can’t stop yawning
If you find yourself constantly yawning at dinner and not because you’re tired, it’s a sign that you’re bored out of your mind.
It’s natural to be slightly nervous during a first date, but if the feelings of anxiety are stronger than those of excitement, then it could be a red flag that this isn’t the person for you.
So, a second date is not happening.
10. Ignoring your texts or calls
There are a lot of reasons why someone might be late getting back to you, so it’s important to keep that in mind before jumping to hasty conclusions.
Maybe they have a busy job, or they’re bad at responding to texts or calls in general.
But if they never get back to you or give excuses as to why you can’t hang out, there’s a good chance that something went wrong during the first date and they don’t want a second one.
If someone is into you, they will make efforts at communicating with you.
11. Talking about exes
This one is tricky because sometimes it’s necessary to talk about an ex if they have children with them or other extenuating circumstances, but it needs to be brief and positive.
If you spend most of the date bashing your ex, it’s a sign you should break up with yourself before you can expect anyone else to take a chance on you.
12. Talking about exes on the first date
If you’re looking for a relationship, talking about s and how often you have it (or don’t) too early in the game makes it seem like all you care about is s.
You can talk about your desire to get married and how much you enjoy spending time with family.
These are things that can be talked about on a first date.
13. They’re negative or critical
If the person you’re on a date with is critical about everything—from the food at the restaurant to the people around you—to how things are going, then chances are they’re overly negative in life in general.
And if that’s the case, expect them to be negative about other aspects of your life, such as your job or even your friends.
No one wants to be with a negative person.
It’s just so draining.
14. Too much alcohol
Not only does drinking too much alcohol make you unattractive, but it also shows a lack of self-control.
Although some men think that it’s okay for a woman to let her hair down and not hold back on the booze, the reality is that it’s not a good look.
By getting absolutely wasted on the first date, you’re showing your date that you don’t respect yourself enough to be able to control how much you drink.
This also shows that you may have problems with alcohol in general.
The truth is, if you’re drinking more than two glasses of wine or one beer on a first date, you’re drinking too much.
If your date isn’t offering to drive you home after all that booze, then he or she probably doesn’t think highly of you either.
15. One of you is late
If your date arrives late, it could be a sign they don’t respect your time.
Of course, they may just have gotten stuck in traffic or had some other unavoidable delay, so it’s worth giving them the benefit of the doubt.
However, if they show up late without apologizing and explaining themselves, a second date is very unlikely.
16. He checks out other women
A guy who checks out other women while he’s on a date with you is not someone worth having a second date with.
It’s not that he’s not into you, but if he’s already checking out other women in front of you, there’s no telling what else he might do behind your back.
If this happens to you, it doesn’t mean that you’re not good enough, it just means that he’s looking for something else.
Don’t be afraid to ask why, but ultimately the decision is yours to make.
A guy who is interested in you (and thinks there could be a chance of a second date) won’t be paying close attention to other women.
A true gentleman will keep his eyes on you through the whole date unless he’s making small talk with the waiter or bartender.
17. His body language was closed off
If the guy you’re on a date with seems closed off, it could be a sign that he’s not interested in you.
Closed-off body language includes crossed arms, leaning away from you, and avoiding eye contact.
If this is the case, it’s one of the signs there will be no second date.
18. They didn’t ask many questions
If the person you’re on a date with doesn’t seem interested in getting to know you by asking questions, it’s probably because they are not interested in seeing you again.
19. He didn’t ask for your number or give you his
If the guy you’re on a date with doesn’t ask for your number or give you his, it’s probably because he’s not interested in seeing you again.
Most guys will at least offer to exchange numbers in case there’s a second date in the future.
If he doesn’t do this, it’s likely because he’s not interested and you can move on.
20. Your gut says no
If your intuition is telling you that there’s no second date in the cards, then trust your gut.
If you’re feeling uncomfortable for any reason—whether it’s because the guy is being too pushy or because you just don’t vibe with him—then it’s probably not going to work out.
Likewise, if you’re not feeling particularly excited about the date, that’s a sign that things aren’t headed in the right direction.
21. Questionable hygiene
If your date smells bad, you’ll probably not want to experience them again.
Bad hygiene can be a major turnoff.
If your date doesn’t seem to care about their appearance or smell, there’s a good chance they won’t care about you either.
22. They canceled at the last minute
If your date cancels on you at the last minute, it might be a sign that they’re not interested in seeing you again or something indeed came up.
If the latter is the case, they will make efforts to make it up to you by asking for a second date.
It’s disrespectful to cancel on someone without any notice, and it shows that the person isn’t considerate enough to think about your time.
23. You didn’t have fun
If you’re not having fun on a date, it’s probably not going to lead to a second one.
Fun can mean different things to different people, but generally speaking, if you’re not laughing and enjoying yourself, then you’re probably not having a good time.
24. There was no talk about a second date
If the date goes really well, it’s customary for the guy to ask about a second date.
This is a clear sign that he’s interested in seeing you again.
If the conversation doesn’t come up, or the guy seems noncommittal, it might be because he’s not interested.
These are some of the many signs there will be no second date.
Pay close attention to your date’s behavior, words, and body language to get a better idea of where things stand.
If you’re not getting the right signals, there probably won’t be a second date.
Don’t give up.
True love will find you.
